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Changing your last name.... AHHHH!!!

SpinCycleSpinCycle Posts: 724Registered Users
I got married January 7th and have recently returned from the honeymoon and now I'm having to deal with changing my last name and I'm really stuck. I've done research and asked around, but no one can seem to give me a straight or helpful answer on what to do.

Several sites that I've visited state that you have to contact the Social Security Office first. After visiting their site, it said that:

Documents for a name change: If you need to change your name on your Social Security card, you must show us a recently issued document as proof of your legal name change. Documents Social Security may accept to prove a legal name change include:

Marriage document;
Divorce decree;
Certificate of Naturalization showing a new name; or
Court order for a name change.

On the marriage license, I was instructed to sign my MAIDEN name by the clerk. How is that proof of a name change? Or is it the SS-5 form that I send into the SS office my name change request?

Or was I NOT supposed to sign my maiden name? Ugh, I'm so confused!
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  • Oregano  (formerly babywavy)Oregano (formerly babywavy) Posts: 5,297Registered Users
    Your marriage license will have your maiden name, to show that it's you, but it will also have your husbands name. When you go to get your name changed at the SS office, they don't need any kind of proof of what your name is changing TO, but just who you were before, and your REASON for changing your name. There are only a couple of reasons/times when you are allowed to change your name. They just want to make sure this is one of them.

    When you go in to change your name, you could change it to ANYTHING. Ever seen that episode of Friends? BananaHammock? :lol: Well, you go into the SS office, and fill out a form that just basically asks your date of birth, social, name, what your name is changing TO, and I think they ask some weird stuff like your fathers last name, and birthday and something weird like that - I don't really remember :lol:

    Okay, so then you go up and give them the form, and they just do it all for you. If you want to change anything about your name, this is the time to do it. For instance, I changed my middle name to my maiden name.

    And once you do it at the SS office, you can then do it at the registry.
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  • SpinCycleSpinCycle Posts: 724Registered Users
    babywavy wrote:
    Your marriage license will have your maiden name, to show that it's you, but it will also have your husbands name. When you go to get your name changed at the SS office, they don't need any kind of proof of what your name is changing TO, but just who you were before, and your REASON for changing your name. There are only a couple of reasons/times when you are allowed to change your name. They just want to make sure this is one of them.

    When you go in to change your name, you could change it to ANYTHING. Ever seen that episode of Friends? BananaHammock? :lol: Well, you go into the SS office, and fill out a form that just basically asks your date of birth, social, name, what your name is changing TO, and I think they ask some weird stuff like your fathers last name, and birthday and something weird like that - I don't really remember :lol:

    Okay, so then you go up and give them the form, and they just do it all for you. If you want to change anything about your name, this is the time to do it. For instance, I changed my middle name to my maiden name.

    And once you do it at the SS office, you can then do it at the registry.

    Thanks so much, that helps a lot! :D
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  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 19,250Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    In Pennsylvania you can change your name for any reason and you do not need a court order. You just use the new name on all your documents, bank accounts, etc.
    But different states have different rules so be sure and check with your local SS office, as they are the most fussy about name changes.
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    Well, you don't HAVE to deal with it at all. You can always just keep your name.

    I'm SO glad I kept my own name. It's such a hassle to change it...and the hassle goes on forever. Every time you renew your license or any other document, you will have to produce your marriage license, so don't lose it!
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  • shellibeanshellibean Posts: 4,500Registered Users
    Why would you have to bring your marriage cert. to renew your liscence? I mean- just the first time- but after that it's done. The week we got ome from the honeymoon, we set aside a day to go to the SS office, Drivers Liscence place and bank to change my name on everything. The only thing still in my old name is my passport.
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  • spring1onuspring1onu Posts: 16,528Registered Users
    I kepy my last name... because I married someone with the same last name. :lol:
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  • mrspoppersmrspoppers Posts: 7,223Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    It's pretty easy. I sat in the SS office for about 3 hours and got my name changed there. Then I sat in the drivers license office for about 1.5 hours and got my name changed on my DL. Both places just needed my marriage license and proof of my maiden name.

    I doubt I need my marriage license every time I renew my DL since I can renew through the mail.
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  • SpinCycleSpinCycle Posts: 724Registered Users
    Well, you don't HAVE to deal with it at all. You can always just keep your name.

    I'm SO glad I kept my own name. It's such a hassle to change it...and the hassle goes on forever. Every time you renew your license or any other document, you will have to produce your marriage license, so don't lose it!

    I tease my husband about keeping my last name, but I don't mind changing it.

    However, I do want to keep my last name for professional reasons. But I'm not hyphenating because that would be a really long last name.

    We'll see how things go... You guys have helped a lot! :D
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    Why would you have to bring your marriage cert. to renew your liscence? I mean- just the first time- but after that it's done. The week we got ome from the honeymoon, we set aside a day to go to the SS office, Drivers Liscence place and bank to change my name on everything. The only thing still in my old name is my passport.


    It depends on the state, but in NJ, you have to provide your marriage license EVERY SINGLE TIME you renew your license...because the name on the birth certificate, which is the single most important document, is not the right name. You have to prove how you got from your birth name to your present name.
  • mrspoppersmrspoppers Posts: 7,223Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    You could make your maiden name your middle name. Then you don't have to hyphenate.
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    However, I do want to keep my last name for professional reasons.


    How are you going to do that? Professionals generally get paychecks...paychecks generally have to be in a legal name. If you change your legal name to your husband's name, then your professional name is no longer your legal name. It's pretty impossible to maintain 2 names.
  • DarkAngelDarkAngel Posts: 2,671Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    However, I do want to keep my last name for professional reasons.


