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How do you deal with clothes that are too big after weightloss?

Nappy_curly_crownNappy_curly_crown Posts: 4,162Registered Users
I've been having a hard time emotionally dealing with this huge weight loss and I’m not even at goal yet. My entire wardrobe is too big. Like 2-3 sizes too big. You would think that would be a great problem to have….not so much on my end. It used to be that even at my heaviest, my mindset was “I might be the biggest thang in this room, but I’m almost the best dressed and stylishly put together so take that skinny bishes”. Yeah now I feel like I’m a walking advertisement for “What not to wear” and I fully expect Stacy and Clinton to ambush me with video footage of my saggy booty pants and potato sack shirts. I used to LOVE going through my closets and putting together outfits that showed off the best of me but now getting dressed in the morning is such a chore and is overwhelming and stressful and I dread it daily.

I spent last night going through my closets with a close friend of mine and she made me try on every stitch of clothing…right down to my draws and bras and forced me to get rid of everything that was potato sackish. There went ¾ of my clothes…literally we filled up 4 huge plastic bins. The remaining stuff though still too big, can be modified with belts and such to mask the size difference and will get me through the winter. I don’t know what I’m going to do come spring because none of those clothes are going to fit and who wants to drop $$$ on new clothes that will be too big in 1-2 months?

Compounding the issue is that I’m having issues letting go of the too big clothes. In my head I *know* they are too big, I can’t wear them, they are taking up space in my house, and that I should give them to someone or a charity that can make good use of them. However, emotionally, it’s hard parting with them. I keep thinking “what if I gain the weight back…now I’m gonna have to buy all new clothes again”. I mean I’ve got suits and clothes that still have the tags on them…never even wore them, can’t return them to the store don’t really want to be bothered with trying to sell them on ebay or anything. I don’t understand why I’m having such a hard time parting with clothes…things…it’s just…SIGH.

Any advice or words of wisdom?
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  • curlybrancurlybran Posts: 510Registered Users
    I know exactly how you feel!!!!! I'm in the same situation. I have got a few new things here and there that are on sell but mainly its just jeans. And then I've got those from garage sales or thrift stores. I haven't fone thru any if my clothes yet tho

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  • ninja dogninja dog Posts: 23,780Registered Users
    Honestly, I didn't deal with it very well: a lot of it is right upstairs in my storage loft, collecting dust.

    I think that giving things away to a person or group that can use them is cleansing, though I agree that it's also oddly painful. It's like you're giving away a part of yourself.
  • WileE-DeadWileE-Dead Banned Posts: 24,963Banned Users
    Girl, I just wanna say what an amazing job you've done! I've been following your journey. What an inspiration you are :toothy6: Keep up the awesome job!
    I mentioned your fabu weight loss on another thread awhile back, tho I'm guessing you never saw it...so, I just wanted to make sure you did this time! :laughing6:
    btw...I'd love to see before/after pics :cool:
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  • curlybrancurlybran Posts: 510Registered Users
    What are you doing for ur weight loss? And yes I agree b4 and after

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  • BekkaPooBekkaPoo Posts: 3,861Registered Users
    Congrats on losing so much weight! You're already on the right track, but for "just in case" I'd keep only a 5 day work wardrobe of the bigger clothes and donate the rest. Hopefully, you will never need to go back to the bigger clothes and if you don't then really get rid of them. I lost about 50 lbs in 2002-2003 but I've always yo-yo'd up and down at least 25 lbs due to overeating, holidays, stress, etc., so I keep a few of my nicest bigger clothes along with the best of my smaller clothes.
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  • Nappy_curly_crownNappy_curly_crown Posts: 4,162Registered Users
    Thanks everyone for the kind words. Bekka I think I will keep a few things...maybe 3-4 pairs of work slacks. Just the thought of covering the "what if" makes me breathe a bit better. I hate that I feel this need to keep any of these clothes but I honestly don't have a frame of reference for having to buy smaller clothes...like ever. My weight has always steadly increased...and would stay within a 10 pound range for a few years...and them boom...it would jump like 40 pounds. It would always seem like the weight gain happened overnight or within a very short time span of a few weeks.

    Curlybran I had gastric bypass surgery in August. After about 2 years of following a medically supervised weightloss program and working out with a trainer several times a week and not seeing any weightloss I decided to have the gastric bypass surgery. My only regret is that I didn't do this sooner and I allowed other people to make me feel like I was taking the easy way out by having the surgery...when in reality its been one of the hardest things I've ever done.

    WileE...I didn't see your post, but thanks for the kind wors as well! I actually have pics...but (call me vain here)...I want to get this last 6 pounds off so that I've hit 100 pounds before I post pics. I PROMISE that I will start a thread with before/after pics.
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  • Nappy_curly_crownNappy_curly_crown Posts: 4,162Registered Users
    ninja dog wrote: »
    Honestly, I didn't deal with it very well: a lot of it is right upstairs in my storage loft, collecting dust.

    I think that giving things away to a person or group that can use them is cleansing, though I agree that it's also oddly painful. It's like you're giving away a part of yourself.

