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theliothelio Posts: 5,374Registered Users
I volunteer for the Washington Humane society, and on June 2nd I'm working at the annual Bark Ball:

Bark Ball 2012 - Washington Humane Society

Its a black tie event, but I will be working. I did advice on the dress I plan tp wear.

This is my dress I plan to wear, but its black:

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My question is, is it appropriate for a black tie event? Or should I find something more formal?

TIA
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  • wonderdiana - shopaholic takes a napwonderdiana - shopaholic takes a nap Posts: 1,728Registered Users
    That's way too casual for a black tie event in my opinion. I'd find something else.
    2C/3A -- wurly!
  • The New BlackThe New Black Posts: 16,738Registered Users
    Way too casual (and too short IMO).
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  • theliothelio Posts: 5,374Registered Users
    Way too casual (and too short IMO).

    The model in 5'8, i'm 5'0. Its not that short on me.

    Thanks for the input, i'll keep looking.
  • wonderdiana - shopaholic takes a napwonderdiana - shopaholic takes a nap Posts: 1,728Registered Users
    Way too casual (and too short IMO).

    Yes, definitely. Black tie usually means long gown, no?
    2C/3A -- wurly!
  • theliothelio Posts: 5,374Registered Users
    Way too casual (and too short IMO).

    Yes, definitely. Black tie usually means long gown, no?

    I was thinking that too, but I'm going to be working, so I didnt want anything to dressy or long tripping me up. There will also be dogs there.

    I have never been to a black tie event and really have no clue on what to wear. I'm also going to be working, and on top of that, I will be dealing with dogs all night. I know I cant wear jeans and a t-shirt, but I was thinking I could dress a little more down then the folks not working. (does that make sense? :scratch:)

    I asked the cordinator and she just said its a night to get pretty.
  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Way too casual (and too short IMO).

    Yes, definitely. Black tie usually means long gown, no?


    No, it can mean cocktail dress.

    eta - look in any magazine at pics of parties where men are wearing tuxes. Check out what the women are wearing. Short dresses are fine for black tie but they need to be dressy...not cotton w/ a drawstring, etc.

  • kaybkayb Posts: 5,054Registered Users
    What is your upper limit thelio?
    I ain't thirsty. There's plenty of fish in the sea, but I don't want all of them, can I have some standards? Or do we just have to settle, for someone's who meh and will do.
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  • theliothelio Posts: 5,374Registered Users
    Way too casual (and too short IMO).

    Yes, definitely. Black tie usually means long gown, no?


    No, it can mean cocktail dress.

    eta - look in any magazine at pics of parties where men are wearing tuxes. Check out what the women are wearing. Short dresses are fine for black tie but they need to be dressy...not cotton w/ a drawstring, etc.

    The dress is satin i think.

    I just looked at some pics from last year, but it helped me none!!! Some wore short dressy dresses (some I could in no way wear and play with dogs at the same time). Some wore longer rather plain dresses. Some dogs wore tuxes!

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    Some ladies wore plainer looking dresses but their accessories dressed it up.

    I have been in my lab coat so long, thats all I know when it comes to fashion. I'm so out of touch!!
  • theliothelio Posts: 5,374Registered Users
    kayb wrote: »
    What is your upper limit thelio?

    You mean, how much I'm willing to spend?? As little as possible:toothy7:

    That dressed costed me $15 from forever 21!
  • kaybkayb Posts: 5,054Registered Users
    Spare another 15 or so?

    I will keep looking on F21, but I do like that one.

    ETA: I didn't link it. Sorry. I found another one I like more.

    /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.forever21.com%2FProduct%2FProduct.aspx%3FBR%3Df21%26amp%3BCategory%3Ddress_little_black_dress%26amp%3BProductID%3D2002928893%26amp%3BVariantID%3D" class="Popup
    I ain't thirsty. There's plenty of fish in the sea, but I don't want all of them, can I have some standards? Or do we just have to settle, for someone's who meh and will do.
    "
  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    How old are you, thelio?

    Do you have a sequinny or rhinestony or otherwise super dressy cardi or wrap or bolero...or dressy statement necklace...and dressy heels...and a dressy clutch or minaudierre?.

