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Embarrassing topic but a 13 yr teen needs desperate advice!:0

Athenacurly:)Athenacurly:) Posts: 94Registered Users
Okay so Iam 13 and I got my period and it has so far been ruining my life:( I am scared to use a tampon because it might hurt and when I use pads it always leaks through and Iam too nervous to do my ballet because it might leak through my white tights and at school I feel like everyone is staring at my bottoms... I really wanna go to camp this summer because it's my last summer for being a kid before I go into highschool but my period is off track and iam scared iam gonna get it during camp and when I wake up I always bleed right through:s please give me advice:'(
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  • crazycurlychickcrazycurlychick Posts: 344Registered Users
    Hey Girly I'm a few years older than you and just wanted to let you know tampons don't hurt to bad and if u try small ones first they don't hurt at all if u try them try u by Kotex first I went to camp once with my period it was horrible
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  • CurlyCanadianCurlyCanadian Posts: 10,780Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Do you have tampons already? If not, buy some junior/lite (or have someone buy them for you) and read the directions all the way through. The positions may sound strange, but try them out (without the tampon, just to see whats most comfortable), they really do make it easier. I've always found sitting on the edge of something helps, my sister swears by lifting one leg up.

    Try and relax as much as possible...I know, easier said then done! Maybe when no one is home, right after a bath. And just give it a shot. It may not work the first time, you may go through a few trying to get it comfortable.

    Honestly...it really doesn't hurt and when it's in, you won't even feel it!

    If you're not comfortable though, just use pads and change them frequently if you're afraid of leaks. At this point you're still figuring out lite and heavy days, so carry a few pads with you and change it as often as you feel necessary.

    Good luck and try not to worry! It really will be second nature in no time :)
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  • HropkeyHropkey Posts: 572Registered Users
    A lot of women on this board use something called a menstrual cup, which tends to last longer than both tampons and pads, is eco friendly, and can be used when you swim/dance. There's definitely a learning curve to it, though, as with tampons.

    I was dancing when I first got my period too, and it was definitely nerve wracking for the first couple years cause I didn't know when it was going to happen because I was so irregular. Tampons definitely have a learning curve to them, but they were a lifesaver during dance/swim season, and you might find that you prefer tampons or a menstrual cup due to ease of use.

    Also, relax! I promise you're not the only girl at your school who's gotten her period, and in a year or two everyone will have caught up and be having their period. It's something we go through as women, and yes, it does suck to have a heavy period. But think of it this way: you're growing up! Embrace it. =)
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  • Athenacurly:)Athenacurly:) Posts: 94Registered Users
    Thank you so much:) I really appreciate it :D maybe I will give it a shot ummm I know this is a really weird (topic) question but I heard a few people talking about "popping" your cherry an please don't laugh Ian not quite sure what that is but my friend said that when you stick something up there it cann pop this thing and bleed even more
  • LisaLisaLisaLisa Posts: 42Registered Users
    I used to compete in gymnastics with really heavy periods, so I kind if feel your pain. One thing that really helped with that is taking two ibuprofen about an hour before. It helps some girls to get a lighter flow. It really helped for me. And try tampons like the others said. Once you get used to them, they ate a lifesaver! Good Luck!
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  • LisaLisaLisaLisa Posts: 42Registered Users
    "ATE a LIFESAVER"!!! LOL Darn u autocorrect! Are a lifesaver. ;)
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  • Athenacurly:)Athenacurly:) Posts: 94Registered Users
    Thank you!!!! You guys are more supportive than my parents ! And any one know the popped cherry thing?:$
  • CurlyCanadianCurlyCanadian Posts: 10,780Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Not funny at all! That's a worry for a lot of young ladies :)

    "Popping your cherry" (I'm surprised this term is still being used!) refers to your hymen breaking, for a long time thought to have happened during sex. While it may happen during sex, a lot of young women tear it during sports or tampon use.

    If you did bleed (not all women do) it would be a minimal amount and not noticed at all during your period.
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  • Athenacurly:)Athenacurly:) Posts: 94Registered Users
    Thanks that make sense and does it hurt?
  • LisaLisaLisaLisa Posts: 42Registered Users
    You might feel it, but it shouldn't be a huge pain.
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  • CurlyCanadianCurlyCanadian Posts: 10,780Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Honestly, I have no idea when it happened!

    The first time I had sex it didn't hurt. I had been riding horses for years though and had a number of falls (forward on a saddle going over a 4 ft jump certainly hurt!) so it may have happened then.
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  • Athenacurly:)Athenacurly:) Posts: 94Registered Users
    Thanks that makes me not as scared and I ride horses too have been show jumping since I was like 7 my period defiantly put a damper in that bride English but the camp I wanted to go to is a western trail riding camp
  • CurlyCanadianCurlyCanadian Posts: 10,780Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Oh sweetie...I totally feel your pain! At least now they have breeches in darker colours! When I was your age, they were all beige and it was a nightmare!!!!