    YES!!! This (the bolded) is what I'm struggling with...espically the giving away a part of yourself thing. Even at my heaviest, I liked me. I didn't like the weight or the health implications....I didn't like the fact that it was hard to move at the gym or that clothes cost more, any of that stuff but I liked ME and my clothes were a reflection of me (does that make sense?).

    I do have a friend who's GF is about my size. They recently have been having some financial problems because of medical bills and the GF has gained some weight due to medical issues. She's coming over to my house tomorrow and is going through the clothes and is taking her pick of the litter. Hearing her voice and knowing that someone who needs this stuff and will put it to good use does make it a tad bit easier.
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  • Nappy_curly_crownNappy_curly_crown Posts: 4,162Registered Users
    curlybran wrote: »
    I know exactly how you feel!!!!! I'm in the same situation. I have got a few new things here and there that are on sell but mainly its just jeans. And then I've got those from garage sales or thrift stores. I haven't fone thru any if my clothes yet tho

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    I need to hit a few thrift stores and garage sales but I've been reluctant to do so....not quite sure why so thanks for the reminder of that option. I think I should start NOW to find a few spring pieces...I should be ok to get through the winter.
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  • cymprenicympreni Posts: 9,609Registered Users
    Congratz once again on your weight loss. You are awesome!

    I didn't lose nearly as much as you, but I understand. Most of my clothes I can still work with and I'm very thankful for that. But it still stings when I look in the mirror and see the jeans that used to be very flattering are now saggy. I have bought a few new pairs, but none that looked as good as my old ones.

    I think if I had to replace most of my clothes I would cry. It's like getting blindsided with a break-up. You spend so much time thinking about all the great things that will happen in the future, you don't notice the good things you have now slipping away. It would be different if you chose to get rid of it on your own, but when it's collateral damage like that it sucks.
  • luvmylocsluvmylocs Posts: 7,578Registered Users
    hey girl, yeah for you on the great weight loss!

    i think you definitely have to part with anything that doesn't fit well. anything that can be altered cheaply or belted you can keep. buy a few nice pieces that fit and you feel good in until you can go down again. think of it sort of how women have to buy maternity wear, you can not buy the maternity clothes or squeeze into stuff and not feel cute but life is too short to feel bad about your appearance when you can do something about it! shop sales, use coupons, buy smart pieces that you can keep if you want, keep it simple but don't let go of your fashion sense just because you're losing weight and not at your desired size yet. also, i've found that in general it's best to always be buying a few pieces here and there AND getting rid of a few pieces here and there no matter what size you are. this is a good time to reassess your wardrobe philosophy in general. i'm going through that too as i see how many things i have that i never wear or that are 5+ years old and just need to go at this point. just my 2 cents.
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  • marieantoinettemarieantoinette Posts: 131Registered Users
    I lost about 40 pounds this year, and I ended up only getting rid of the pants. My personal style is kind of vagabond-starving-artist though, so I like when shirts, and in the summer, shorts, are oversized and baggy. But when I wear jeans I want them pretty tight. I didn't get rid of them yet, they're still taking up space in my closet at the moment, but eventually I'm going to make them into shorts or use the denim for SOMETHING. Everything gets recycled; I go to art school.
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  • CheetaraCheetara Posts: 2,182Registered Users
    How about taking some of your favorite pieces to the tailor? You could get them taken in to fit your new body.

    Congratulations on all your success! I've lost some weight and dumped all my clothes at the Goodwill. I have so little now but it was cathartic to get rid of the stuff that doesn't fit.
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  • Chicago KinksChicago Kinks Posts: 2,747Registered Users
    Cheetara wrote: »
    How about taking some of your favorite pieces to the tailor? You could get them taken in to fit your new body.

    Congratulations on all your success! I've lost some weight and dumped all my clothes at the Goodwill. I have so little now but it was cathartic to get rid of the stuff that doesn't fit.

    +1 I totally agree! Take some of your nicer pieces and have them taken in and you can continue to do this. It is cheaper than buying several different wardrobes (I know from personal experience). As you continue to lose weight you will eventually get rid of all of the items but just at a slower rate.

    I also have been following your journey and I'm so impressed. You are doin great and I wish you so much more success on your journey.

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  • gagirl09gagirl09 Posts: 2,316Registered Users
    I agree w/ getting them taken in. I have technically dropped a pant size but the next size down doesn't fit quiiiiite right but the old size is too big but I made the mistake of buying the smaller size. Getting clothes taken in is a great way to hang on to those pants that you really love. I have actually done this before and love it. I don't regret buying my workout pants smaller size though cuz they're stretchy and the old pants were trying to slide right on down as I jogged. *blushes*


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  • LAwomanLAwoman Posts: 2,949Registered Users
    Congrats on your amazing success!! I can't wait to see your pictures!

    I think I'm a weirdo in that I was never sad to part with the stuff that was too big, even the high-quality stuff I once loved. I was all "see ya... now to the mall!!!"

    I don’t know what I’m going to do come spring because none of those clothes are going to fit and who wants to drop $$$ on new clothes that will be too big in 1-2 months?

