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Dad uses Facebook to teach daughter a lesson

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This is the first one I came across and there are a few duplicates on Youtube as well. You YT junkies may have seen it already. :tongue10:

Dad uses Facebook to teach daughter a lesson - Chicago's Best Variety of the 80s, 90s and Now
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  • NarniaNarnia Posts: 1,770Registered Users
    YESSSS!!!
    Love it. Good for him. Too many disrespectful brats running around out there.


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  • KraytKrayt Posts: 765Registered Users
    What I really want to see is the daughter's reaction after the fact.

    That was very entertaining to watch, and good to see a set of parents that won't put up with their kids entitled crap.
  • fraufrau Posts: 6,130Registered Users
    I LOVE HIM SO MUCH!!!
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    lol, poor daughter...
  • missbanjomissbanjo Posts: 3,088Registered Users
    The brat's going to be hating life that's for sure.
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  • SpringcurlSpringcurl Posts: 8,002Registered Users
    Yes, dad!!
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  • nynaeve77nynaeve77 Posts: 7,135Registered Users
    I have mixed feelings about this. The girl was dead wrong for posting what she did on Facebook, no doubt. That's the kind of stuff you reserve for your diary, not an audience of your friends. However, there's something to be said for taking care of your family business in private. I get that the girl put it all out there but, personally, I wouldn't put up youtube videos to put her in her place. That just seems (to me) like you're reacting with your hurt feelings and throwing a bigger tantrum than your kid did. I completely get how hurtful and rude she was. Maybe that's what it takes to get through to this kid.

    Plus, the frugal person in me is in horror of shooting up a perfectly good computer. Couldn't he have given it to charity or something? I guess that wouldn't have been as good a show, though.

    Admittedly, I seem to be in the minority on this issue, judging by the feedback I see her and amongst my friends IRL.
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  • Like.AustraliaLike.Australia Posts: 2,544Registered Users
    nynaeve77 wrote: »
    I have mixed feelings about this. The girl was dead wrong for posting what she did on Facebook, no doubt. That's the kind of stuff you reserve for your diary, not an audience of your friends. However, there's something to be said for taking care of your family business in private. I get that the girl put it all out there but, personally, I wouldn't put up youtube videos to put her in her place. That just seems (to me) like you're reacting with your hurt feelings and throwing a bigger tantrum than your kid did. I completely get how hurtful and rude she was. Maybe that's what it takes to get through to this kid.

    Plus, the frugal person in me is in horror of shooting up a perfectly good computer. Couldn't he have given it to charity or something? I guess that wouldn't have been as good a show, though.

    Admittedly, I seem to be in the minority on this issue, judging by the feedback I see her and amongst my friends IRL.

    I agree. Embarrassment is not the way to punish a child.
  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
    nynaeve77 wrote: »
    I have mixed feelings about this. The girl was dead wrong for posting what she did on Facebook, no doubt. That's the kind of stuff you reserve for your diary, not an audience of your friends. However, there's something to be said for taking care of your family business in private. I get that the girl put it all out there but, personally, I wouldn't put up youtube videos to put her in her place. That just seems (to me) like you're reacting with your hurt feelings and throwing a bigger tantrum than your kid did. I completely get how hurtful and rude she was. Maybe that's what it takes to get through to this kid.

    Plus, the frugal person in me is in horror of shooting up a perfectly good computer. Couldn't he have given it to charity or something? I guess that wouldn't have been as good a show, though.

    Admittedly, I seem to be in the minority on this issue, judging by the feedback I see her and amongst my friends IRL.

    I'm with you.
  • NarniaNarnia Posts: 1,770Registered Users
    nynaeve77 wrote: »
    I have mixed feelings about this. The girl was dead wrong for posting what she did on Facebook, no doubt. That's the kind of stuff you reserve for your diary, not an audience of your friends. However, there's something to be said for taking care of your family business in private. I get that the girl put it all out there but, personally, I wouldn't put up youtube videos to put her in her place. That just seems (to me) like you're reacting with your hurt feelings and throwing a bigger tantrum than your kid did. I completely get how hurtful and rude she was. Maybe that's what it takes to get through to this kid.

    Plus, the frugal person in me is in horror of shooting up a perfectly good computer. Couldn't he have given it to charity or something? I guess that wouldn't have been as good a show, though.

