How to manage my mixed race hair?

MixedGoldiLocksMixedGoldiLocks Registered Users Posts: 63
Hey curlies, sooo I have an issue. I'm Native American, Black, and White, I'm 12 years old, and was never taught how to take care of my mixed race hair :( My hair is 3b at the waaay back, and 3c everywhere else. The front sides of my hair get very frizzy though, and I'm transitioning. My hair is mostly curly, now though :). But i don't know what to do with it!! My aunt has been putting it into two french braids, but I want more of an option. Ive tried things like mini twists or braids, but my hair takes after my mom's (who is also mixed, she just looks white) which is really soft and silky-like, so it frizzes up and looks messy within a week .:( I don't know what to do! I have about 3 1/2 of straight ends left, and I'm not allowed to cut it off... What can I do with it in the meantime? I want something different than just french braids :/ Please help, thanks! God bless ^-^


  • marissadv12marissadv12 Registered Users Posts: 6
    Hi! It sounds like we have very similar hair, and what helped me was to moisturize, moisturize, moisturize!!! I do deep conditioning treatments two times a week and my curls look SO good and there is hardly any frizz.

    Check out all of this girls videos on youtube, she was my lifesaver!!!:

    layanmahshi - YouTube

    Hope it helps!
  • yyyyyyyy Registered Users Posts: 8
    Hey use leave in conditioner w/distill water, get a protein treatment every once a month! Keep your hair moisturized! Hey answer my question! I am new here!:reindeer:
  • MsChelleeMsChellee Registered Users Posts: 5
    I know exactly where your coming from, I'm mixed too ( Black and white ) and was never really taught how to take care of my curly hair ( i have all textures from 2c to 3c on my head ) until I took it upon myself (I'm 16 now) to learn. this is what i did then and mostly do now :

    - wash my hair ( once or twice a week )
    - then i detangle while in the shower with a wide tooth comb and conditioner in my hair and keep hair detangled while rinsing out the conditioner
    - deep condition
    - and then after rinsing out the conditioner i make sure my hair is damp, and i section it off into about 10 sections and working one section at a time distribute a leave in, twist the section and secure it with a perm rod or flexi rod until its completely dry
    - after hair is dry just untwist fluff a lil and there you go :) just retwist at night to maintain and dont for get to add a bit more leave in while retwisting

  • SammySingallySammySingally Registered Users Posts: 131
    I'm mixed too (black and white). No one in my family had a clue how to take care of my hair so they pretty much used harsh products on it, combed it a whole lot (and dry), pulled at it, then eventually, relaxed it when I was really little. I BC'ed at around 8, then when I had a really big curly afro, my mum got my hair relaxed again and I had my hair relaxed whenever there was a whiff of new growth till a few days before my 14th birthday, when I decided to go natural (I'm 15 now). I had no clue what my natural hair felt or looked like and pics weren't good enough. Plus, I didn't have enough pics with my natural hair.
    ANYWAYS, I have about the closest to the tightest curl pattern I have seen on any other mixed race girl. I have a bit of 3c, some 4a, 4b and 4c. I have noticed that my curls, however, are WAY different from the curls full blacks have and also WAY different from the curls curlyhaired full whites have, so I don't really treat my hair exactly how any race would. Instead, I try to look for what works for my hair. HOWEVER, I think that if you want to see a hair stylist, or you just want to buy some product for you hair, you should opt for products for people with mixed or fully-black hair and go to black salons because believe they should be more experienced with kinky or curly hair (but loads aren't, I'm sorry to say), or opt for products that have the word 'curly' on them.
    By the way, I'm CG. My hair has looked and felt so much better since I went CG. Maybe you should try that too.

    Okay! here's what I do:
    1. I wash my hair with my homemade scalp cleansers, scrubs, conditioners...

    2. Sometimes, about 2-3 times a month, after washing, I get a bit of my oil mix, never more than a 1p to 50p coin size, onto my hands, rub it together between my palms and work it into my hair then get about a 1p coin size of shea butter and then work that into my hair too. Note that I'm doing all this on wet to damp hair.

    3. I always air dry.

    4. Sometimes, I get my hair in twists, twists and bantu knots, rope twists and bantu knots, or just bantu knots till my hair dries.

    5. Low maintenance is the key.

    6. I try to keep my hands out of my hair as much as possible.

    7. I always deep condition overnight on Fridays (and wash on Saturdays).

    8. I have my hair in braids for 5 days every week.

    9. When my hair's not in braids, it's usually in a bun or puff.

    10. When I'm going for a run, I leave my hair out, but I hold it away from my face and neck with a head band sorta thing. It's like a sweatband for the head, but not really.

    11. I use bottled water on my hair as I consider tap a tad bit too hard. Plus, from the first week I tried bottled water, my hair has loved it, looked and felt a whole lot better.

    12. I finger detangle my hair every Friday night (when I take my flat-braids down). Sometimes, I section my hair and get a wide toothed comb through each section to make sure they're all thoroughly detangled and all shed hair is removed.

    13. I flat braid most of the time, my hair looks better and is less frizzy in that state, plus there's less manipulation.

    14. I only use natural/organic products/things on my hair. For now, everything I use is homemade, but by summer, I'm going to stock up on BeeMine products because I know I'm going to be sooo busy from September till May (school - GCSEs...). I can recommend the BeeMine products to any mixed race or curly haired girl. I have seen great results in the hair of every girl I've seen that uses their products.

