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truth about indian women with curly hair.

willytheturtlewillytheturtle Posts: 27Registered Users
there aren't that many Indian girls with curly hair. the few of them who do have curly hair..well ud probably never see their curls because they comb they're hair until its a huge poof and then put a whole bottle of coconut oil in it and then braid it. (i kno this because my mom used to do this to me everyday wen i was little and i rmr crying so hard cuz i had alot of knots n shed pull the brush so hard through them)most indian gurls have straight hair, im Indian and im the only one i kno with curly hair except for my dad but he doesn't like it and he combed it so much that its basically straight now. i think curly hair is so much more interesting than straight hair cuz its different for everyone. i wish id see more indian girls with curly hair..i dunno if this really belongs in "hall of shame" but i jus felt like sharing...
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  • esmeraldaesmeralda Posts: 187Registered Users
    Hi!

    I'm indian too & I know what you're talking about!!
    My hair wasnt curly until I was 12-13, so I dont have any curly childhoodmemories.
    Most indians have straight hair, its really beautiful, but some have curly hair. A mix of 2b/3a, what are you?
    My mom brushes her hair several times a day, its just a frizzy mess :(

    I dont think Indians like curly hair, I have gotten some comments on that I "should get my hair done".
    The board will help you to love your curls, I am sure they are beautiful!
    2C/3A,jetblack indian curls:)
  • heavengirl410heavengirl410 Posts: 821Registered Users
    Curly hair is absolutely beautiful, My mom and both my sisters all have wavy/curly hair and all three of them straighten their hair everyday. I wish I could convince them to embrace their curls, but they just say their hair isn't like mine, but it can be with the right care. Every Indian woman I have ever seen have gorgeous hair, it always looks so healthy and pretty. I heard that Medimex is good for your hair ( coconut oil is great for curls too), was wondering if either of you have used it, or any other hair oils that you could recommend?
  • esmeraldaesmeralda Posts: 187Registered Users
    I have never heard of Medimex...
    but I have tried coconutoil. Many curlies like it, but I get zits when I use it :(
    In India oily hair is not a bad thing, so people use lots of hairoils & dont care about the grease.

