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Question about swaddling

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Before my son was born, I watched some videos and noticed how swaddling helps comfort a baby and keep them calm. I decided I was going to swaddle my son when he was born. He was swaddled in the hospital and I continued to do so when I got him home. For the last 2 weeks, he seems grumpy when I do it. Although he does calm down and sleep longer in it, now he is starting to break free from it. Since it bothers him, I am trying to get him to comfort himself and sleep without swaddling. I'm not sure what to do because he sleeps less without the swaddling and he won't soothe himself as fast, but he just seems to hate being swaddled so much now and I don't want to do it much longer.

I guess what I am asking is how do I "wean" him off swaddling and what suggestions do you have for me making him more comfortable so he can soothe himself better.

Thanks in advance.

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  • RusycurlyRusycurly Posts: 717Registered Users
    My son never really liked being restricted like that. I did it for the first week and after he broke free from it all the time so I just stopped. I would cover him with the blankets and sort of tucked it in underneath him after that.
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  • goldygoldy Posts: 5,455Registered Users
    Do you have any large swaddling blankets, like aiden & anais, that you can try and see if he's more comfortable?

    You can also try swaddling arms out and see if that provides him comfort.
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  • inheritedcurlsinheritedcurls Posts: 2,954Registered Users
    Swaddling never lasted for me...my kids were just to big and strong I guess. Addison was very cold natured..so she got layered with blankets on her...then she slept great. If she was cold...she did not sleep. She had a onesie, socks, footed pj's, mittens, then light blanket and heavy blanket on her. She slept like a rock...I know it goes against all the SID's stuff but that was the only way she slept.
  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    I'd still swaddle, maybe just a bit looser. Especially if he sleeps on his back. The startle reflex that wakes up back-sleepers continues until about 6 months.

    If he's not sleeping as long, either swaddled or not, you could try propping him on his side with rolled blankets. He's probably a natural tummy sleeper and once he's able to roll over onto his tummy, he'll sleep great.

    (Personally, I'd put him to sleep on his tummy now, but I know people have the irrational fear of SIDS beaten into them by the BTS campaign.)
  • AmnerisAmneris Posts: 15,117Registered Users
    Mine never liked to be swaddled. They were also big strong kids who wanted their arms free and did not want to be restricted.

    I agree about back sleeping - it sucks. I was more fanatical about it with #1 (naturally.) #2 has
    always been exceptionally mobile and was rolling himself onto his tummy to sleep by himself within a few weeks, so I just let him. He was a great sleeper, especially in the earlier days (lately, not great due to teething unfortunately.) #2 does like a blanket on his head when he goes to sleep, for some reason, but not a full swaddle.
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  • FieryCurlsFieryCurls Posts: 2,904Registered Users
    I'd still swaddle, maybe just a bit looser. Especially if he sleeps on his back. The startle reflex that wakes up back-sleepers continues until about 6 months.

    If he's not sleeping as long, either swaddled or not, you could try propping him on his side with rolled blankets. He's probably a natural tummy sleeper and once he's able to roll over onto his tummy, he'll sleep great.

    (Personally, I'd put him to sleep on his tummy now, but I know people have the irrational fear of SIDS beaten into them by the BTS campaign.)

    I agree. The BTS campaign drives me crazy. Both of my kids are stomach sleepers and I had someone basically call me a bad mother because I will not fight with my children about how they are most comfortable sleeping. Besides, we do everything in the BTS campaign besides putting them on their backs.
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    FieryCurls wrote: »
    I'd still swaddle, maybe just a bit looser. Especially if he sleeps on his back. The startle reflex that wakes up back-sleepers continues until about 6 months.

    If he's not sleeping as long, either swaddled or not, you could try propping him on his side with rolled blankets. He's probably a natural tummy sleeper and once he's able to roll over onto his tummy, he'll sleep great.

    (Personally, I'd put him to sleep on his tummy now, but I know people have the irrational fear of SIDS beaten into them by the BTS campaign.)

    I agree. The BTS campaign drives me crazy. Both of my kids are stomach sleepers and I had someone basically call me a bad mother because I will not fight with my children about how they are most comfortable sleeping. Besides, we do everything in the BTS campaign besides putting them on their backs.


    I've been called a bad mother too for letting my babies sleep on their tummies. It's ridiculous. There's no scientific proof that BTS prevents SIDS, and I have really looked. BTS is lowest-common-denominator advice...which has ruined the sleep patterns of millions of babies. If you follow the other guidelines, your well-rested tummy-sleeping baby will be just as safe as the screaming non-sleeping BTS babies.
  • Jess the MessJess the Mess Posts: 5,844Registered Users
    I agree. DD was a stomach sleeper. She would not sleep any other way and I was done fighting it.

    With DS he didn't like stomach or back sleeping. I got one of those sleep positioners and he loved sleeping on his side swaddled loosely. You may want to try that.


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  • SystemSystem Posts: 39,059 Administrator
    Thanks guys. The stomach sleeping thing makes sense because when I am lying on the sofa sometimes I will put him on my belly and hold him and he sleeps like a rock. I admit I have been paranoid about SIDS. I never gave it any thought until I was in the hospital and every five minutes somebody was reminding me about it. This is my first baby so I am worried about everything. It kinda sucks.
  • inheritedcurlsinheritedcurls Posts: 2,954Registered Users
    Addison was definitely not a back sleeper...right after bringing her home...she would roll on her side...I finally just started putting her down on her side...she slept much better.