    You might be able to pull that off in black. But I would hide the drawstring under a rhinestone brooch or something.

  • wonderdiana - shopaholic takes a napwonderdiana - shopaholic takes a nap Posts: 1,728Registered Users
    15dollarstore.com has some cute party dresses with sequins, rhinestones, bows and such. I'd pick something like that.
    2C/3A -- wurly!
  • AmnerisAmneris Posts: 15,117Registered Users
    I agree that it isn't formal enough for a black tie event. Black tie doesn't have to mean long gown, as spidey said, but it should be a formal dress in terms of fabric, cut etc. Think of the Herve Leger bandage dresses - a one shouldered one in a metallic colour that is perfectly accessorized and that is only knee length can be a stunningly glamorous look. I love that dress you posted for a more casual occassion. I think black makes it look a little more formal but the cut and fabric are still too "breezy." But I agree with spidey that you could try to dress it up a bit. You're a volunteer, you're fairly young, and you shouldn't have to spend money on something you won't wear if you're not in the habit of dressing up. I think if it's a little longer on you and you have nice shoes, clutch, jewellry, wrap, hair and makeup you wouldn't look ridiculously out of place. But if you don't have those, it will probably cost you less to just get a different dress.
    Get used to me. Black, confident, cocky; my name, not yours; my religion, not yours; my goals, my own; get used to me. -Muhammad Ali


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  • theliothelio Posts: 5,374Registered Users
    kayb wrote: »
    Spare another 15 or so?

    I will keep looking on F21, but I do like that one.

    ETA: I didn't link it. Sorry. I found another one I like more.

    Strapless Lace Dress | FOREVER21 - 2002928893

    I saw that dress and thought it was cute. But i'm paranoid about strapless dresses like that because i dont have anything to keep it up. you catch my drift?:confused3:
    How old are you, thelio?

    Do you have a sequinny or rhinestony or otherwise super dressy cardi or wrap or bolero...or dressy statement necklace...and dressy heels...and a dressy clutch or minaudierre?.

    You might be able to pull that off in black. But I would hide the drawstring under a rhinestone brooch or something.

    I'm 29, but when it comes to dressing up for things like this, I'm just lost. i never really had to!

    Alot of things seemed geared to my age group, either looks "too old" or "too young" imo.

    I havent shopped for accessories yet, I was going to this weekend.

    the drawstring, is really not a drawstring. its more like a tie. i was going to wrap it twice so i could tie it in the back. i have a flower pin I could always use to hide it.

    i also have jeweled hair pins i was going to wear. I was going to put my hair in an up due and dress it up with the pins. i got them during prom season.

    15dollarstore.com has some cute party dresses with sequins, rhinestones, bows and such. I'd pick something like that.

    Have you ordered form them? how are they at returns??

    I like this dress, but once again cant promise it wont fall down.
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  • AmnerisAmneris Posts: 15,117Registered Users
    thelio wrote: »
    kayb wrote: »
    Spare another 15 or so?

    I will keep looking on F21, but I do like that one.

    ETA: I didn't link it. Sorry. I found another one I like more.

    Strapless Lace Dress | FOREVER21 - 2002928893

    I saw that dress and thought it was cute. But i'm paranoid about strapless dresses like that because i dont have anything to keep it up. you catch my drift?:confused3:
    How old are you, thelio?

    Do you have a sequinny or rhinestony or otherwise super dressy cardi or wrap or bolero...or dressy statement necklace...and dressy heels...and a dressy clutch or minaudierre?.

    You might be able to pull that off in black. But I would hide the drawstring under a rhinestone brooch or something.

    I'm 29, but when it comes to dressing up for things like this, I'm just lost. i never really had to!

    Alot of things seemed geared to my age group, either looks "too old" or "too young" imo.

    I havent shopped for accessories yet, I was going to this weekend.

    the drawstring, is really not a drawstring. its more like a tie. i was going to wrap it twice so i could tie it in the back. i have a flower pin I could always use to hide it.

    i also have jeweled hair pins i was going to wear. I was going to put my hair in an up due and dress it up with the pins. i got them during prom season.