    Admittedly, I seem to be in the minority on this issue, judging by the feedback I see her and amongst my friends IRL.

    I agree. Embarrassment is not the way to punish a child.

    Younger children, yes. At almost 16, I think she can handle it. Especially when this was clearly not her first offense.


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  • CurliLocksCurliLocks Posts: 10,571Registered Users
    What a brat! I can see that maybe she was venting, but it should not have been public. That's something for a private journal. Kids do need to vent too, even if they're wrong.

    Part of me applauds this dad, but part of me says it should not have gone out on YT. I agree that embarrassing the girl publicly is not going to help. Will we be reading that she ran away soon? :(

    I do like his video, but he should have showed it to her privately, and then given away her laptop. Such a waste to destroy it. Donate it somewhere.
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    SHOOTING a laptop? Seriously? What a F*cking Ass-hole.
  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
    CurliLocks wrote: »
    What a brat! I can see that maybe she was venting, but it should not have been public. That's something for a private journal. Kids do need to vent too, even if they're wrong.

    Part of me applauds this dad, but part of me says it should not have gone out on YT. I agree that embarrassing the girl publicly is not going to help. Will we be reading that she ran away soon? :(

    I do like his video, but he should have showed it to her privately, and then given away her laptop. Such a waste to destroy it. Donate it somewhere.

    Do we know if it was really public? Or was it only meant for her friends to see? She wouldn't be the first teenager to talk smack about her parents. Teens need to vent. Even if she was an entitled brat, this letter wasn't meant for her parents to see. It's like dad coming across her diary, reading it, then punishing her severely for something he wasn't supposed to read.

    The whole youtube thing is just gross, as well as shooting up the laptop. If he wanted to make a point, he could have taken her somewhere to donate it.

    As to the bolded, I hope it's nothing worse. :(
  • murrrcatmurrrcat Posts: 9,596Registered Users
    and that's why you shouldn't talk crap on Facebook.

    I get she was trying to vent, but maybe she could of texted it to her friend.

    I mean I don't get why people vent on fb and then get mad when someone calls them out...you are on the internet..you know...where you're immortalized.

    But I'm just ranting about grown ass people, she's a child still so, I don't think he should of embarrassed her like that.
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  • CGNYCCGNYC Posts: 4,937Registered Users
    This is so ignorant I can't stand it.

    We are supposed to be role models for our children, not avenging *******s who go on a bender when our pride gets hurt.

    I don't think this is abusive or anything, just IGNORANT.

    If a mom had posted a rant about how no one in her house respects what she does, they mess up as fast as she can clean up, etc - we would all be on her side.

    If she's already posted a rant and gotten caught before, get the child a diary and take away her computer. The next logical step is NOT shooting, it's either monitoring her computer time or taking away her laptop. I realize there is little to no ego boost in this and you won't get internet-famous but good parenting rarely comes with glory.

    I am all for discipline and respect. I am also realistic. At some point my child is going to get mad at me at talk some trash to her friends. It's going to happen. I did it, you did it, it's part of being that age. I would hope she has the good sense not to broadcast it to a wide audience but if she doesn't then I haven't done MY JOB in the first place.

    I just hate this guy. He's an idiot. Take away the computer, ground her for as long as you want, but don't have a hissy fit over it. Idiot.

    All she is going to learn from this is that Dad is kind of an unreasonable jerk who would rather have attention at her expense than actually PARENT.
  • PartyHairPartyHair Posts: 7,713Registered Users
    CGNYC wrote: »
    This is so ignorant I can't stand it.

    We are supposed to be role models for our children, not avenging *******s who go on a bender when our pride gets hurt.

    I don't think this is abusive or anything, just IGNORANT.

    If a mom had posted a rant about how no one in her house respects what she does, they mess up as fast as she can clean up, etc - we would all be on her side.

    If she's already posted a rant and gotten caught before, get the child a diary and take away her computer. The next logical step is NOT shooting, it's either monitoring her computer time or taking away her laptop. I realize there is little to no ego boost in this and you won't get internet-famous but good parenting rarely comes with glory.

