What do you like better about your appearance as you get older?

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  • SparklyCurlsSparklyCurls Registered Users Posts: 163 Curl Neophyte
    I think once you reach a mature age there is no “dressing old’ –it’s just more about being fully assured in being yourself and dressing what fits you as a certain individual - although, I have always done my own thing and not followed the crowd.

    What do you like better about your appearance as you get older?: for me, I guess to sum it up it is that as I’ve gotten older I like the fact of less is more. My outward appearance is of a healthy, hip 50 year old – not an old lady 50.

  • Robin-in-FLRobin-in-FL Registered Users Posts: 1,731 Curl Neophyte
    Verity wrote: »
    You under-45s may be in for a shock in a few years. That is the age when I REALLY started noticing a difference in my appearance--more wrinkles, more sagging, just not being able to pass for younger than I am. Not fun.

    I think this is entirely plausible. But I also see some very well-built older ladies in my jazzercise class, athletic 60 yo ladies. They look good to me. I do think skin after menopause takes a dive, not particularly looking forward to that. But not so worried about muscle mass.
    2c / C / iii (FIA)
    Med-Coarse, LowPorosity, NormalElast (LCLF)

    Shoulder-Length now.

    Wash: DevaCare Low Poo
    Detangle & Rinseout: Walgreens or Sally's Conditioning Balm (always)
    Leave-in: DevaCare OneC (budget choice is GFTN)
    Style: ReCoil & DevaCare Arc Angel (budget choices are HESMU or Got2BSpikedUp)

    Henna!
  • ninja dogninja dog Registered Users Posts: 23,780 Curl Neophyte
    I don't break out anymore (pimples), but strangely, my nose still shines to high heaven in humid or pms-related conditions.

    I used to have a softness to my face which I miss. Some of it was probably expression. My formerly big brown eyes look smaller because of sagging lids (inherited), but I'm more cynical, too, so that also accounts for some of it.

    I find I look a lot better when I'm happy.
  • 2poodles2poodles Registered Users Posts: 2,485 Curl Connoisseur
    My dark under eye circles are less noticeable. Or perhaps I'm so used to them that they don't bother me as much anymore! Actually since I have used sunscreen on my face since I was in my 20's and after using retin-A for the past 15 years (initially for acne) my skin looks really pretty good for 49. I don't plan on using any cosmetic surgical techniques to change my skin or face, but I will continue to use sunscreen and retin-A.
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]2Poodles :flower: Southeast PA
    fine, med porosity, normal elasticity
    Currently using the following 2 - 3 x/week:
    Living Proof Perfect Hair Day suphate-free Poo, cone-free CO and styling treatment, plus KCCC

  • VerityVerity Registered Users Posts: 616 Curl Neophyte
    Well, 45 isn't menopause, not for me, and not for most of us. I just think it's "that age" when years start to show on your face.
  • caramix3acaramix3a Registered Users Posts: 462 Curl Neophyte
    " I just think it's "that age" when years start to show on your face." - Verity

    Very true! I have never understood how some people can say that almost the minute they came into menopause that their skin took a turn for the worse. In actuality, that process might have been underway for a good while and it reached critical mass around that period of their life. But for different people, that skin issue is different. Some people look like they've been through the mill by the time they're only 40, while others look good(although not young - there's a difference)and that moment of really seeing the aging signs is delayed, amongst people who are NOT having any work done or Rx skin care. Genetics and lifestyle really do account for a whole lot more in the skin game than people believe. There are people who supposedly do everything in the book with their skin, and it just looks, well-OK, and others who do very little and their skin looks great, like they spent a mint on it. That part is genetics. The other part is lifestyle - if one indeed has had a lot of stress, too much alcohol and cigarettes, plus unhealthy food and little exercise, that WILL show up in one's face too. All over, in fact.
    I will also say that it seems that there are women now in their 70s or so who have very nice skin and they didn't grow up with industrial strength sunblocks or products, and don't use any now, either. Skin care was simpler way back when, and people didn't have the expectations that they now do with products. Anything beyond cleansing and moisturing(toning and an occasional mask, usually homemade, if one were getting fancy)wasn't even on the radar.
  • Robin-in-FLRobin-in-FL Registered Users Posts: 1,731 Curl Neophyte
    ta, Verity & Caramix.