    I would try out the tampons and see what you think. Riding with a pad was so uncomfortable, its what made me figure them out quickly!!!
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  • Athenacurly:)Athenacurly:) Posts: 94Registered Users
    Yes I know right i tried it :s I guess my best bet it a tampon thank you so much :D I reAlly do appreciate it getting support from other girls makes me feel alot better and yeah iam not the only one in the world with it
  • Jess the MessJess the Mess Posts: 5,844Registered Users
    Do you keep track of your cycle? A simple x on the calendar on your first and last days can really help. Once you can start predicting when your period will start it can help you plan accordingly.




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  • Fifi.GFifi.G Posts: 15,490Registered Users
    Aww :) I remember being so nervous about trying tampons. It takes a little while to get used to the feel, but they are not bad at all. I recently tried U by Kotex's newest tampon. It's the "sleek" with a perfect touch grip (that particular brand comes in black boxes). They do come in light but even the super has a skinny applicator. You might want to give those a try. It's a very easy and comfortable application. It's probably the best tampon I have ever used, and I've been using them for 23 years.
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  • ChikyuuChikyuu Posts: 268Registered Users
    In my experience, tampons are like glasses. I got both when I was around 12, and at first they kind of bug you because you DO feel them, it's not painful, but you know it's there. But in time you come to get used to them. Also, Aleve is my favorite pain reliever. That and hot water bottles or heating pads applied to the stomach. I also can't live without tampons......
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  • Aussie_DogAussie_Dog Posts: 27Registered Users
    One thing that will NOT help is taking Aspirin. Maybe for most people, it's okay, but for at least SOME people, it's a horrible mistake. Aspirin is a blood thinner, and sometimes when you take it during your period, the flow gets HEAVY and lasts longer. Ask me how I figured this out, lol.

    I took a shower, then got dressed (putting on a pad) at, say, 11:30am. A couple of hours later, when I got to work, I went straight to the bathroom, just to check on things (I've been going through periods for 12 years and I still don't trust them, lol). I found I'd overflowed the pad and practically flooded everywhere. It went right through my pants in a very obvious, frontal area. Where I work, pants are tan/beige, and I have to be on my feet all day with shirts tucked in. But praise Jesus! I just happened to have a backup pair of pants in my locker (which NEVER happens, but I made sure to always have a backup since this incident). I was cramping really bad, though, and kept having to run to the bathroom to vomit, so I got to go home a couple of hours later. I felt like I was dying. I think they figured I had the flu, and I'm still not comfortable talking about periods, so I didn't bother telling them any different. Anyway, this was the first time this had happened, so I did some reading and realized the Aspirin I'd taken that morning was the culprit. Since Aspirin betrayed me, I won't use it for even a headache (did you know that taking Aspirin can even bring forth your period a few days sooner? No thank you.)

    Horror stories aside, all you can do is wait for experience to tell you what to expect. I know the early years are usually unpredictable and not on schedule. You can go months without a period, and then have a 2 week break between periods for another couple of months. Cheer yourself by remembering that the creep girls at school are going through the same thing.
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  • Aussie_DogAussie_Dog Posts: 27Registered Users
    Also, some girls go through vomiting during periods. For the most part, that's caused by the rapid blood loss, when your body is getting low in Iron. I don't eat meat, so once in a while, I'll get really nauseous (cramps and nausea do NOT go together, BTW). If you faithfully take Iron or B12 supplements for a week or so before your period starts, you should feel a LOT better. I've also heard that Magnesium (again, taken for about a week before the period starts) helps relieve the severity of cramps. It's supposed to be some sort of muscle relaxer. Some people who suffer from migraines take it. I personally haven't tried it, even though I bought a bottle a while ago. I have terrible follow-through, thus why I end up still having vomiting periods now and then, lol
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  • theliothelio Posts: 5,374Registered Users
    ibuprofen has been show to lighten up periods. You should learn to track your period. If you just started I know how hard that can be. When I first started, I came on for a couple months, then stopped for a whole year!!! i kinda freaked and thought i went through really early menapause or something. But this is pretty normal. it took a few years before i period became normal, now i can tell way in advance before it comes. A couple days before I take an ibuprofen and every morning after that. helps with cramps and lighter periods. i have very heavy periods and very busy lifestyle so i cant let mother nature get in the way.

    Also try to avoid caffiene, it can also be you enemy at that time of the month.
  • irociroc Posts: 7,890Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I know, when you first get your period it does ruin your life! But pretty soon you get used to it and it's just part of your life. After a certain age every woman around you gets her period. Theres no reason to be embarrassed. We all belong to the same club.

    Tampons are way better than pads. Get some light, or slim ones, and stand with one leg on the toilet. The
    Insert in the box of tampons gives you some position suggestions. It'll take some practice but you'll get it. Carry some extra tampons or pads in a little makeup case or pencil case in your bag. And make sure you check at the end of your period to make sure youve removed your last one.

    The tampon will not get lost, or stuck up there. If you cant get it out, leave it and try again later. A dry tampon can hurt pulling out. Popping your cherry is just some gross sexist term about the last of your hymen (the thin skin around your vagina) tearing away. You probably wont even notice it.