    15. Always wrap your hair up with a satin scarf or bonnet before you sleep. Or you could just get satin sheets and a satin pillow case and sleep with those if you don't like things on your head or they fall off.

    16. Curly hair longs for moisture so, a daily spritz of bottled or distilled water should help.

    17. Hope this helped :)
    Things I use: Olive Oil, Canola oil, rosemary oil, aloe vera gel, shea butter, mayonnaise, eggs, milk, bananas

    Everything I use is 100% natural. I make most of them myself because then I'm sure what's in it and I'm sure nothing's added, it's pure, it's natural.

    Things I avoid: Mineral oil (codename: Baby oil), heat (I'm a total, no hair driers, no straighteners, no curling irons, no flat irons, no hot combs...nada), sodium chloride

    Growing plan: At least 6 inches longer in a year.
  • ShekinahShekinah Registered Users Posts: 1
    Yea girl. I have different textures on my head too lol and plus I am in a different climate from you. I am from trinidad and tobago. (go anya ayoung-chee!) lol. Well I have to admit that I find americans do not style their hair as much as us West Indians. They either always have it loose or in a bun, ponytail yada yada yada. So can I suggest something that we do? You might have to learn if you don't know how to style your hair so tho. cane row the front of your hair n leave the back loose like alicia keys. if i starts to frizz just wet it slightly and put some product in it. also plait your hair in cane rows the night before in the direstion you want to style it in for the morning to tame the curls a bit while u sleep. Headbands! messy buns with curls stickin out!
  • MixedGoldiLocksMixedGoldiLocks Registered Users Posts: 63
    Thanks everyone!!! Thanks soooo much I appreciate it alot! My mom is mixed but looks white, and my dad is a quarter Indian but looks black! Haha so I'm not half and half, but I have big amounts of Indian and white and black :) they're all the main ones
  • mixedchicka856mixedchicka856 Registered Users Posts: 1
    I stead of cutting your hair, you can put about 7-10 china bumps/nots in your hair at night. Take them out in the am and you will havw nicw curls. Also to continue to trim your ends:afro:
  • KiraSavannahKiraSavannah Registered Users Posts: 423
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    Weekly Poo/Low Poo: some Shea M Poo.
    Weekly Deep Treat-Dermorganic Intensive Hair Masque
    Bi-Weekly RO:Tresseme Naturals - V.Smooth/N.Moisture
    Daily Leave in:Shea Moisture Extra Moisture Detangler
    Daily Oil: Olive Oil & Conut Oil Mix
    Daily Styler: Shea Moisture Curl & Style Milk
  • Litanna23Litanna23 Registered Users Posts: 7
    OMG don't do it!!! you have my hair and TRUST ME, short is not for us. I know how you feel. My mom would braid my hair and after day two she had to tighten them because of frizz and strays. And having mixed hair plus mixed hair TYPE can suck because you have to find middle-ground things. SO try to:
    buy some deep conditioners and strong ones. Even if they aren't that expensive. I use Dove with Argon oil and Garnier Frutis sleek and Shine.
    Wash your hair almost daily BUT don't use shampoo. Shampoo on weekends with shampoos that don't use harsh chemicals and NO sulfates. Instead, just condition. When you finish, leave a small amount of conditioner in your hair still. Our hair needs moisture otherwise it frizzes.
    If you want a certain look, even a ponytail, Do it in the shower. Your hair is more manageable wet than anything else.
    Use a vent brush. Not a comb, or a boar brush. The vent brush is small enough for boar brush but wide enough for comb. Start from the ends of your hair and go up gently. Your curls will fall into place if you do it in the shower. The vents are meant for air and to dry your hair, but in the shower, it spread the water around.
    If you wanna go with no real "style" and just let your hair go, after showering, run a bit of realllly strong gel [i use aussie extra strength] through your hair. Then shake it like a disney princess. The curls will fall into place and while some might frizz, the gel will keep long strong locks intact and you look like you are some curl queen.
  • frequencyskyefrequencyskye Registered Users Posts: 1
    i'm in the same boat, (native, black, white) and from a family who had no clue what to do with my hair. I love my curls but it took me years to grow into them/learn to tame & treat them.

    Shampoo twice a week with a moisturizing shampoo, leave conditioner in for duration of shower or bath before rinsing. use wide tooth combs for detangling. leave in conditioner and moisturizing creams and gels with frizz control for styling. make sure when you comb your hair you're getting all the breakaways or loose hair out. it gets caught up in your curls and creates knots that cause breakage.
  • imcuban18imcuban18 Registered Users Posts: 1
    Ok My dad is Cuban, Mexican, German, And Native American and my mom is black and my hair type is mostly wavy but it gets curly at the bottom. I sometimes wash and condition it than put it in a bun because I was told by my salon lady not to straigthen it anymore because it is so damaged. The reason it's damaged is because I would always get relaxers as a child and my hair broke off, plus I use to straigthen it all the time. Anyways i want to know How i can grow my hair out and how I can help it become healthy again. What products and things can I do so that I won't have to straighten it for it not to look crazy. What products can i use so that my hair will not frizz up after a couple hours in school? I know I could use leave in conditioner, but what else can I use so that my hair will look cute in school? If you know ways to help me restore my hair back and to help it grow please answer my questions. Thank you.

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