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Desperate for Hair Help!

I've been searching for an answer to my problem for YEARS and am starting to feel like I'll never find a solution. At this point I will take ANY advice! Well, for a little background on my hair, I am 50% Italian, but have received 100% of the Italian physical features. In other words, thick, crazy hair. It's not the thickest hair I've seen, but still thick by most standards. It straightens with a flat iron very easily (which is how I always wear my hair) and is shiny and healthy when I do so. My problem is, I don't want to keep straightening my hair!! I use lots of product, so it's not as damaged as it could be (yet... I'm 19). However, in the summer time, I love going swimming and going to the beach. But I DREAD what my hair will look like afterwards. After swimming or after I shower my hair gets HUGE. I'm talking 1980's massive. I let it air dry after showers (I haven't used a hair dryer in years) and it's pretty long (to my chest/middle of my back.) It's not curly either. If I had curls, this poof would seem reasonable. It's just slightly wavy and kinky. When I ask this question everyone either says "you're lucky you have volume!" or "you just need frizz serums". That's NOT the problem though! It's WAY too much volume for my 5'1" frame. And it's not frizzy either, it's just big and puffy. So my question is: Do you know of any products that you swear by that can help tame this poof? I feel like I've tried everything!!! I'm dying for that natural beachy hair everyone looks forward to having in the summer. I don't want to keep hiding my hair in ponytails if it's not straight! :protest:

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  • curlisue1curlisue1 Posts: 491Registered Users
    When you let it dry naturally do you put any products in? Like any type if hair gel? My daughter has long thick wavy hair and she can usually tame the poof with some leave in conditioner and some gel. Also do you have layers or is it all one length?
  • kathymackkathymack Posts: 9,999Registered Users
    Sounds like a lot of us experienced when we were your age and had long hair and didn't use products. I suspect that if you learned about your hair--got a good haircut with appropriate layers, used the right products and techniques--you'd have beautiful wavy/curly hair.

    Here's a link that will help get you started. Live Curly Live Free - Home You need to determine your texture and porosity. You'll want to read, read and read some more. Read the stickies at the top of the forums. Maybe invest in Struttswife's e-book (available on livecurlylivefree website.) It has all the information in one place.

    When you know more about your hair and can tell us, people will be able to give you better advice.
    3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity
    SE PA

    HGs: Anything Sevi; Curly Kinks Satin Roots, Curlycue ReNew and Coil Jam; homemade FSG and okra gel; soap bars; UFD Curly Magic; Botanical Spirits Jellies, CJ Repair Me, Aloe Fix
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
  • DevushkaDevushka Posts: 1,080Registered Users
    Yes, definitely educate yourself about the right haircare for your hair's properties. LiveCurlyLiveFree.com is a good source of information; plus of course NC.com. I would also think about the haircut I had. There are some good curly stylists out there that you could go to (but do bother to really look for a good one and check reviews on them given by other curlies who've had their hair done by them!). I've seen fantastic curls show themselves on people once they got the right cut. HTH. :)

    P.S. It's good you seem to realize that continuing to regularly flatiron your hair would do a lot of damage to it in time.
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]3b / Fine / Low (to Med) Density / Normal Porosity & Elasticity
    Currently Using [*Holy Grails*]
    Cleansers: DC No-Poo / DC Low-Poo / *BaSo & ACV*
    Co-Washes/ROs: CJ Beauticurls Argan & OO / DC OneC / Organicals DC Creme
    Additives: *Silk Amino Acids* / Honeyquat / Fragrance Oils
    LIs (found some!): KCKT / CJ Beauticurls LI / CJ Curl Assurance Smoothing Daily Condish
    DTs: *Coconut Oil* rinses / *Honey*, EVOO, & DC OneC / CJ Curl Rehab
    Sealer: *DM Super Buttercreme*
    Goal: APL Hair
  • PoofyWavesPoofyWaves Posts: 2Registered Users
    Thank you for the advice! I've bought a leave-in conditioner here and there at drug stores, but I guess I'll just have to really study up on different kinds. To answer your questions though: When I let it dry naturally, I put two different kinds of spray leave-in conditioner and that's it. Over the summer, sometimes I'll use different gels, but none have truly worked. Also, when I get my hair cut I get "long layers". I've asked the hair stylists at the salon before what to do for my hair and they've only suggested using a diffuser when I blow dry my hair. I've tried that, but I would like a solution that doesn't put heat on my hair! I'll definitely read into the links you posted. Thank you again!
  • McfrizzyMcfrizzy Posts: 406Registered Users
    PoofyWaves wrote: »
    Thank you for the advice! I've bought a leave-in conditioner here and there at drug stores, but I guess I'll just have to really study up on different kinds. To answer your questions though: When I let it dry naturally, I put two different kinds of spray leave-in conditioner and that's it. Over the summer, sometimes I'll use different gels, but none have truly worked. Also, when I get my hair cut I get "long layers". I've asked the hair stylists at the salon before what to do for my hair and they've only suggested using a diffuser when I blow dry my hair. I've tried that, but I would like a solution that doesn't put heat on my hair! I'll definitely read into the links you posted. Thank you again!

    Long layers are definetly helpful from what I've heard and leave ins can be too. Do you brush your hair when it's dry or use a regular towel with fibers? If so that might be a really big cause of your hairs poofiness. On this site I've learned never to brush my hair after it dries and to use a cotton t-shirt or paper towel to dry my hair. Try showering and then as a final rinse using cold water that helps tool. Then try applying a leave in to soaking wet hair and scrunching in/ raking in your gel or other products. This I've found is really helpful. Also most people comb their hair in the showerwithconditioner in their hair. You might also want to Try a sealer like coconut oil. Finally, does your hair like protein? If so doing protein treatments might really help. Good luck
    Lo-poo:organix Shea butter shampoo
    Co-wash: suave coconut
    Rinse out:GFTN/GVP conditioning balm
    Leave in: GF daily care spray leave in
    Serum-like product: still need one
    Gel:LA looks sport gel/ HESMU,GFPC
    Oils: olive, coconut

    I think I'm normal-overly porous, medium-thick hair(although I see fine hair too), love protein