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  • WillowWillow Posts: 46Registered Users
    Oh girl, I totally know where you are coming from. I feel for you. My periods were torture for me when I was young. My mother used washcloths most of the time and thought I should too apparently as she hardly ever bought pads. Finally, we were on vacation and my cousin was with us and I got my period while we were away and she bought me some tampons and "walked" me through the whole process. Changed my life, I tell you. I felt such incredible relief. No more worrying, leaking, etc.

    Don't be afraid. It becomes second nature after the first few times. Just make sure that you insert it far enough as it will hurt if you don't. It's easily remedied though, just go back and push it up a little further. Also, do get the smaller ones at first. You may need to change them more more often but when you get used to the whole process, you can switch to more absorbent ones.

    Good luck!
  • emthefantasticalemthefantastical Posts: 962Registered Users
    This is an important video to watch about the hymen and the "cherry popping" idea. I'm 22 and tend to think I'm fairly knowledgeable when it comes to sex-ed type things, and I kind of had the old idea of something had to "pop your cherry" but I'm glad I've seen this video. As a very young woman who has just started her period, this is something good for you to watch.

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  • DevushkaDevushka Posts: 1,080Registered Users
    Using tampons (the really slim ones in your case) AND an ultrathin maxipad (I swear by Always brand) as a backup has worked for me for years on heavy flow days, without leaving me with any accidents. You just have to change them regularly/frequently, (which makes things more comfortable overall anyway).

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  • Athenacurly:)Athenacurly:) Posts: 94Registered Users
    Thank you so much everybody it's been so hard to track Ian starting to feel hopeless but thanks so much for all the support it really helped me out!:D quick question is it okay to practice putting a tampon in even when your not obvious period ?
  • mopsymopsy Posts: 153Registered Users
    Thank you so much everybody it's been so hard to track Ian starting to feel hopeless but thanks so much for all the support it really helped me out!:D quick question is it okay to practice putting a tampon in even when your not obvious period ?

    I was going to suggest this. That's how I learned! I think I only had to do it once or twice, just to (literally) get a feel for it - the angle, the pressure, how far - without the worry of dealing with the period itself. A larger, "super" tampon may be a little uncomfortable to insert. Just take a deep breath, then exhale slowly as you insert it. Once it's in, you probably won't feel it at all. And then, you may forget it, which is why I will also recommend using a panty liner as well ;-)

    I am concerned though about a comment you made upthread, implying that your parents are not supportive. I understand your father disappearing when/if the subject comes up, but I hope your mother is there for you. (You don't need to reply to this - I'm just concerned about young women who may not have someone to show them the way :angel9:)
  • Athenacurly:)Athenacurly:) Posts: 94Registered Users
    Well yeah my mom I she just tells me to toughen up and she doesn't really understand my concern for when she sends me todance in my white rights:0 it's hard to explain to her...
  • Athenacurly:)Athenacurly:) Posts: 94Registered Users
    Okay so I have quite a but of questions if you lovely ladies have the answers I would be happy to hear them:)
    1- can I wear a tampon while I pee?
    2- do the tampons leak like pads?
    3- how rarely do you need to change
    4-can a tampon get stuck?:0
    5- how far in should a tampon go?
    6- can I wear one while Ian not on my period to get used to the feel?
    7- can I wear it while I sleep?
    8- are tampons dangerous at all?
    9- I don't understand the examples on the box how to use a plastic inserter?
    10-can tampons fall out???
  • Athenacurly:)Athenacurly:) Posts: 94Registered Users
    Thanks it's most appreciated :)
  • CurlyCanadianCurlyCanadian Posts: 10,780Registered Users Curl Connoisseur

    1- can I wear a tampon while I pee?
    Yes
    2- do the tampons leak like pads?
    Depends. Took me awhile to figure out how to get it in just right (after fully inserted, I pull on the string lightly until it feels snug), but if I'm really heavy it's sometimes still an issue.
    3- how rarely do you need to change
    2-8 hours depending on how heavy your period is
    4-can a tampon get stuck?:0
    It can, but it's very unlikely
    5- how far in should a tampon go?
    You won't be able to put it in too far
    6- can I wear one while Ian not on my period to get used to the feel?
    I've never tried, but would assume it would be uncomfortable going in without the lubrication of your period
    7- can I wear it while I sleep?
    Yep! If you're period is really heavy, you may want to wear a pad as back up
    8- are tampons dangerous at all?
    As long as you change it regularly (4-6 hrs) you'll be fine.
    9- I don't understand the examples on the box how to use a plastic inserter?
    Have you pulled one out and looked at it? The applicator makes inserting easier (smooth, as opposed to the actual tampon). Once the tampon is in, you pull the applicator out and discard it. Easier to understand if you've looked at one. Maybe make a fist and "practice" in your hand with one?
    10-can tampons fall out???
    Very unlikely if inserted far enough! Your vaginal muscles will keep it in place till you pull it out.
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