    I am all for discipline and respect. I am also realistic. At some point my child is going to get mad at me at talk some trash to her friends. It's going to happen. I did it, you did it, it's part of being that age. I would hope she has the good sense not to broadcast it to a wide audience but if she doesn't then I haven't done MY JOB in the first place.

    I just hate this guy. He's an idiot. Take away the computer, ground her for as long as you want, but don't have a hissy fit over it. Idiot.

    All she is going to learn from this is that Dad is kind of an unreasonable jerk who would rather have attention at her expense than actually PARENT.

    All of this. I had a really strong adverse reaction to the dad's response. Was the kid wrong? YES. But like Clever said, being a vindictive dick isn't the right way to respond. That is not teaching her the appropriate way to respond or react; it's him wanting attention.
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  • missbanjomissbanjo Posts: 3,088Registered Users
    I see a father who felt he had to take drastic measures to reign in his child. Obviously this isn't the first time she's acted out whether it's on FB or in other ways. I also think he should have taken her to hand LONG before this happened. Quite possibly it was "aww such a sweet girl," etc, etc until she got into her tween years.
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  • midgimidgi Posts: 2,409Registered Users
    Meh, I disagree that it was too harsh. As an entitled child, I was this bratty azz 15 year old who asked for the most expensive gifts and then fought my mom tooth and nail if she asked me to take out the trash. Luckily, when Facebook first started only college students were allowed to join, so my disrespectful tirades directed at my parents weren't heard by all my friends, just the close ones.

    This girl embarrassed her parents by her blatant disrespect and her ungrateful attitude. We should all be so lucky as to have a dad who cares enough to put 7 bullets in a laptop he paid for.

    And all the arguments that the laptop should've been donated. True. I hate when people waste, but the reality is laptops are designed to be disposable. They aren't meant to last forever. He can still recycle the pieces if he so desires. And on top of that, forcing his daughter to donate it simply doesn't carry the same punch as putting bullets in it.

    I'm not so sure about recording it, but his message is loud and clear. We live in the digital age and parenting has to adapt to accommodate children who post hurtful things on the web. This father was just trying to beat her at her own game.

    Not all kids are the same. His daughter is obviously a repeat offender and his actions are a response to that. IMO babying, coddling, and spoiling kids is exactly why we have a bunch of whiny, entitled, brat ty, emotionally unstable kids running around.

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  • crimsonshedemoncrimsonshedemon Posts: 2,098Registered Users
    I didn't watch it all the way to the end. The guy just rambled. He shot the laptop? What an idiot. Put a password on it so she can't access it. Why destroy it? Dumb!!
    My initial reaction was that he should've taken his time and wrote out something sarcastic and funny. He just rambled, on and on and on.

    I agree the daughter is a brat and needed to learn a lesson. However, as the adult, he should've chosen a better way. No need to air the dirty laundry in public. Just silly since she's a typical teen- just not one who's very smart. LOL

    The laptop didn't disrespect him so why shoot it? What a waste.
  • CGNYCCGNYC Posts: 4,937Registered Users
    I don't think it was too harsh, I think it was stupid. Of course, now he's internet-famous so I guess he got what he wanted. He could a. take away the laptop or b. check up on her when she's online. Both of those things take effort and and you probably won't get a bazillion hits on youtube for just being a rational person.

    To me, discipline is not about my ego. It's about teaching my daughter to be a good person and helping her make good choices. When she can't make those herself, I help her make them. I don't need to prove that I'm the boss because I'm the mom, of course I'm the boss. I think it's more important to teach my daughter that if she thinks something is unfair, she should first talk to me and if she needs to vent, she needs to not be stupid and disrespectful of me IN PUBLIC. That's what diaries and best friends are for.

    Last, the guy seems like a jerk. If he's really got a kid at home who does all those chores she listed, he needs to at least respect what she's doing and not add to it. Who walks across a floor in muddy shoes and then expects someone else to clean it up? An ass, that's who. If your kids or husband did that and then gave you attitude about it, how would you feel?

    He comes across as a jerk and I bet he's hard to live with.