    I am glad to hear that the immediate dive @menopause not real, that did freak me out. Slow changes are manageable for me.

    On topic, I'm really truly just happier with my looks now than I've ever been. No lie. It may simply be that my standards are lower, like more ladies my age have fallen apart so comparatively doing pretty well; I am now at the same weight as before I had 4 kids, skin looks better, not worse, though OLDER - because I had godawful skin when younger so this is an improvement - and I have a good working body that feels good and I am thankful for it.

    Working out has made a huge difference for me. I eat well, moderately, and take care of my skin & hair but it's the Jazzercise 4x/week that makes the biggest difference. And Jazzercise is where I see the fit older ladies still lookin' good and that is what I want as I age. Not to stay young. I want to look mature and great. Not trying to plug Jazzercise in particular, it just works for me 'cause I was a dancer and get bored with other workouts. But I do want to plug EXERCISE in general. If you can, do it! Such a difference I see between those who do and those who don't.

    And aaah I still hope one day to have the beautiful old looks, not "prettiness" but those beautiful old ladies that look so good, so much experience in their faces, the deep beauty you just cannot have without all the time to develop it.
    2c / C / iii (FIA)
    Med-Coarse, LowPorosity, NormalElast (LCLF)

    Shoulder-Length now.

    Wash: DevaCare Low Poo
    Detangle & Rinseout: Walgreens or Sally's Conditioning Balm (always)
    Leave-in: DevaCare OneC (budget choice is GFTN)
    Style: ReCoil & DevaCare Arc Angel (budget choices are HESMU or Got2BSpikedUp)

    Henna!
  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Posts: 20,729 Curl Virtuoso
    It kind of makes me sad that so many people (mostly women) are so afraid to grow old. The time, money, effort put into 'looking young' amazes me sometimes.

    But I'm the tiny minority that would rather spend the day at the beach on a perfect day, reading a great book, taking pictures, daydreaming, and napping than spending that same day worrying about wrinkles and age spots, worrying about looking 'my age', or spending time and money peeling the skin off my face and slathering on expensive miracle products.

    Not a criticism of anyone in the least. People think I'm crazy because I don't dye my hair, refuse to spend money on the newest anti-aging products, and I won't have 'work done'. Just a different way of looking at life I guess.

    I look in the mirror and see a different person than I did when I was 20, 30 40, and even 50. I still like her pretty well. : )

    In the end, if we're lucky, we are all gonna end up old no matter what we do.
    --I'm located in Western PA.   --I found NC in late 2004, CG since February 2005, joined the forums in May 2005, started going grey in late 2005.   --My hair is 3B with some 3A, currently at mid back length when dry,  texture-medium/fine, porosity-top is low, middle is medium, ends are porous, elasticity-normal.   --My long time favorite products are Suave & VO5 conditioners, LA Looks Sport Gel, coconut oil, honey, vinegar.   
    --My CG and grey hair progress -  
    http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/going-gray/179328-jeepys-grey-hair-progress.html   
    --My article at NaturallyCurly about going grey - 
    https://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/color/how-i-went-completely-gray-and-loved-it
  • RednaturalcurlsRednaturalcurls Registered Users Posts: 1,814 Curl Neophyte
    I find the older I get the more relaxed and/or comfortable I feel about my hair. There was a time I would not go out anywhere without full hair and makeup and now I am just throw it in a ponytail and go. It's opened me up to experimenting with more styles too because I am totally ok with it being big and crazy. Things i never did when I was younger. And I worry less about makeup too. Most days just mascara and a little primer to even out and that never happened before. Of course there are tons of things I am not happy about with my skin as I age due to increased sensitivities and dryness and in that respect I miss my younger skin. LOL!

