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You're so pretty if you just make that hair straight

BrielleLouineBrielleLouine Posts: 2Registered Users
my hair is super unique. its wavy/sometimes curly at the top of my head and the bottom is kinda straight or had a slight wave, very little.and the curly on the top of my head is only appear at the outside, inside its almost straight like the bottom of my hair. one time, i was hanging out with my girls at the mall with my natural hair, i do nothing to it. cause im trying and learning to love it the way it is. i met my bestfriend, Mr.D, he is a high-maintenance boy, appearance is #1 to him. andddd there he goes, he yelled calling my name and start commented at my hair, he said"youre hair looks super ugly and weird.you should have make it straight before you go. honestly,youre so pretty but which men would want you with that kind of hair?come on, go buy a flat iron and make that damn hair straight"i was SO embarrassed. i think my effort to just love my hair failed that day. i feel like i just wanna leave and do something with my hair. *sigh*and btw, he have seen me with my hair straight so he got that opinion.

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  • sabiennesabienne Posts: 2Registered Users
    I'm sorry, your BEST FRIEND said that to you?? Sorry, but he doesn't sound like much of a friend.

    I'm guessing you're in high school? (Correct me if I'm wrong, just the comments about the mall and stuff...) Curly hair can be hard in high school. I remember once a friend set me up on a date with her boyfriend's friend (the bf and the friend went to a different school to us) and when we got there, he spent the entire night complaining that I was ugly because I had curly hair. If I remember correctly, the quote was "you said she was blonde, blondes are hot, but not like that". They then went on to nickname me "Whoopi"...yes, as in Goldberg who I have nothing against but I look nothing like her and we all know whoopi has another meaning. That went around their school like wildfire and was really embarrassing whenever our school did anything with their school.
    That was a long time ago now, and I realise they were total jerks, but at the time it really hurt. It does get better though.

    Keep on rocking your curls, because there are plenty of MEN when you grow up who LOVE curls. I'm sure there are plenty of boys in high school too, you just have to find the ones that aren't total morons.
  • Nikki3bNikki3b Posts: 327Registered Users
    Excuse me for being blunt but your best friend sounds like a dick. I can't stand super shallow people. It's none of his business how you wear your hair, hes not your man. What's ugly is his attitude. I know him and I sure as hell wouldn't be friends. Sure he has a right to his opinion but that doesn't make it okay for him to put you down. There are actually good men in the world that are not so worried about your ext
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  • WavyshibbyWavyshibby Posts: 165Registered Users
    Yep, I get the same thing sometimes. I'm in high school, I wear my hair curly and occasionally I'll straighten it. Last time I straightened it, some girl said "Oh my gosh, you would be so gorgeous if you kept your hair like that all the time!" which annoyed me because I like my curly hair. Most people do too, they're always playing with it and saying how they wish they had hair like mine. Even my male teacher noticed and said my hair looks pretty straight, and boys too. But you should know that just because you don't flat iron your hair into submission everyday doesn't mean you are not beautiful. There are girls out there with flat ironed and straight hair who don't get men and are not pretty. Some girls are told they would be pretty if only they curled their hair. And guys DO like curls and waves. Just remember that, it's not your friend's hair, it's yours. Wear it they way YOU like it.
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  • TriMixDivaTriMixDiva Posts: 255Registered Users
    Dude what they're really saying is, "You'll be a cookie cutter wannabe bombshell if you just make your hair straight everyday."

    No thanks :)
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  • damsel_flydamsel_fly Posts: 457Registered Users
    He is not your best friend.

    Are you sure you want to live up to his expectations of what you should look like?

    A friend should accept you as you are and should support you.

