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spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
When someone is not direct or forthright? When their communication is vague or ambiguous or intentionally confusing?

I know a guy who always gives very general, vague or equivocal responses when asked for his opinion on something.

He never wants to commit to any particular POV or go out on a limb and have to defend a position someone else won't agree with.

He often says he knows someone or something well, or remembers an event, when he doesn't.

Does this trait have a name?

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  • The New BlackThe New Black Posts: 16,738Registered Users
    evasive
    disengenuous
    duplicitous
    noncomittal
    wishy-washy
    mealy-mouthed
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  • SunshineGrrlSunshineGrrl Posts: 3,823Registered Users
    I just say people like that are vapid. No real views of their own because they don't care to have their own opinions.

    Or chameleons. They adapt their thoughts and opinions to the people they're around to fit in. Or because they haven't been in environment where they learn to think for themselves and stand up for what they believe in. They think they're being supportive or a relaxed, soothing personality when they really don't know what they want or what they're talking about.

  • scrillsscrills Posts: 6,700Registered Users
    Obtuse
  • nynaeve77nynaeve77 Posts: 7,135Registered Users
    evasive
    disengenuous
    duplicitous
    noncomittal
    wishy-washy
    mealy-mouthed
    Sounds like these three words would describe him best, based on your description.
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    I call people like that: deliberately obtuse
  • irociroc Posts: 7,890Registered Users
    I call him my ex husband.

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  • secret_karmasecret_karma Posts: 438Registered Users
    iroc wrote: »
    I call him my ex husband.

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  • secret_karmasecret_karma Posts: 438Registered Users
    Passive aggressive

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  • HomeGrownHairGirlHomeGrownHairGirl Posts: 296Registered Users
    I would call it passive-aggressive as well.
  • wavyblondewavyblonde Posts: 1,637Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I'd call him a fence-sitter. It's not a fancy term, but it conveys that not only is he not taking a position, but he's deliberately being non-committal, possibly to either be able to play both sides, or to avoid offending either side.
    fence sitter
    n. Informal
    One who takes a position of neutrality or indecision, as in a controversial matter.
    fence-sitting (fnsstng) n.

    It's also possible he genuinely doesn't have a horse in many races. I don't get too heated about a lot of issues, because I can see both sides, or because I just am not that invested in a particular issue, and haven't given it a lot of thought. Or I feel like I need MUCH more information to make an informed opinion.
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  • damsel_flydamsel_fly Posts: 457Registered Users
    Maybe he's just very insecure.
  • irociroc Posts: 7,890Registered Users
    Passive aggressive.

    And probably a sneak and a liar.

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  • parislarueparislarue Posts: 235Registered Users
    iroc wrote: »
    I call him my ex husband.

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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    parislarue wrote: »
    iroc wrote: »
    I call him my ex husband.

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    LOL

    I know...lol

  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    damsel_fly wrote: »
    Maybe he's just very insecure.

    That was my hunch but couldn't say exactly why.

    Why does this make someone insecure in your opinion?

    Why does it take "security" to say "I like the blue dress...that's fine that your mom and six of your friends like the orange dress...but I still like the blue dress?"

    Why does it take security to say, "You told me last week you're training for a marathon? I'm sorry; I didn't remember. But if you say you told me, then OK, I believe that you told me."

    What thing happened in their formative years to make them so "mealy mouthed?" LOL