    I am in a struggle with my glasses. It reminds me I am getting older and that sucks but on the flip side, I like how I look in glasses and it hides alot of issues i have with my eyes (eczema) so i feel more comfortable. Now I am experimenting with more fun glasses so I don't feel grandma-ish. Lol!

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  • banjocurlbanjocurl Registered Users Posts: 1,031 Curl Connoisseur
    jeep you look fabulous--you are lean and muscular and healthy and gorgeous. i am also in the tiny minority (getting larger tho) of people who don't color or wear makeup or do "work". at this point i am having an involuntary "peel" from the chemo cream so i would welcome back my nice NORMAL wrinkly 62 yr old sun damaged skin. right now i look like a cross between a beat up prize fighter and a teenager with really bad acne, tomorrow i go to the dermatologist and i have never SO looked forward to a dr appt in my life--tonight is the last night putting on this disgusting cream...now the sunscreen and visors will be a permanent part of my life. if you go to an old time music event you will see many women from 45-80 who have gray hair and no make up and are kickbutt musicians...
    Susan suburban NY
    3b going gray, not thick, waist length when wet, a bit below shoulders when dry
    CG since 11/11/04
    http://public.fotki.com/banjolady/
    PW: banjo
    HG: suave and honey for co-wash, deva, i use garnier fructis regular CO's or boots pink or white as leave ins and LA looks sport gel. plop w microfiber turban, then curl towel scrunch, then another turban.i sleep with the turban on. little one minute hair styling videos http://www.youtube.com/user/lazycurls
  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Posts: 20,729 Curl Virtuoso
    thanks banjo! I am not at all muscular tho. hahaha. And YOU are the gorgeous one. those cheekbones! that hair! hope everything heals up well for you. I've seen videos of some of your friends and they are amazing.
    --I'm located in Western PA.   --I found NC in late 2004, CG since February 2005, joined the forums in May 2005, started going grey in late 2005.   --My hair is 3B with some 3A, currently at mid back length when dry,  texture-medium/fine, porosity-top is low, middle is medium, ends are porous, elasticity-normal.   --My long time favorite products are Suave & VO5 conditioners, LA Looks Sport Gel, coconut oil, honey, vinegar.   
    --My CG and grey hair progress -  
    http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/going-gray/179328-jeepys-grey-hair-progress.html   
    --My article at NaturallyCurly about going grey - 
    https://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/color/how-i-went-completely-gray-and-loved-it
  • VerityVerity Registered Users Posts: 616 Curl Neophyte
    It's a struggle to adjust to the oldish-looking face staring back from the mirror. Do I know aging is inevitable? Yea. Would I trade back for my 35-year-old looks? Well, no. On the other hand, I do miss my young face. I don't feel as old as I look. Does that make sense?

    And, no, no, no, I am not ready for gray hair. More power to those who can carry it off, but I know it would put 10-15 years on my appearance in a heartbeat.
  • PrettyGirlRockPrettyGirlRock Registered Users Posts: 31 Curl Neophyte
    I feel like more of a diva as I get older. I too love dressing in what I love and screw what everybody else is wearing or what they think.
    I am still the exact same size I was when I was in high school. I am still not sure how that is, because I have 3 kids, all of them were over 8lbs when born. I am mad that I am still "skinny", cuz I want womanly curves!
    I am 32 but do not feel I look a day over 25. Lol!!!

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  • WileE-DeadWileE-Dead Banned Banned Users Posts: 24,963 Curl Neophyte
    The 45 marker thing mentioned here makes me a bit nervous! Not there yet, tho I happened to catch a Dr. Oz show this past week and it was about sex drives, etc...I must be an anomaly b/c 45 seemed to be the target age for that and I see no decline in sight! :laughing8:
  • ajgrneyesajgrneyes Registered Users Posts: 103 Curl Neophyte
    For me, and I'm 53, I like the inward confidence about myself that reflects in my appearance. I could lose a few pounds, which I'm doing slowly, but the fact that I don't give a dayum about peoples opinion of me is huge for me. I spent all of my life, until I hit the fabulous 5-0 worrying too much about how people saw me, and now its quite liberating to "do me" and not care what other people think. My DH says that I'm the only woman he knows that actually looks younger the older I get. Confidence is ageless!

