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The Help

eche428eche428 Posts: 2,782Registered Users Curl Neophyte
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Anyone read The Help? Is it good. I'm on page eleven annd just can't stand how one character speaks to another. I have a really hard time with abusive behavior and language. Should I stick it out? Does it get better or worse?
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  • SpaghettiHeadSpaghettiHead Posts: 1,510Registered Users
    Is this the help that is now a movie? I want to see the movie, but was wondering if I should read the book first...now you've got me wondering.
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  • SCGSCG Posts: 5,416Registered Users
    I vote that you stick it out! If I remember right, I had a hard time at first... But ended up loving it, in the end! It's one of my favorite books, now.

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  • 1paperairplane1paperairplane Posts: 72Registered Users
    Yes, and I loooooved it. If you put it down now, you will be missing out!
  • eche428eche428 Posts: 2,782Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I didn't know it is now a movie. My friend Lisa just told me about it and I saw that it's a "read in the store" book at Barnes & Noble. I'll try it again on Monday and try to just get through the tough stuff. Thanks!
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  • rolltidegalrolltidegal Posts: 307Registered Users
    If the dialogue is going to bother you that much, it's probably not the right book for you (as good of a book as so many, myself included, thought it was). It's set in 1960s Mississippi, and she doesn't try to sugar coat anything. It's ugly. It's a great book, but that's something that continues throughout. So if it's something that really bothers you, you may not want to read it.
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  • nandiknitsnandiknits Posts: 260Registered Users
    I've heard nothing but great stuff about this book and I can't wait to get my hands on it.
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  • SpaghettiHeadSpaghettiHead Posts: 1,510Registered Users
    I saw it in Target yesterday, and went ahead and picked it up.....guess I'll find out soon how it is.
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  • PartyHairPartyHair Posts: 7,713Registered Users
    I wish she either would've used dialect for all characters, or for none of them. The fact that she uses it only for the African American characters is ridiculous. Like the white women in the deep south don't have accents? Ugh.
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  • EdenRoseEdenRose Posts: 181Registered Users
    i just started it so far so good. abeen wanting to read it for a while.
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  • MunchyMunchy Posts: 5,206Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    PartyHair wrote: »
    I wish she either would've used dialect for all characters, or for none of them. The fact that she uses it only for the African American characters is ridiculous. Like the white women in the deep south don't have accents? Ugh.

    I had the same thought when I read it. I did enjoy it, but I had to block out that whole accent business in my head.
  • 1paperairplane1paperairplane Posts: 72Registered Users
    You all should listen to the audiobook. The voices are SO GOOD.
  • SamanthascurlzSamanthascurlz Posts: 1,082Registered Users
    I am currently reading it now. I like the language because it gives a true sense of the era and location that the characters are in. Honestly, if it was in a more 'proper' language as today, then I don't think it would be as believable. Also, people probably wouldn't like it as much. Try to read slower and not think about it too much. Let the language absorb you as you cognitively go to another place. After a while your lexicon (network of language mentally) will begin to adjust.
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  • naturaldollnaturaldoll Posts: 567Registered Users
    i was trying to avoid it because i'm admittedly easily upset, and had heard that different parts of the book are racially insensitive. but the movie came on tv and i liked it, then the next day i was in a thrift store and they had a copy of the book for 99 cents (hows that for a coincidence.). so i figured what the hell, at least this way if it is racist, goodwill is getting my money and not the author. i actually really liked it. it had some elements that bugged me. the dialect that only blacks used got under my skin, i mean really, only black people were the only ones in the south talking that way? This is shallow, but i'm a big follower of the BWE movement and as such, tend to be sensitive to how black women are portrayed in popular culture, it really, really, really bugged me that all the black women were discribed as either fat or old, or both. i mean they're already maids for a living, do they really need to look the stereotypical part, too? were there no beautiful maids in the 1960's. sticking with appearences, where the heck did kathryn come up with her color descriptions? after i finished, i gave the book to my younger brother, to read and see if he could find what insulted me most. he called me the same night and said "why the hell is she describing ladies as having skin the color of cockroaches and asphalt?!" i mean, yes the food comparasions for black women's skin are played out, but if it's a choice between insects and food, i'd much rather be called chocolate colored, than roach colored. then we come to (i'm forgetting names) skeeter's maid's daughter. how is skeeter's maid biracial, but "asphalt colored" while her daughter is 3/4 black and has skeeter's coloring? okay, i'm the mother of a very light mixed race daughter, so i know mixed people come out light sometimes, but that light a generation later? doesn't sound right. and then there was mae mobbley, that poor baby, i just wanted to adopt her. but even considering all that bugged me, it was an enjoyable book, i really liked it.
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  • SamanthascurlzSamanthascurlz Posts: 1,082Registered Users
    i was trying to avoid it because i'm admittedly easily upset, and had heard that different parts of the book are racially insensitive. but the movie came on tv and i liked it, then the next day i was in a thrift store and they had a copy of the book for 99 cents (hows that for a coincidence.). so i figured what the hell, at least this way if it is racist, goodwill is getting my money and not the author. i actually really liked it. it had some elements that bugged me. the dialect that only blacks used got under my skin, i mean really, only black people were the only ones in the south talking that way? This is shallow, but i'm a big follower of the BWE movement and as such, tend to be sensitive to how black women are portrayed in popular culture, it really, really, really bugged me that all the black women were discribed as either fat or old, or both. i mean they're already maids for a living, do they really need to look the stereotypical part, too? were there no beautiful maids in the 1960's. sticking with appearences, where the heck did kathryn come up with her color descriptions? after i finished, i gave the book to my younger brother, to read and see if he could find what insulted me most. he called me the same night and said "why the hell is she describing ladies as having skin the color of cockroaches and asphalt?!" i mean, yes the food comparasions for black women's skin are played out, but if it's a choice between insects and food, i'd much rather be called chocolate colored, than roach colored. then we come to (i'm forgetting names) skeeter's maid's daughter. how is skeeter's maid biracial, but "asphalt colored" while her daughter is 3/4 black and has skeeter's coloring? okay, i'm the mother of a very light mixed race daughter, so i know mixed people come out light sometimes, but that light a generation later? doesn't sound right. and then there was mae mobbley, that poor baby, i just wanted to adopt her. but even considering all that bugged me, it was an enjoyable book, i really liked it.

    Ok great post! Not going to lie, at first I wanted to say that the reason the author had the maids speaking like that was to evolve the characters. However, after reading your post, I realized I see more of your points. It would have made more sense if the other characters also had more of a slang bc that is just how people speak in general. In a way, it did reinforce the typical stereotypes, regardless of time. I didn't even realize the comparison of skin colors! I must have either overlooked it or it didn't register. I did enjoy the book overall though as well!
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