    How are you going to do that? Professionals generally get paychecks...paychecks generally have to be in a legal name. If you change your legal name to your husband's name, then your professional name is no longer your legal name. It's pretty impossible to maintain 2 names.


    A lot of women do it so it must be possible. I know that when I was transitioning between the two names, my bank had records that indictaed that I was both DarkAngel MaidenName and DarkAngel MarriedName. I had no problems.
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  • SpinCycleSpinCycle Posts: 724Registered Users
    However, I do want to keep my last name for professional reasons.


    How are you going to do that? Professionals generally get paychecks...paychecks generally have to be in a legal name. If you change your legal name to your husband's name, then your professional name is no longer your legal name. It's pretty impossible to maintain 2 names.

    Well, I'd be using his last name for legal stuff. I have a small business that has a name based on my current last name. I'd be using my current last name for my business and my new last name for everything else. So my name would be First Middle Maiden Lastname. It would be just having 2 last names.

    My current last name means a lot to me too, so I really don't want to let it go.
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  • shellibeanshellibean Posts: 4,500Registered Users
    In Texas, we don't have to show our birth certificate every single time. we can show our previous drivers liscence when it's time to renew. It's all in their computer system anyway.
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    In Texas, we don't have to show our birth certificate every single time. we can show our previous drivers liscence when it's time to renew. It's all in their computer system anyway.


    You didn't used to have to show it in NJ either...not until 9/11 and the new identity regulations came about. Now anyone who's birth certificate name doesn't match their legal name, needs to show documentation of name changes at every license renewal. I'm sure other states have adopted that policy also, and more will continue to do so.
  • WileE-DeadWileE-Dead Banned Posts: 24,963Banned Users
    spring1onu wrote:
    I kepy my last name... because I married someone with the same last name. :lol:
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  • anonnymouseanonnymouse Posts: 1,340Registered Users
    In Texas, we don't have to show our birth certificate every single time. we can show our previous drivers liscence when it's time to renew. It's all in their computer system anyway.


    You didn't used to have to show it in NJ either...not until 9/11 and the new identity regulations came about. Now anyone who's birth certificate name doesn't match their legal name, needs to show documentation of name changes at every license renewal. I'm sure other states have adopted that policy also, and more will continue to do so.

    You don't need to do all that in MA. It's all in the computer. But it sounds like in NJ you need to bring your birth certificate with you to renew your license; I don't think having to bring a copy of your marriage certificate would make it that much bigger of a deal. What's one more piece of paper at that point?


    Anyway, I changed my name when I got married. Then I changed it back when I got divorced! It took a bit of work, but it wasn't a huge deal.
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  • Oregano  (formerly babywavy)Oregano (formerly babywavy) Posts: 5,297Registered Users
    There is a way to keep your maiden name for proffessional reasons, but use a married name for other ones, although I'm not sure how it works. I have a friend who's a doctor who uses her maiden name in her practice, but uses her married name elsewhere.

    I suppose you could "assume" your husbands last name in casual cases, but if your legal name is still your given name, you would have to sign that on legal documents.

    I love that I changed my name. I feel very much a part of my husband when I took his name. I did change my middle name to my maiden, which made me feel good to have kept my last name somewhere.
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  • WileE-DeadWileE-Dead Banned Posts: 24,963Banned Users
    babywavy wrote:
    There is a way to keep your maiden name for proffessional reasons, but use a married name for other ones, although I'm not sure how it works. I have a friend who's a doctor who uses her maiden name in her practice, but uses her married name elsewhere.

    I suppose you could "assume" your husbands last name in casual cases, but if your legal name is still your given name, you would have to sign that on legal documents.

    I love that I changed my name. I feel very much a part of my husband when I took his name. I did change my middle name to my maiden, which made me feel good to have kept my last name somewhere.
    I still sign my name the way I always have...
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  • spring1onuspring1onu Posts: 16,528Registered Users
    spring1onu wrote:
    I kepy my last name... because I married someone with the same last name. :lol:
    :lol:
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    kwym
    

    Oh look at that...I typo'd! Well, that just neveq haptens!

    I'd like to add that no, hubby and I aren't related, BTW! :lol:
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  • avataravatar Posts: 454Registered Users
    However, I do want to keep my last name for professional reasons.


    How are you going to do that? Professionals generally get paychecks...paychecks generally have to be in a legal name. If you change your legal name to your husband's name, then your professional name is no longer your legal name. It's pretty impossible to maintain 2 names.

    That's not at all true. Many people do it-- particularly actors, singers, artists, writers. But I know business people who do it too. In most places, a person can choose any name under which to transact business as long as it is not for fraudulent purposes. Some states may have other requirements, but pretty much people can choose their names and enter into legal contracts, even without needing to get a court order. The pseudonym will have the same force and effect as the person's true legal name.

    Problems would occur for social insurance purposes (and certain other purposes, like passports, etc.) if the name used for such purposes doesn't match. So, in these instances (like for payroll, where tax and social security withholding and reporting is required), people would use their legally documented name-- namely, the one on their social security card. But there is no reason their business cards, name plate and other listings can't be the pseudonym or "professional name."

    So, generally, a person can use any number of pseudonyms as long as it is not for fraudulent purposes. Most people wouldn't want to try to keep up with having more than one extra name, but theoretically, it's perfectly legal.
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    Most people wouldn't want to try to keep up with having more than one extra name, but theoretically, it's perfectly legal.


    That was my point. Sounds like a huge PITA to try to remember who I told which name to...I'd rather just use one.
  • SystemSystem Posts: 39,059 Administrator
    spring1onu wrote:
    I kepy my last name... because I married someone with the same last name. :lol:
    WOW. Thats amazing. lol
  • SpinCycleSpinCycle Posts: 724Registered Users
    SpinCycle, congratulations! :)

    Thanks! :D
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