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GIRLFRIENDS who try and COPY your style?

ZARIA**ZARIA** Posts: 706Registered Users
Are you flattered or irritated?
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  • Agent ScarlettAgent Scarlett Posts: 275Registered Users
    I had someone (a former co-worker/friend) that used to buy the exact same outfits and shoes that I had. It irritated the crap out of me. She even tried to do her hair like mine :? . One day, I came in to the office wearing a new top with skirt. Guess who went out and bought the same exact outfit and whore it the next day?
  • yagottaloveyacurlsyagottaloveyacurls Posts: 5,766Registered Users
    If it's just little things, I find it flattering. (and even a little cute.) If it's all the time...hmmm. That has never happened to me. That would be major weirdness, and it would irritate me.

    CSI Gal wrote:
    I had someone (a former co-worker/friend) that used to buy the exact same outfits and shoes that I had. It irritated the crap out of me. She even tried to do her hair like mine :? . One day, I came in to the office wearing a new top with skirt. Guess who went out and bought the same exact outfit and whore it the next day?
    :? :lol:
  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Yep, in high school. It seriously ticked me off. She copied my style of dress, she'd buy the same music I'd buy (which was not mainstream), use the same slang words (some of which I made up) and she even dated two guys I'd broken up with. She was a great friend otherwise, but gosh, that was annoying!

  • O d d i s y~O d d i s y~ Posts: 1,042Registered Users
    very very annoying!
    And the end of the day , all you've got is yourself..:headbang:
  • katethegreatkatethegreat Posts: 801Registered Users
    It hasn't happened often, but when it does, I find it irritating.
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  • YolyCYolyC Posts: 3,758Registered Users
    Very annoying. Mine isn't withg clothes, but with perfume. I'll wear a new scent and my co-worker is like a bloodhound until she finds and buys the exact same one. :x
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  • bushyheadbushyhead Posts: 1,676Registered Users
    Annoying if they just run out and buy the same thing with no explanation. Flattering if they compliment you and tell you they've been looking for something just like it. 8)
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  • Oregano  (formerly babywavy)Oregano (formerly babywavy) Posts: 5,297Registered Users
    I don't understand why someone would be irritated with something like that. I mean, if it's a girlfriend of yours, what's the big deal if she copies something you do? Otherwise, why would you be like "hey, I love those jeans, where'd you get them?" if you weren't planning on getting them too? If I found that much irritation in a friend of mine copying some of my style, then I probably really don't like her that much as a friend.

    A co-worker, or non-friend doing this would totally annoy me, as it would if my friend was trying to BE me, but that's never happened.
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  • ZARIA**ZARIA** Posts: 706Registered Users
    I guess I should explain why I started this topic...I have a female associate/ part time friend, who tries to copy EVERYTHING about me. For instance..

    My hair: I have, long, big curly hair...Now she has a long curly weave..

    My clothes: Since my reduction in the summer I only wore tube tops..She never ever wore them till I did, even buying the same EXACT shirts..She buys the EXACT same jeans, belts, jewelry, boots as me..What REALLY REALLY pissed me off is when we were going X-mas shopping and I happened to see this VERY seXxy red very dressy tube top style shirt to wear this friday for girls night out. When we left the store she told me she was going to look for a RED shirt that was SEXIER then the one I brought..UGH!!!

    Its to the point I dont even want to be around this chick because I feel she is in some kind of competition with me. I have a unique style, and I am sick of her trying to copy me!!
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  • SystemSystem Posts: 39,059 Administrator
    I hate when the individual in question constantly derides your hair/clothing item/accessory/tattoo and sneers at it...but then will go out and get the exact same thing.

    Someone who was just copying everything with no hostility? I would sort of feel weirded out, maybe it's because I've never experienced that before.
  • dia99dia99 Posts: 1,998Registered Users
    I always tell my girlfriends when I get something at a really great price, which is most of the time since I'm an excellent shopper (cheap or very frugal). :D If it's a really, really great price and I don't think whatever it is will still be there later, I'll just pick it up for them.

    Most of my friends have similar taste in individual pieces, but we put them together totally differently (different coordinating pieces, shoes, accesories, makeup choices), have different body types, etc. So, things don't end up looking the same even if they are. I guess I probably wouldn't like it if we went places looking like twins. I've been out with two girlfriends and all three of us ended up wearing the same top I'd found on sale for $4. We had on three different colors, but we also didn't look like we had on the same top because of the other clothes we had on with the top.