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  • StarmieStarmie Registered Users Posts: 7,169 Curl Virtuoso
    Doing my face yesterday I thought of something that's better - my freckles have faded as I've got older!
    3b in South Australia.
  • curlypearlcurlypearl Registered Users Posts: 12,231 Curl Connoisseur
    I think this thread is about as old as I am! :toothy10:
    2/c Coarse hair med. density.
    Highly porous. Color over grey.
    I love all the Curl Junkie products. Still experimenting with gels and curl creams. Still hoping for 2nd day hair....
    Every day is a gift :flower:
  • Lady_CreoleLady_Creole Registered Users Posts: 400 Curl Neophyte
    My confidence...and I wear it well! I like my size, shape and natural hair!!!

    The only thing I want to do is build muscle to tone all over, which I will start next month.

    Shrug...if you don't like something, change it I always say!

    Blessings!
    My hair is "exotic, beautiful and free",,,yeah, that be ME!!!
    3B/C - Easy to straighten, [no heat ever/no protect. styling].

    Low Porosity/Medium Density
    Mid Width/BSL-stretched/
    BC - 12/2012

    I am a "Co-Wash/Finger Comb Lady!
    Scalp Cleanser - SM ABS Purification Hair Masque
    Co-wash - Tresemme Naturals
    Hydration - SM CH
    Curl & Style Milk
    LOC - Organic Coconut Oil
    Styler - SM CH Curl Smoothie
    Deep Cond. - SM Yucca & Plantain Masque
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] Posts: 0 Curl Neophyte
    I like my hair better than I did when I was young and trying to get it smooth and straight. I've had MOHS cancer surgery so my nose ain't what it used to be, but I sure am glad I have a nose. :) I am also 25 pounds thinner than I was three years ago, so that's a plus.


    I'm also beginning to let my hair go silver and the transition is always interesting to watch.


    Of course, as we age, our appearance changes, but that's okay. I wouldn't want to be 30 again for anything. I do want to do the best with what I have, but I don't want to be taken up with how I look. And, really, the heart is what's important anyway.
  • curlypearlcurlypearl Registered Users Posts: 12,231 Curl Connoisseur
    Glad you are OK Maudie. Great post. :toothy4:
    2/c Coarse hair med. density.
    Highly porous. Color over grey.
    I love all the Curl Junkie products. Still experimenting with gels and curl creams. Still hoping for 2nd day hair....
    Every day is a gift :flower:
  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Posts: 20,729 Curl Virtuoso
    bump
    --I'm located in Western PA.   --I found NC in late 2004, CG since February 2005, joined the forums in May 2005, started going grey in late 2005.   --My hair is 3B with some 3A, currently at mid back length when dry,  texture-medium/fine, porosity-top is low, middle is medium, ends are porous, elasticity-normal.   --My long time favorite products are Suave & VO5 conditioners, LA Looks Sport Gel, coconut oil, honey, vinegar.   
    --My CG and grey hair progress -  
    http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/going-gray/179328-jeepys-grey-hair-progress.html   
    --My article at NaturallyCurly about going grey - 
    https://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/color/how-i-went-completely-gray-and-loved-it
  • rbbrbb Registered Users Posts: 4,355 Curl Connoisseur
    my hair!  :smile:

    3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity :-(
    washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
    leave in:curl junkie conditioners and treatments as leave in
    styling: curl junkie 
    sealants - jane carter nourish & shine
  • bomegabomega Registered Users Posts: 1,355 Curl Virtuoso
    edited January 2018
    In the past 1-2 years I have been able to learn to really be accepting of my flaws. This has led me to really appreciate my strengths, and everything else I have. Which in turn has led me to be excited, happy, and grateful for any positive improvements due to my efforts.
    Low-poo: Alaffia Coffee & Shea Revitalizing Shampoo for Fine/Thin Hair (summer), Alaffia Coconut & Shea Hydrating Shampoo
    Clarify: Kinky Curly Come Clean
    Rinse-out: Alaffia Coffee & Shea Revitalizing Conditioner for Fine/Thin Hair (summer), Alaffia Everyday Coconut Ultra Hydrating Conditioner
    DT: Camille Rose Naturals Algae Renew Deep Conditioner
    Leave-in: As I Am Leave-in
    Styler: Lily of the Desert 99% Aloe Vera Gelly
    Treatment: Daily tea spray; Coconut oil overnight treatment; Citric acid rinse for hard water; 2-step Henndigo w/ amla to cover gray

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  • ellajellaj Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Posts: 826 Curl Virtuoso
    bomega said:
    In the past 1-2 years I have been able to learn to really be accepting of my flaws. This has led me to really appreciate my strengths, and everything else I have. Which in turn has led me to be excited, happy, and grateful for any positive improvements due to my efforts.
    @bomega this is such an uplifting post to read, I am very happy for you. We should all follow your example.
       

    Type: 2c
    Density: medium
    Porosity: high
    Thickness: fine


  • ellajellaj Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Posts: 826 Curl Virtuoso
    edited January 2018
    I am in the best shape of my life, physically. It has taken literally years to learn what works for my body. I am eating healthier, stressing less (still needs some work) and being kinder to my body where exercise is concerned. I love to walk and do yoga, both are easy and not at all stressful on my joints. Oh, water, I drink lots of water.
       

    Type: 2c
    Density: medium
    Porosity: high
    Thickness: fine


  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Posts: 20,729 Curl Virtuoso
    Hi @banjocurl !! I was just thinking of you today because it's the annual bluegrass festival here! : )
    --I'm located in Western PA.   --I found NC in late 2004, CG since February 2005, joined the forums in May 2005, started going grey in late 2005.   --My hair is 3B with some 3A, currently at mid back length when dry,  texture-medium/fine, porosity-top is low, middle is medium, ends are porous, elasticity-normal.   --My long time favorite products are Suave & VO5 conditioners, LA Looks Sport Gel, coconut oil, honey, vinegar.   
    --My CG and grey hair progress -  
    http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/going-gray/179328-jeepys-grey-hair-progress.html   
    --My article at NaturallyCurly about going grey - 
    https://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/color/how-i-went-completely-gray-and-loved-it
  • banjocurlbanjocurl Registered Users Posts: 1,031 Curl Connoisseur
    cool!!  i realize we've both been on here for 13+ years...amazing...we're getting better every year!!
    Susan suburban NY
    3b going gray, not thick, waist length when wet, a bit below shoulders when dry
    CG since 11/11/04
    http://public.fotki.com/banjolady/
    PW: banjo
    HG: suave and honey for co-wash, deva, i use garnier fructis regular CO's or boots pink or white as leave ins and LA looks sport gel. plop w microfiber turban, then curl towel scrunch, then another turban.i sleep with the turban on. little one minute hair styling videos http://www.youtube.com/user/lazycurls
  • curry curlscurry curls Registered Users Posts: 1,083 Curl Connoisseur
    My shape.  I'm not 100% comfortable with it, but I like some of the changes that getting older has brought. 
    Started CG July 8, 2008


    3B

    Co-wash: Deva Decadence No Poo
    Conditioner: Deva Decadence One Condition
    Leave-in/Styling: Deva Decadence One Condition and Deva Heaven In Hair
    Others: ACV rinses and protein treatments


  • GretchenGretchen Administrator Moderators Posts: 10,840 Curl Virtuoso
    Love this topic!  So uplifting. I like that I look wise. I may not be wise, but being older may offer that impression. :) 

    Gretchen
    NaturallyCurly.com co-founder
    3A

    You are beautiful!

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