    As for what man would want you with your hair curly ... a real man will.
  • kinkicurlyfynekinkicurlyfyne Posts: 60Registered Users
    Um, honey, you should have told him to kill himself!! Find the nearest ledge and jump off, dude. There are plenty of men who love sexy, naturally curly hair. Believe me :) I actually posted a status on FB the other day about how I was loving my curls after I took them down from a ponytail, and a couple guys commented that "natural is sexy." Sure, there will be a-holes who prefer naturally straight hair, but being different has always been fun for me! I'm guessing you're still in high school and people's opinions still matter quite a bit to you. You will learn, hopefully, that people talk about you no matter what you do, so you might as well be your happy curly self! Plenty will love it. Do what you want with your hair. It is on your head, after all.
  • kinkicurlyfynekinkicurlyfyne Posts: 60Registered Users
    And as for him being your "best friend," he doesn't sound like much of a friend to me.
  • JohariJohari Posts: 673Registered Users
    My guy friends don't really comment of my hair but my female friends do and its never a compliment except once when I had a roller set but I don't think this exactly a compliment: "wow really that's your real hair I thought it was a wig"

    Maybe he has a crush on you? If you love the way your hair looks then wear it that way no matter what other people say.

    Good Luck :)

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  • GroYoFroGroYoFro Posts: 237Registered Users
    if you've got it flaunt it and just be confident
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  • TangledToriiTangledTorii Posts: 164Registered Users
    Oh frig don't get me started on this topic :/ I straightened my hair for the first time last week in FOREVER and I got soooo many compliments.

    "Omg I love your hair. Your so pretty and tall! You should be a model!"

    I got things similar to that from 3 separate people...

    So your telling me I'm not pretty/ could be a model with curly hair?

    I thought being pretty is being unique. How am I supposed to do that when my hair is the same damaged, dry, boring, straight thing everyone else has?! Society sucks.... -_-

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  • chicabellezachicabelleza Posts: 82Registered Users
    Nikki3b & GroYoFro said it better than I can. :)

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  • Libra_MoonLibra_Moon Posts: 255Registered Users
    We live in a straight hair society its hard to love and be proud of your curly hair, but if you do, forget the others because they are just jealous they can't get curls without frying their hair off their heads.

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  • beeduhbeeduh Posts: 684Registered Users
    I use to straighten my hair a lot in high school, but I had no clue how to actually take care of my curly hair. I never got called names because of it, but I do remember a couple of girls getting body waves or perms so they could have curly hair too. I did get told a few times like in elementary or middle school ( I went to an extremely small private schools until my junior year) that I needed to do something different with my hair. This was before good straighteners come out and I had no clue how to style it so it always got put up. Nowadays, I wear my hair down and curly all the time. I have co workers that tell me all the time they like my hair better curly. My husband, on the other hand, tells me all the time he likes my hair straight but he also understands that's just not how my hair is. He loves me for me, not because of my hair. :]

    Funny story though, I work at a daycare with 3 year olds. A few years back I came in with straight hair and a little girl looked at me and said "miss beeduh, you brushed your hair today.". I couldn't help but laugh. Most of the time my kids will ask if I have gotten a hair cut when I wear it straight. :]
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  • Libra_MoonLibra_Moon Posts: 255Registered Users
    My daughter gets asked if she had a cut on the rare days she wears her hair curly...and down.

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  • WickedWurlysWickedWurlys Posts: 74Registered Users
    Ok, chin up and embrace what you are.

    If Mr. D does it again, just make a quick comment like, "ya, Hitler had that same theory", wink and turn around and start talking to somebody else like it never happened. He'll feel stupid and I don't think you will have to worry about him doing it again.

    I work in a place that has tons of people and a majority of those women. Every once in a while, I will get a girl who takes it upon herself to helpfully tell me about flat irons and relaxers. I just politely and intently listen while nodding and when she is finished just tell her with a big smile, "yes, but I don't like looking like everyone else"....and if she was snotty or snide about it, I just flat tell her that "I don't wanna look like you".

    Usually about that time, somebody will either walk up or interject about how awesome my hair is. I'll be honest, I seriously can't go anywhere w/out somebody stopping me to tell me how pretty it is, or touching it and then they go into their hair stories. It takes me an hour to get through the grocery store, lol

    There are always gonna be the occasional catty person, but you will see that there are far more people that do appreciate the natural look and want it. Diversity is the spice of life, how boring would it be if everyone looked, acted and thought alike (yawn).

    So, stand up, be confident and rock them curls!!
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  • forbeeforbee Posts: 441Registered Users
    Tell him he'd be smart if he just got a brain.