    Again, I don't think it's too harsh. She was stupid and disrespectful to vent about her parents in such a public way. That's best saved for your best friend or your journal.
  • fraufrau Posts: 6,130Registered Users
    why am i attracted to jerks?

    i'm sure he has backed her computer up, to replace it will probably cost $400.
  • BekkaPooBekkaPoo Posts: 3,861Registered Users
    Go ahead dad! :king: If the kid can't respect his rules, she can get a job and really learn about responsibility. At 15 you're old enough to work in most states, and if she isn't then she can babysit, wash cars, or mow lawns til she earns her laptop back.
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  • WiregirlWiregirl Posts: 1,695Registered Users
    I hate this guy...the kids letter was just a vent on FB!
  • CGNYCCGNYC Posts: 4,937Registered Users
    Isn't her whole rant about the fact that she does all the housework and doesn't have time for a job? I admit, I have some sympathy for her (the purpose of the rant, NOT how she handled it) because in my family I am the oldest and a girl and I did ALL the housework. I do think that everyone in a family should contribute to keeping the family running (even my six year old has chores and is expected to clean up behind HERSELF) but I don't think it's right to heap all the work on one kid...and if you do, then don't be an ass and make her job harder.

    I doubt the girl is all that embarrassed. I would imagine her reaction is more like, "You see? He's nuts."
  • SariaSaria Posts: 15,963Registered Users
    And that's why you don't teach lessons . . .
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  • roseannadanaroseannadana Posts: 5,632Registered Users
    This link is his answer to some of the questions that he has been asked since he posted his youtube video. He answered all the things I was wondering about and some of the things other curlies have mentioned too!

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  • AmnerisAmneris Posts: 15,117Registered Users
    Wait - I haven't even seen this, but from reading the thread, are you telling me:

    -some teenage girl vented on fb that her parents make her do too many chores
    -her dad found out, took a gun, and shot her laptop to bits
    -he videoed himself doing this and ranting, and posted it on youtube
    -this is how the daughter found out
    -the guy is now a hero/celebrity for doing this?

    I have MANY things to say about that, but the biggest one is, SHOOTING something with a GUN is considered a GOOD solution to a problem? What does bad parenting look like, in that case?
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  • Like.AustraliaLike.Australia Posts: 2,544Registered Users
    CGNYC wrote: »
    Isn't her whole rant about the fact that she does all the housework and doesn't have time for a job? I admit, I have some sympathy for her (the purpose of the rant, NOT how she handled it) because in my family I am the oldest and a girl and I did ALL the housework. I do think that everyone in a family should contribute to keeping the family running (even my six year old has chores and is expected to clean up behind HERSELF) but I don't think it's right to heap all the work on one kid...and if you do, then don't be an ass and make her job harder.

    I doubt the girl is all that embarrassed. I would imagine her reaction is more like, "You see? He's nuts."

    She might be saying that, but I'd bet she is humiliated. I certainly would've been. My parents would've NEVER done something like this, let alone put it out there for the whole world to see.
  • PartyHairPartyHair Posts: 7,713Registered Users
    CGNYC wrote: »
    I don't think it was too harsh, I think it was stupid. Of course, now he's internet-famous so I guess he got what he wanted. He could a. take away the laptop or b. check up on her when she's online. Both of those things take effort and and you probably won't get a bazillion hits on youtube for just being a rational person.

    To me, discipline is not about my ego. It's about teaching my daughter to be a good person and helping her make good choices. When she can't make those herself, I help her make them. I don't need to prove that I'm the boss because I'm the mom, of course I'm the boss. I think it's more important to teach my daughter that if she thinks something is unfair, she should first talk to me and if she needs to vent, she needs to not be stupid and disrespectful of me IN PUBLIC. That's what diaries and best friends are for.

    Last, the guy seems like a jerk. If he's really got a kid at home who does all those chores she listed, he needs to at least respect what she's doing and not add to it. Who walks across a floor in muddy shoes and then expects someone else to clean it up? An ass, that's who. If your kids or husband did that and then gave you attitude about it, how would you feel?

    He comes across as a jerk and I bet he's hard to live with.

    Again, I don't think it's too harsh. She was stupid and disrespectful to vent about her parents in such a public way. That's best saved for your best friend or your journal.

    Again I will quote and agree with the beautiful and brilliant CGNYC.


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  • CGNYCCGNYC Posts: 4,937Registered Users
    And that is why you are my favorite.
  • PartyHairPartyHair Posts: 7,713Registered Users
    CGNYC wrote: »
    And that is why you are my favorite.

    Yay! :)


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