    15dollarstore.com has some cute party dresses with sequins, rhinestones, bows and such. I'd pick something like that.

    Have you ordered form them? how are they at returns??

    I like this dress, but once again cant promise it wont fall down.
    16120_1_4704_p.jpg

    I like that better but still find it on the casual side unless it is really beautifully accessorized.
    Get used to me. Black, confident, cocky; my name, not yours; my religion, not yours; my goals, my own; get used to me. -Muhammad Ali


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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Haha, I didn't mean for the age question to be a put down. I was just thinking that if you are young (and esp since you are small), you could probably get away w/ a little more casual.

    But if you can't afford to spend a lot of a proper cocktail-ish dress, go cheap but blingy, as tasteful as you can find and modern and sexy. (Sexy NOT slutty.)

    If you go the Goodwill route, plz be careful not to go matronly (esp if you are youngish looking and have a cute figure).

  • theliothelio Posts: 5,374Registered Users
    Amneris wrote: »
    I agree that it isn't formal enough for a black tie event. Black tie doesn't have to mean long gown, as spidey said, but it should be a formal dress in terms of fabric, cut etc. Think of the Herve Leger bandage dresses - a one shouldered one in a metallic colour that is perfectly accessorized and that is only knee length can be a stunningly glamorous look. I love that dress you posted for a more casual occassion. I think black makes it look a little more formal but the cut and fabric are still too "breezy." But I agree with spidey that you could try to dress it up a bit. You're a volunteer, you're fairly young, and you shouldn't have to spend money on something you won't wear if you're not in the habit of dressing up. I think if it's a little longer on you and you have nice shoes, clutch, jewellry, wrap, hair and makeup you wouldn't look ridiculously out of place. But if you don't have those, it will probably cost you less to just get a different dress.

    its such a dilemma because if its too formal i will never wear this dress again! This black dress I could see wearing again. i dont want to look out of place, but i want, no need, to be comfortable, i'm going to be a dog handler, which entails me standing and walking most of the night with a doggie.

    i also tend to have issues with finding appropriate dresses, because i'm so tiny. i'm 5'0 110lbs. i'm also on a budget. GRRRR!! this is a tough one.
  • theliothelio Posts: 5,374Registered Users
    Haha, I didn't mean for the age question to be a put down. I was just thinking that if you are young (and esp since you are small), you could probably get away w/ a little more casual.

    But if you can't afford to spend a lot of a proper cocktail-ish dress, go cheap but blingy, as tasteful as you can find and modern and sexy. (Sexy NOT slutty.)

    If you go the Goodwill route, plz be careful not to go matronly (esp if you are youngish looking and have a cute figure).

    I didnt take the question as a let down. lol.

    I do look young, I still get carded for R rated movies :disgust:. i have had adults ask me why I was not in school! I was on my way to work!
  • The New BlackThe New Black Posts: 16,738Registered Users
    thelio wrote: »
    kayb wrote: »
    Spare another 15 or so?

    I will keep looking on F21, but I do like that one.

    ETA: I didn't link it. Sorry. I found another one I like more.

    Strapless Lace Dress | FOREVER21 - 2002928893

    I saw that dress and thought it was cute. But i'm paranoid about strapless dresses like that because i dont have anything to keep it up. you catch my drift?:confused3:
    How old are you, thelio?

    Do you have a sequinny or rhinestony or otherwise super dressy cardi or wrap or bolero...or dressy statement necklace...and dressy heels...and a dressy clutch or minaudierre?.

    You might be able to pull that off in black. But I would hide the drawstring under a rhinestone brooch or something.

    I'm 29, but when it comes to dressing up for things like this, I'm just lost. i never really had to!

    Alot of things seemed geared to my age group, either looks "too old" or "too young" imo.

    I havent shopped for accessories yet, I was going to this weekend.

    the drawstring, is really not a drawstring. its more like a tie. i was going to wrap it twice so i could tie it in the back. i have a flower pin I could always use to hide it.

    i also have jeweled hair pins i was going to wear. I was going to put my hair in an up due and dress it up with the pins. i got them during prom season.