    Theres an oil from Rene Furterer, its great & has a "lemony smoky" herbal scent. It's CG too!
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    44 USD!! :shock: I got mine in Paris for around half of that!!
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  • CheleighCheleigh Posts: 552Registered Users
    My intern is Indian and she has curly or wavy hair (so she tells me). She doesn't like it, so she flat irons her hair daily. It looks great flatironed, but I told her that if she decided to go curly, following CG would be best for her hair.
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  • multicultcurlymulticultcurly Posts: 5,132Registered Users
    (Though I'm not Indian, many people mistakenly think I am.) I do agree that there a lot of Indian women with beautiful, straight hair. Even so, I have seen many Indian women with wavy/curly hair. Generally their hair is thick and naturally shiny. When it is frizzy, it usually seems that way because of ignorance -- using a brush or a bad haircut. I also do agree that many Indian women probably have some type of natural wave (most people do) that they get rid of through brushing or flat-ironing.
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  • EilonwyEilonwy Posts: 12,389Registered Users
    You should be proud of your hair! There are a lot of Indian/Pakistani/etc. women in my area who have curly hair and don't straighten it, just so you know. If you're having trouble styling it, you should probably use a leave-in oil or conditioner, as well as some gel.
  • StarmieStarmie Posts: 6,681Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    I worked briefly with an Indian woman who had straight hair. Her husband had curly hair and their daughter had inherited it, much to this womans dismay. She told me that she had always straightened her daughters hair as she hated it so much. Not sure how old the daughter was or what she thought of her hair, she just wasn't allowed to have it curly. I wondered what it did for this poor girls self-confidence, to constantly have her mother telling her she hated her hair.
    I think she was just a rude woman, she's the only person who's ever insulted me about my hair - walked in on a conversation I was having with another colleague about my hair one morning, looked at me and said "yes, it's awful isn't it, I hate curly hair". I was so gobsmacked I couldn't respond and my other colleague told her off. She hadn't a clue what she'd said wrong! This was only the second time I'd met this woman too, it's not as if she knew me well and knew of my obsession with my hair.
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  • forest13forest13 Posts: 27Registered Users
    Bengalis love curly hair. It reminds them of the goddess Durga ! My mom is indian and I have inherited her hair (and my grandmom's). I used to hate my curly hair mainly because in school I used to get teased a lot and I envied the nice long straight jet black hair that so many indians have. I was always brushing my hair so the curls would disappear and my mom used to complain about me doing that. She would talk about curly hair like it was a Godly thing with a life of its own ! Of well, now I do agree with her ;-)
  • O d d i s y~O d d i s y~ Posts: 1,042Registered Users
    I'm an Indian girl and i Love my hair ;)
    And the end of the day , all you've got is yourself..:headbang:
  • jujucabanajujucabana Posts: 153Registered Users
    i liked reading this thread. i really should read naturally curly every morning. it helps me love my hair.
  • one way streetone way street Posts: 772Registered Users
    there aren't that many Indian girls with curly hair. the few of them who do have curly hair..well ud probably never see their curls because they comb they're hair until its a huge poof and then put a whole bottle of coconut oil in it and then braid it. (i kno this because my mom used to do this to me everyday wen i was little and i rmr crying so hard cuz i had alot of knots n shed pull the brush so hard through them)most indian gurls have straight hair, im Indian and im the only one i kno with curly hair except for my dad but he doesn't like it and he combed it so much that its basically straight now. i think curly hair is so much more interesting than straight hair cuz its different for everyone. i wish id see more indian girls with curly hair..i dunno if this really belongs in "hall of shame" but i jus felt like sharing...

    I get what your saying, but not all of them do that. I have curly hair, and I'm Indian.
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  • msjananimsjanani Posts: 624Registered Users
    I'm another curly-haired Indian!

    Many Indian women just don't like their curly hair because they're trying to strive for the unattainable bollywood look: fair skinned, fair eyed, and stick-straight, long hair.

    It's so self-hating it's sick.
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  • medhavimedhavi Posts: 29Registered Users
    yet another curly haired indian gal! my hair didn't curl up until i was about 12/13 too, so all through high school, i had no idea what to do with it, had a lot of bad hair days, let me tell you. my grandpa had curly hair, and my aunt and mom both have curly hair. my mom straightens hers with big rollers, and i remember my aunt wearing her tight curls very curly, but i guess she now straightens it too.

    now i'm in my 20's and have learned to love my curls! although i still have that dilemma of trying to figure out a new hairstyle. :wink:
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  • SystemSystem Posts: 39,059 Administrator
    My assistant is Indian, and she has short, super-curly hair. She cut it when she was living in Dubai.
  • AngularScienceAngularScience Posts: 844Registered Users
    Hi, I'm new here, and I felt I needed to get a profile because this post made me react so strongly.

    I'm wondering what part of India you are from, willytheturtle, because in the southern states, nearly everyone has waves and curls! I've noticed that a lot of north Indians have stick straight hair, but again, there are numerous exceptions on both sides. The reason that you don't often see girls walking around with curls in India, at least in the southern states, is because it's a conservative country. The conservative feminine beauty has logn hair, and nearly everyone wears it in a plait (braid). As for the brushing thing, most American-born Indians brush their hair (my mother always brushed mine) but in India, my cousins always use a comb. They dry comb it though, as most of them believe that touching wet hair causes massive breakage.