    If it bothers you, maybe you should say something. Maybe tell her you want to know what she's wearing before you all go out so that you can be sure not to dress alike.
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    Some of you sound like bickering children. My kids whine like that "Mooooooom, she's copying me", "Wah, he's copying me". :roll:

    I'll just repeat what I tell them all time: Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Take it as a compliment and spend your time worrying about something more important.
  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Some of you sound like bickering children.

    Maybe because I was a child when it happened... :lol:

  • XyzXyz Posts: 685Registered Users
    I do think some imatiation is a sincere form a flattery.

    But if it goes too far and you ignored the warning signs, then you have to learn too. I had to learn the hard way. I have a friend (we're still friends, just not close) who not only would copy my clothes, but when we didn't have on similar clothes so would look for something to make herself feel that we were sooo similar.

    For instance, she'd say, "Oh my goodness I have on a red headband and you have a red sweater. I guess we both just felt "red" today." I know it doesn't seem like any big deal, but the attention got worse until she ended up calling a friend of mine and basically telling her to back off because she and I were really really close, like sisters, and she could tell that this new girl was trying to break us apart. Of course, my other friend called me and was concerned because she didn't know what the heck my crazy friend was talking about.

    Some people can get a little crazy with the copying and it's there way of ensuring you don't grow apart.
  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    Maybe because I was a child when it happened...

    But you're not a child anymore. And you still haven't put it into perspective.
  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    My clothes: Since my reduction in the summer I only wore tube tops..She never ever wore them till I did, even buying the same EXACT shirts..She buys the EXACT same jeans, belts, jewelry, boots as me..What REALLY REALLY pissed me off is when we were going X-mas shopping and I happened to see this VERY seXxy red very dressy tube top style shirt to wear this friday for girls night out. When we left the store she told me she was going to look for a RED shirt that was SEXIER then the one I brought..UGH!!!


    Maybe all the hooker clothes come in red this season?
  • HairproductjunkieHairproductjunkie Posts: 363Registered Users
    Some of you sound like bickering children. My kids whine like that "Mooooooom, she's copying me", "Wah, he's copying me". :roll:

    I'll just repeat what I tell them all time: Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Take it as a compliment and spend your time worrying about something more important.

    Granted, if it's a couple of things that she is copying, no big deal.

    HOWEVER, some of these stories sound like the copy-er is on the verge of stalking.
    CSI Gal wrote:
    I had someone (a former co-worker/friend) that used to buy the exact same outfits and shoes that I had. It irritated the crap out of me. She even tried to do her hair like mine :? . One day, I came in to the office wearing a new top with skirt. Guess who went out and bought the same exact outfit and whore it the next day?

    That's just freaky.
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    I do think some imatiation is a sincere form a flattery.

    But if it goes too far and you ignored the warning signs, then you have to learn too. I had to learn the hard way. I have a friend (we're still friends, just not close) who not only would copy my clothes, but when we didn't have on similar clothes so would look for something to make herself feel that we were sooo similar.

    For instance, she'd say, "Oh my goodness I have on a red headband and you have a red sweater. I guess we both just felt "red" today." I know it doesn't seem like any big deal, but the attention got worse until she ended up calling a friend of mine and basically telling her to back off because she and I were really really close, like sisters, and she could tell that this new girl was trying to break us apart. Of course, my other friend called me and was concerned because she didn't know what the heck my crazy friend was talking about.

    Some people can get a little crazy with the copying and it's there way of ensuring you don't grow apart.


    I believe there was a movie about that very subject (Single White Female). If it gets to the point where your roomate throws your dog off the balcony and kills your boyfriend, then, yes it's a problem. Otherwise, groups of girls do tend to dress alike and there is always some conceited one in the bunch who thinks she started the trend and gets all assy that everyone is "copying" her...makes me go :roll:
  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Maybe because I was a child when it happened...

    But you're not a child anymore. And you still haven't put it into perspective.

    Are you sad because nobody wants to copy you? :cry:

  • XyzXyz Posts: 685Registered Users
    My clothes: Since my reduction in the summer I only wore tube tops..She never ever wore them till I did, even buying the same EXACT shirts..She buys the EXACT same jeans, belts, jewelry, boots as me..What REALLY REALLY pissed me off is when we were going X-mas shopping and I happened to see this VERY seXxy red very dressy tube top style shirt to wear this friday for girls night out. When we left the store she told me she was going to look for a RED shirt that was SEXIER then the one I brought..UGH!!!