    Oooh ok so Goodwill IS your new best friend!

    You can drop off the too-big clothes and then go shopping. I'm serious that you can find some cute stuff for cheap that you can wear in the interim until you hit your ultimate goal. Then you MUST go on a truly fabulous shopping spree---you've earned it!!
  • Nappy_curly_crownNappy_curly_crown Posts: 4,162Registered Users
    Thanks everyone. I'm in the middle of a plateau and the scale is making me crazy! I've been up an down the same two pounds for 2 weeks so all the congrats is making me feel better.


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  • lamodacustomlamodacustom Posts: 1Registered Users
    [I love people who lose weight & I know how to alter /tailor clothing down, up to 6 sizes I"m a professional and doing this for over 24 years and I love doing it, this is my website link check it out
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  • curlypearlcurlypearl Posts: 11,970Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Can't wait to see those pictures, NappyCC! I agree with the posters who suggested having a few pieces taken in.

    If you wear makeup, when you buy new clothes that excite you, maybe have a dept. store give you a makeover - as long as it doesn't cost you a bundle. Or buy one fabulous piece of jewelry to commemorate your success. Way to go! :notworthy:
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  • Nappy_curly_crownNappy_curly_crown Posts: 4,162Registered Users
    As you can see below...I've hit the promised mark so pictures are forth coming. I've been in a bit of a funk so bare with me but I promise to post them soon!


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  • LAwomanLAwoman Posts: 2,949Registered Users
    Congrats ncc!!! Can't wait to see them.
  • gagirl09gagirl09 Posts: 2,316Registered Users
    I have to move in a few weeks and I am tossing these clothes out. I don't wanna have a safety blanket. Even heavier I never had fat jeans(for bloated days never had that problem). Not giving myself wiggle room. I wore a tank dress today and had to wear a jacket over it cut bra band was showing then the tank part was loose. Chunk!!!


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  • coconillacoconilla Posts: 46Registered Users
    Throw em out! If anything, the financial side will help motivate you to stay at your ideal size. Keeping them "incase" could just make easier to put weight back on. See it as permanent and throw them out, instead of keeping them as if its temporary.
    And congratulations girl!

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  • curlsoulcurlsoul Posts: 27Registered Users
    Hi NCC,

    I know you posted this a while ago so I hope you have sorted out your wardrobe, but if you are still looking for some tips I thought I could share some of my experience.

    I have been gradually lost 70lbs through the past few years and still have some clothes from 30-40lbs ago too. It can be hard, but I definitely would say its best to get rid of everything that can't be modified with belts, ect. I'm glad you found a friend who could use your clothes, that's what I've done with some of mine that have gotten out of fit and it feels better knowing that at least your friend can continue to spread your awesome fashions! :)

    I would also say that when you buy clothes, keep in mind that you may be changing sizes again soon so look for items that could be easily modified in the future to be smaller. One of my favorite items that seems to last through several size changes are jersey stretch dresses with empire waists. I have run through several sizes and because of the casual structure I can still wear them after continuing to lose. While I absolutely love structured clothing, I think it has been helpful for me to purchase items with more stretch and a little tighter so that they still fit as my body changes.

    Hope everything's going well, and that this was somewhat helpful! :)
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  • gagirl09gagirl09 Posts: 2,316Registered Users
    It is time for me to inspect my closet more closely now. I have got four bags now as months have passed. I started dumping in february because it was time to clean out and give away now because it's not going to fit. I dont want to have to start all over again *wails*


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  • simmonsimmon Posts: 6Registered Users
    Congrats on losing so much weight! you're already on the right track,but for"just in case" i'd keep only a 5day work wardrobe of the bigger clothes and donate the rest.I think if i had to replace most of my clothes i would cry.
  • gagirl09gagirl09 Posts: 2,316Registered Users
    I am so sick of one thing being too big then another thing being too small. Essentially I. Hate. Being. In. Between. Sizes.
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  • Nappy_curly_crownNappy_curly_crown Posts: 4,162Registered Users
    gagirl09 wrote: »
    I am so sick of one thing being too big then another thing being too small. Essentially I. Hate. Being. In. Between. Sizes.

    We are clearly in the same boat. I'm anywhere from a 10-16 depending on the brand/cut. It's super frustrating!
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  • gagirl09gagirl09 Posts: 2,316Registered Users
    My belly and arms are causing the issue from some. But confession I have been getting in my own way lately. I realize that as I get smaller things change and I don't want them to. Idk. Feel like a screw up I should be further along than I am now...(in a size 14 in the hip, it's the shirts that are driving me up the wall)
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  • curlyarcacurlyarca Posts: 8,449Registered Users
    I have this same problem. I seriously hate getting dressed. Earlier this year I bought two pairs of pants for work for 200 dollars. I wore them once. They don't fit. It pains me to part with those pants, but before the year ends my closet is getting cleaned out.

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  • Nappy_curly_crownNappy_curly_crown Posts: 4,162Registered Users
    I went out shopping Black Friday and manages to snag a TON of clothes on sale. My entire closet is well on its way to being revamped. Next up...spring/summer fashion
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