    People in India definitely appreciate curls. My father's family has numerous curlyheads in it; he said his sister had such curly hair, she'd break all the "unbreakable" combs--everyone admired the pattern of the curl. He said it was beautiful, and that he wished he had tighter curls like his brothers and sisters.
  • laynesavedthedaylaynesavedtheday Posts: 239Registered Users
    i have a friend with the same type of hair as you, who does the exact same thing. it is SOOO long (like to her butt) but its in braids EVERY SINGLE DAY it could be sooo pretty and unique =[
  • AmdaAmda Posts: 251Registered Users
    Well, I'm Sri-Lankan (so not quite Indian, but hey, we're only about half a centimeter away on a map...) and all of the other Sri-Lankans/Indians I know have curly or wavy hair! Maybe I'm just lucky to be surrounded by so many curlies, but I can only think of two relatives of mine with naturally straight hair.
    Fine and thin 2C in Australia
  • curlylauracurlylaura Posts: 8,352Registered Users
    A girl I went to school with is Sri-Lankan and her hair was at least 3C.
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  • flfl Posts: 37Registered Users
    i am indian! half my family has curly hair, and they all do the oil and braid thing. though i don't know about south indians having mostly curly hair - i know south indians and they are always complaining that they have hard time getting their hair to keep a curl for more than a few hours.
  • AngularScienceAngularScience Posts: 844Registered Users
    curlylaura wrote: »
    A girl I went to school with is Sri-Lankan and her hair was at least 3C.

    I have a Sri Lankan friend in college who has the most gorgeous head of 3C curls. I'd swear it was a perm, but I asked her once, and she told me that it wasn't, and told me how it took her years to figure out how to maintain it.
  • curlylauracurlylaura Posts: 8,352Registered Users
    curlylaura wrote: »
    A girl I went to school with is Sri-Lankan and her hair was at least 3C.

    I have a Sri Lankan friend in college who has the most gorgeous head of 3C curls. I'd swear it was a perm, but I asked her once, and she told me that it wasn't, and told me how it took her years to figure out how to maintain it.

    My friend brushed her hair and then braided it. I tried to get her to stop brushing it and see what happened but who was I to talk really, I was straightening my hair then.
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  • mddermmdderm Posts: 61Registered Users
    wow, I am in the exact same situation as you. I am indian too and have the curliest hair in my house and I have recently grown to love it because I now know what and what not to put in my hair. I am a 3a/3b and always felt that going against my natural hair always yeilded long term bad results. My dad doesn't like curly hair either - he brushes out his curls a lot and its short so you can't tell. I always remembered my hair being a frizzy mess when I was young .My mom used to brush it out because she didn't know what to do with it. However now she loves it. I really used to envy my stick straight haired cousins. I know this girl with long gorgeous curly hair who told me at home she has to straighten it because her family says its disrespectful to have curly hair (because they see it as being too fashion forward and bold - they believe in simplicity...stupid I KNOW!)I have the curliest hair out of any family member and now I realize how lucky I am to have this beautiful hair that rarely anyone in my family has. My boyfriend is a little old fashioned and really doesn't get my hair and thinks straight looks better :sad8:. I don't think he likes curly... Some people love it, some hate it. Everyone has haters, but you just gotta not let it affect you.
  • nikkimwnikkimw Posts: 113Registered Users
    I am from South India and I have curly hair, but I don't know about more South Indians having curly hair. My parents and my sister (she has naturally straight hair) always like my curly hair. However, there are many members of my family that think that straight hair is definitely nicer and neater... and I used to get plenty of compliments when I straightened.

    I think because of bollywood etc, straight hair is definetely more "in" ... lots of cousins of mine have had it chemically straightened. I have (sadly) met more people who wanted to straighten their hair than embrace their curls... but that's just my experience.

    Another thing I noticed while I was in India last month was that there aren't really many products for curly hair ( I mean curly lines) you'll find plenty of smoothing and straightening lines. This was the first time that I did an extensive search because I usually stock up on products before I go to India.

    I have a fellow indian friend who has amazing 3 c curls and it has not seen a comb (except a wide tooth comb) at all. I think that it comes down to if you had curlies in your family who knew that curly hair requires gentle care.
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  • GrrrbehaveGrrrbehave Posts: 9Registered Users
    Okay, I've been lurking for a while but I thought I just had to reply to this thread.