    Maybe all the hooker clothes come in red this season?
    RedCatWaves, it seems like you are taking this very personally. If you have a story to tell that negates all this please share. I'd love another perspective cause I actually don't understand people who want to look like you.
  • velvet pawsvelvet paws Posts: 1,250Registered Users
    I don't mind if someone else buys something I have -- I've liked things my friends have worn and asked them where they got it. However, I think I'd be weirded out if someone wanted to copy everything I wore ... it's too Single White Female, I think I'd be uncomfortable.
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  • HairproductjunkieHairproductjunkie Posts: 363Registered Users
    I don't mind if someone else buys something I have -- I've liked things my friends have worn and asked them where they got it. However, I think I'd be weirded out if someone wanted to copy everything I wore ... it's too Single White Female, I think I'd be uncomfortable.

    EXACTLY. I totally agree. And there's a fine line between someone copying everything that you wear and them leaving dead cats on your front porch and stalking you.
    GuardianB wrote:
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Poopsie wrote:
    I don't mind if someone else buys something I have -- I've liked things my friends have worn and asked them where they got it. However, I think I'd be weirded out if someone wanted to copy everything I wore ... it's too Single White Female, I think I'd be uncomfortable.

    EXACTLY. I totally agree. And there's a fine line between someone copying everything that you wear and them leaving dead cats on your front porch and stalking you.

    LOL I never worried about that! But it made me feel like I was being looked up to as a role model or something...and I just wanted something more egalatarian...

  • jennyfurrensjennyfurrens Posts: 708Registered Users
    I remember WAY back in first year of school (in Uk that's age 12-13) and I was quite an oblivious kid. No slow maturing bodily, but I was happy to wear whatever fitted and just run around outside playing in trees. So a few of my friends 'matured' fashion wise first, and were conscious of what they were wearing. When I realised I was lagging behind I did 'copy' slightly but only for reassurance that I was fitting in. For example, she bough Ellesse shoes, so I bought shoes similar by the same brand but not THE same. I think it did bug a few of my friends that I was doing it but at 13 girls are bitchy. But once I got over the initial ' I have to fit in' I wear what I want.

    But dressing the same is kinda pack instinct. Here in Scotland you've got the Emo kids, the Goth kids, the Mosher kids, the Neds (sports clothes) the grunge kids, the going-out kids. They all dress exactly the same, and its so they can distinguish what group they're in. Adults do it to a lesser extent I'm sure.

    But I do have one friend now who also has blonde curly-ish hair, but its a lot thinner and wavier than mine,a nd she doesn't really look after it to show off the curls (despite that i've given wee tips.) Anyway, she is quite an uninspired person and just wears whatever, but if i'm wearin ga particularly nice outfit she'll try imitate the style (eg. a hooded zippie under a blazer, with a vest top underneath and cord pants) Not the exact same clothes but the same style. I do take it as a compliment I guess although it can irk me sometimes.

    And what is up with RCC comment and the response up there? I am SO lost.

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  • SCGSCG Posts: 5,416Registered Users
    I used to have a friend who would try to do everything the same as me - including dress like me, say the same types of things, etc. It annoyed me so much. But what bothered me MORE was that she'd act like she'd gotten the idea to dress or act a certain way, and I copied her.
    It was so obnoxious - we're no longer friends.

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  • M2LRM2LR Posts: 8,630Registered Users
    It was annoying in high school, and shortly after.

    When I got older, I had one friend that was older than me that would try and copy me ALL the time. Even our wedding invitations and dresses were similar, etc. At that point, and now, I think it's kind of pathetic...

    If I did see someone copying me now, I don't think that I would really say that it was "copying" just that we have the same interests.
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  • nepanthenepanthe Posts: 292Registered Users
    My cousin does this..I don't know why..it is not flattering at all. She looks like she does not have any imagination at all.
  • rainshowerrainshower Posts: 4,420Registered Users
    I believe there was a movie about that very subject (Single White Female). If it gets to the point where your roomate throws your dog off the balcony and kills your boyfriend, then, yes it's a problem. Otherwise, groups of girls do tend to dress alike and there is always some conceited one in the bunch who thinks she started the trend and gets all assy that everyone is "copying" her...makes me go :roll:

    let it out! let it out!

    let me guess, you are one of the copiers? :wink:
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  • LucilleLucille Posts: 588Registered Users
    Most girlfriends are girlfriends because of some mutual interests and tastes. As a result, it would be the rare friend who did not share some tastes with me, and I would not construe a similar look in dress or home as copying. Years ago, my best friend and I both went to the same store at different times and both bought the same loveseat. Mine was in the store with the "sold" sticker on it, when she ordered hers. And it's a very peculiar loveseat. Other things like that have happened, which some might conclude to be her copying me. In reality though, these things are because we think alike and have similar tastes. So we often end up in the same place in terms of "look."
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