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  • proudcurlygirlyproudcurlygirly Posts: 478Registered Users
    Tracey4444 wrote: »
    Ok, chin up and embrace what you are.

    If Mr. D does it again, just make a quick comment like, "ya, Hitler had that same theory", wink and turn around and start talking to somebody else like it never happened. He'll feel stupid and I don't think you will have to worry about him doing it again.

    I work in a place that has tons of people and a majority of those women. Every once in a while, I will get a girl who takes it upon herself to helpfully tell me about flat irons and relaxers. I just politely and intently listen while nodding and when she is finished just tell her with a big smile, "yes, but I don't like looking like everyone else"....and if she was snotty or snide about it, I just flat tell her that "I don't wanna look like you".

    Usually about that time, somebody will either walk up or interject about how awesome my hair is. I'll be honest, I seriously can't go anywhere w/out somebody stopping me to tell me how pretty it is, or touching it and then they go into their hair stories. It takes me an hour to get through the grocery store, lol

    There are always gonna be the occasional catty person, but you will see that there are far more people that do appreciate the natural look and want it. Diversity is the spice of life, how boring would it be if everyone looked, acted and thought alike (yawn).

    So, stand up, be confident and rock them curls!!

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  • SamiSami Posts: 94Registered Users
    Now that I know how to style my hair curly, I get like 2-3 compliments a day(: but one is always from my best friend with straight hair who desperately wants curly hair, so I guess that's kinda biased....idk

    but whenever I straighten my hair I get TONS of compliments, which make me think I look better with straight hair. Even my best friend who loves my curly hair, says it looks wonderful straight. Once my super strict teacher who's never commented on my hair before even said if I straighten my hair ever day I would look gorgeous.
  • Auntie BubbsAuntie Bubbs Posts: 1,068Registered Users
    Sami, it's completely inappropriate for a teacher to tell you you'd look gorgeous if you wore your hair, clothes, or anything a certain way. I hope you know that. It doesn't matter if the teacher is the same sex as you are, either.
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  • empressriempressri Posts: 4,812Registered Users
    he's a high-maintenance boy?? metrosexual??

    oooh hell no I'd have jokes on him for days. By the time I'd be through he would NEVER comment on my appearance again.
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  • naturalNstylishnaturalNstylish Posts: 11Registered Users
    Society just can't let go of the long, silky hair. I'm afraid it's here to stay but who cares? I love being kinky curly and will continue to be that way no matter what anyone says!

    Ditch the "best friend".
  • SamiSami Posts: 94Registered Users
    Sami, it's completely inappropriate for a teacher to tell you you'd look gorgeous if you wore your hair, clothes, or anything a certain way. I hope you know that. It doesn't matter if the teacher is the same sex as you are, either.

    I don't know if it came out sounding weird or anything, but the comment was really casual and did not sound inappropriate at all. But I'll be sure to keep that in mind in the future!
  • raindearraindear Posts: 356Registered Users
    "If you straighten your hair every day you'll look gorgeous."

    So, to please your preconceptions of beauty, I should spend hours damaging my hair every day? Umm, no thanks.
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  • ScritScrit Posts: 52Registered Users
    Seriously? He's a jerk.
    I've been through this kind of comments,but if he talks you down that way he's no real friend.
    Don't change your hair and tell him that you like it the way it is and if he hs sugestions of a pretty curly haircut or style he can go ahead.

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  • lj_princesslj_princess Posts: 46Registered Users
    That guy seems rude. I have a friend like that, from a different school and every time i go see her there, she *****es on and on about my hair...while she has that long CURLY weave on...i don't get it! needless to say i dumped that friend not long ago. Ppl like that aren't worth it
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  • CurlyJuliaCurlyJulia Posts: 38Registered Users
    Dude needs to get over himself.

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    Walk into work the next day, the first thing I hear is "WOW! Love the curly hair!" from a (male) colleague. Way to make my day! :blob8: :blob8:

    It helps that he has curly hair, too. :love5:

    I'm so sorry to hear that people are anti-curly hair. For whatever reason, I'm surrounded by folks who think it's great!
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