Conditioner kills my waves. Help!
Hi all! I've been lurking for a little bit and decided to finally post, maybe some of you lovely wavies can give me some advise. Up until recently I've thought my hair was mostly straight with a few waves and spirals near my ears. I've been co-washing for about 2 weeks, and used a sulfate free shampoo for my roots the other day. What I've been noticing is that if I do a water only rinse, my hair dries with about 3x the wave. I've been using Suave tropical coconut and almond and Shea butter. I tried the V05 key lime clarifying conditioner which left my hair dry and mane n tail original. The only thing that really brings out the wave (which is tight and even starts at the roots when I do this) is just plain cold water which makes me think I'm rinsing out too-heavy conditioner. Am I over conditioning or should I switch to a lighter conditioner? My hair is thick and course with some damage from color and heat styling which I no longer subject my hair to. I'm not 100% on the type yet, this is all pretty new to me. I can't plop as my hair is just above shoulder length and gets wonky. I've tried Fructis root boost because it's a light spray gel but i believe it has cones, so I switched to Suave aloe vera frizz free gel. I'm thinking i should co-wash less (i've been doing every other day at least) and do water only rinses for the non-washing days. I've always been aware of some wave but there's way more than I thought and I'm at a loss as to how to even manage it.