    I'm not from India but I'm of South Indian origin... and 70% of people I know have curly hair. 90% of those curlies relax their hair, as I have for the past six years. I've recently decided to embrace my curls as I've had enough of boring stick straight hair, and I've completely forgotten what my natural hair looks like!

    I'm meeting with opposition from all directions and getting insulted to boot for letting my hair grow. Mum said my hair is ugly, it will make me look old, etc. Not long ago when I got my hair trimmed, the stylist asked me if I wanted to touch up the curly growth. I said no, I'm growing it out, not relaxing anymore. He said curly hair is not nice, and it's damaged anyway, all his Indian friends do it. He also said my hair was very thick and voluminous, like it was a bad thing! Look who's talking, he's the one with hair so damaged it was like toothbrush bristles.

    I'm so grateful for this website. It really helps to come on here and be with people who really love their curls.
  • th1th1 Posts: 98Registered Users
    I would love to see your curls! Please don't be discouraged by these comments.

    I cannot tell you how liberating it is to do as you have done...embrace your curls rather than fight with them!!

    We are here to support you!!

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    Grrrbehave wrote: »
    Okay, I've been lurking for a while but I thought I just had to reply to this thread.

    I'm not from India but I'm of South Indian origin... and 70% of people I know have curly hair. 90% of those curlies relax their hair, as I have for the past six years. I've recently decided to embrace my curls as I've had enough of boring stick straight hair, and I've completely forgotten what my natural hair looks like!

    I'm meeting with opposition from all directions and getting insulted to boot for letting my hair grow. Mum said my hair is ugly, it will make me look old, etc. Not long ago when I got my hair trimmed, the stylist asked me if I wanted to touch up the curly growth. I said no, I'm growing it out, not relaxing anymore. He said curly hair is not nice, and it's damaged anyway, all his Indian friends do it. He also said my hair was very thick and voluminous, like it was a bad thing! Look who's talking, he's the one with hair so damaged it was like toothbrush bristles.

    I'm so grateful for this website. It really helps to come on here and be with people who really love their curls.
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  • Melanie_LinnMelanie_Linn Posts: 457Registered Users
    I'm part indian, and i have curley hair to, 4a actually. Im also half african american, with european, and native american. I used to straighten my hair alot, constant perms since the age of 5. But recently i've embraced my curls, and i'm trying to get them to how they were when i was little. I love my curls. i've had people ask me if i had my hair straightened after the fact, because it was so thick. Meh to each their own i guess, i like my hair as it is.:toothy7:
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  • thebaydestrianthebaydestrian Posts: 45Registered Users
    I think I'm the first Indian guy on here...:blob7:
    haha...Yeah, I'm a 20 year old Indian guy with wavy hair and the occasional curling on the sides, and I always used to hate it because of the poof. But these past 2 months is really the first time since i was an infant, that I have my hair a chance to grow and see what it can do. And yes, I agree with you that the Indian girls that do have wavy/curly hair tend to comb their hair to make it look poofy and awful.
    3A (my hair is pretty darn short now though)

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  • curls of summercurls of summer Posts: 56Registered Users
    In my university I have seen very, very few to no Indian girls sporting their naturally curly hair. Almost all of them, or at least all those (ALL) whom I've seen around straighten their hair (and there are a lot of us here!). I used to keep mine curly (not CG though, I didn't hear of it til April 2008) until in late 2005 my boyfriend told me he prefers it straight and I had started straightening it every once in a while. I had completely given up on my curly hair by this year so much so that I was about to go for a shorter cut so I could straighten more easily whenever I want to, when I found this site, and I am so glad I did! I have never looked back. I am slowly starting to not care too much about those who like people based on the texture of their hair. And that's thanks to everyone on here! :D
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    Curladvocate -- Thank you!!! I love the pic of the guy from Heroes. I've only watched that show twice but I have a huge crush on him. :toothy7:
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