    I thought of something else I've done. If they don't like being swaddled but still like tight feeling...I have tucked the sides of a light blanket under the edges of the mattress (mine were usually in pack-n play until 5 months). A nurse showed us this in the hospital because Chas kept coming unswaddled.

    If I had known about the weighted blanket at a younger age...Chas would have had one...
  • rileybrileyb Posts: 1,975Registered Users
    We swaddled with a miracle blanket for the first few months. I weaned her off it by swaddling her with legs out for 3 nights, one arm out for 3 nights, then the second arm out for three nights and then ditching the swaddle altogether. With mine, at least, she did NOT like abrupt changes - although I noticed that more past the 4 month mark.

    Slightly off topic, but there are some interesting studies in other countries re: SIDS and flame retardant chemicals/fungi in mattresses. I found them to be an interesting read.
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  • AmnerisAmneris Posts: 15,117Registered Users
    I agree. DD was a stomach sleeper. She would not sleep any other way and I was done fighting it.

    With DS he didn't like stomach or back sleeping. I got one of those sleep positioners and he loved sleeping on his side swaddled loosely. You may want to try that.


    My fat thumb will make mistakes.

    Sleep positioners are NOT recommended - PLEASE do not use one. They have caused baby deaths and have been pulled, at least in Canada.
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  • Jess the MessJess the Mess Posts: 5,844Registered Users
    Amneris wrote: »
    I agree. DD was a stomach sleeper. She would not sleep any other way and I was done fighting it.

    With DS he didn't like stomach or back sleeping. I got one of those sleep positioners and he loved sleeping on his side swaddled loosely. You may want to try that.


    My fat thumb will make mistakes.

    Sleep positioners are NOT recommended - PLEASE do not use one. They have caused baby deaths and have been pulled, at least in Canada.
    I didn't know. Sorry for recommending it. I'll edit my post. I'll have to read up on it.

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  • SystemSystem Posts: 39,059 Administrator
    I tried half swaddling him and he seemed to enjoy having his arms free.
  • sweetmx85sweetmx85 Posts: 1,017Registered Users
    my son hated swaddling from the get go. I tried it a few times and he was so upset I just let it go
    it was his arms he liked having free. I'd wrap blankets around him from the waste down

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  • AmnerisAmneris Posts: 15,117Registered Users
    Amneris wrote: »
    I agree. DD was a stomach sleeper. She would not sleep any other way and I was done fighting it.

    With DS he didn't like stomach or back sleeping. I got one of those sleep positioners and he loved sleeping on his side swaddled loosely. You may want to try that.


    My fat thumb will make mistakes.


    Sleep positioners are NOT recommended - PLEASE do not use one. They have caused baby deaths and have been pulled, at least in Canada.
    I didn't know. Sorry for recommending it. I'll edit my post. I'll have to read up on it.

    My fat thumb will make mistakes.

    Sorry, that came across as harsh. I just wanted people to be careful because I just recently read about the dangers of those - I don't think they would have been known when you used them.

    eta: Here is some info. /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.cbc.ca%2Fnews%2Fhealth%2Fstory%2F2010%2F09%2F29%2Fsleep-positioners.html" class="Popup
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  • inheritedcurlsinheritedcurls Posts: 2,954Registered Users
    Interesting Amernis...I tried those with Chas...I think I used one with Addison. If I had a kiddo now...probably would not use.
  • Jess the MessJess the Mess Posts: 5,844Registered Users
    Amneris wrote: »
    Amneris wrote: »


    Sleep positioners are NOT recommended - PLEASE do not use one. They have caused baby deaths and have been pulled, at least in Canada.
    I didn't know. Sorry for recommending it. I'll edit my post. I'll have to read up on it.

    My fat thumb will make mistakes.

    Sorry, that came across as harsh. I just wanted people to be careful because I just recently read about the dangers of those - I don't think they would have been known when you used them.

    eta: Here is some info. /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.cbc.ca%2Fnews%2Fhealth%2Fstory%2F2010%2F09%2F29%2Fsleep-positioners.html" class="Popup
    It's ok. I was on my phone to reply and couldn't look it up. You're right, it was almost 9 years ago I used one. I wouldn't have recommended it had I known. My babies aren't babies anymore so I don't come across recalls on many baby products. Mine didn't look like that one in the link though. It was all one sturdy, snug pillow.




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  • goldygoldy Posts: 5,455Registered Users
    I tried half swaddling him and he seemed to enjoy having his arms free.

    Yay! Glad that worked :)
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  • StarrwithoutniteStarrwithoutnite Posts: 1,732Registered Users
    Alyssa would break out of a swaddle pretty early cuz she was so long (I had a swaddle sack thing, with velcro) so I started just swaddling her arms and that worked for a while but I stopped cold turkey when I forgot the swaddle sack while on vacation, she has slept comfortably on her tummy since then...about 12 weeks. She always slept better on her belly. Still does. She never fell asleep or stayed asleep on her back.
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