    15dollarstore.com has some cute party dresses with sequins, rhinestones, bows and such. I'd pick something like that.

    Have you ordered form them? how are they at returns??

    I like this dress, but once again cant promise it wont fall down.
    16120_1_4704_p.jpg
    That dress is too young, I think.
    montage-3.gif No MAS.

    I am the new Black.

    "Hope the Mail are saving space tomorrow for Samantha Brick's reaction piece on the reactions to her piece about the reactions to her piece." ~ Tweet reposted by Rou.
  • The New BlackThe New Black Posts: 16,738Registered Users
    montage-3.gif No MAS.

    I am the new Black.

    "Hope the Mail are saving space tomorrow for Samantha Brick's reaction piece on the reactions to her piece about the reactions to her piece." ~ Tweet reposted by Rou.
  • theliothelio Posts: 5,374Registered Users
    I like the way these look. Very flowy. i can move in orde to run after a dog. but no way i could afford the price. :sad1:

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  • The New BlackThe New Black Posts: 16,738Registered Users
    Ebay?
    montage-3.gif No MAS.

    I am the new Black.

    "Hope the Mail are saving space tomorrow for Samantha Brick's reaction piece on the reactions to her piece about the reactions to her piece." ~ Tweet reposted by Rou.
  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Bc you are petite, you should be able to find tons of stuff at the cheapy mall teeny bopper stores...it is prom/wedding season after all.

    Not suggesting a prom or wedding dress. Just saying, lots of girls and women need dresses, all kinds, this time of year.

    I'm thinking something like a black or jewel tone loose (no waist, NOT form fitting) just-above-the-knee, knit tank dress w/ rhinestones. You see them all day long at Deb, FXXI, Maurice's, even H&M.

  • damsel_flydamsel_fly Posts: 457Registered Users
    tape to keep your clothing from moving:
    Amazon.com: Braza Flash Tape (1009): Clothing

    I recommend checking out the second hand stores. Look in all size ranges. If you can sew, you may be able to alter a large size gown into something special. I've found dresses and sweaters with great appliques or sequined areas that can be re-used.

    In general, I actually seem to find great clothing when I'm browsing and not shopping for a specific event. Especially at end of season sales.

    A long skirt, dressy blouse, and nice jewellery might work. DSC_1654 | Flickr - Photo Sharing!
  • scrillsscrills Posts: 6,700Registered Users
    I'm not much bigger than you (5'0", 120lbs) and recently had the same issue. I found something at Dillards. juniors dresses were 40% off.

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  • The New BlackThe New Black Posts: 16,738Registered Users
    This link just popped up on my screen (I guess because I was Googling formal dresses for you earlier): Elegant One Shoulder Formal Gown
    montage-3.gif No MAS.

    I am the new Black.

    "Hope the Mail are saving space tomorrow for Samantha Brick's reaction piece on the reactions to her piece about the reactions to her piece." ~ Tweet reposted by Rou.
  • redcelticcurlsredcelticcurls Posts: 17,502Registered Users
    scrills wrote: »
    I'm not much bigger than you (5'0", 120lbs) and recently had the same issue. I found something at Dillards. juniors dresses were 40% off.

    03755195_zi_royal_blue?$c7thumb$

    03747298_zi?$c7thumb$

    03760520_zi?$c7thumb$

    03785706_zi?$c7thumb$

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    Those a cute in a club way, but, isn't mid thigh kind of short for black tie?


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  • The New BlackThe New Black Posts: 16,738Registered Users
    Yeah, those don't look "black tie" to me.^^^
    montage-3.gif No MAS.

    I am the new Black.

    "Hope the Mail are saving space tomorrow for Samantha Brick's reaction piece on the reactions to her piece about the reactions to her piece." ~ Tweet reposted by Rou.
  • theliothelio Posts: 5,374Registered Users
    This link just popped up on my screen (I guess because I was Googling formal dresses for you earlier): Elegant One Shoulder Formal Gown

    I like that one, but not the color.
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