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What do you like better about your appearance as you get older?

curlypearlcurlypearl Posts: 11,970Registered Users Curl Novice
I used to hate wearing glasses because I consider my eyes my best feature, but now I like wearing glasses because they hide the dark circles, puffiness and wrinkles when I smile.

Any improvements in your appearance as you've aged?
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  • Robin-in-FLRobin-in-FL Posts: 1,731Registered Users
    curlypearl wrote: »
    I used to hate wearing glasses because I consider my eyes my best feature, but now I like wearing glasses because they hide the dark circles, puffiness and wrinkles when I smile.

    Any improvements in your appearance as you've aged?

    That's a funny reason!

    I like:
    I'm in better shape, not eating-disordered now, a little more relaxed and now there are WAY more clothes made in my size so I don't have to worry about finding something. When I was younger it was assumed women/girls were about 5'4" and curvy so clothes never fit me, and I didn't have enough $ to buy shoes that fit. This and the happy coincidence of living in a society that now does view tall & slender as pretty, instead of just awkward and skinny and flat-chested. Which I guess didn't work out for everyone but it did for me.

    Also I had acne, rosacea, not good young-skin ever, but now it's calmer so it's better in a way now even though it's aging, if that makes sense.

    I don't like:
    sagging anywhere, the veins in my leg that came with pregnancies, lips getting less full, having to wear glasses, not having a waist really, and gray hairs.
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  • StarmieStarmie Posts: 6,681Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Can't think of a single thing.
    3b in South Australia.
  • anonymous_22139anonymous_22139 Posts: 659Registered Users
    My appearance definitely isn't improved by age at all! But the question was what do I like better about my appearance and I would have to say, "everything."

    I have never been so able to accept myself as I am able to do now, right down to my curly hair which I have absolutely detested my whole life. I just love myself in a way that youth never allowed me. I was a harsh judge then.
  • curlypearlcurlypearl Posts: 11,970Registered Users Curl Novice
    curlypearl wrote: »
    I used to hate wearing glasses because I consider my eyes my best feature, but now I like wearing glasses because they hide the dark circles, puffiness and wrinkles when I smile.

    Any improvements in your appearance as you've aged?

    That's a funny reason!

    I like:
    I'm in better shape, not eating-disordered now, a little more relaxed and now there are WAY more clothes made in my size so I don't have to worry about finding something. When I was younger it was assumed women/girls were about 5'4" and curvy so clothes never fit me, and I didn't have enough $ to buy shoes that fit. This and the happy coincidence of living in a society that now does view tall & slender as pretty, instead of just awkward and skinny and flat-chested. Which I guess didn't work out for everyone but it did for me.

    Also I had acne, rosacea, not good young-skin ever, but now it's calmer so it's better in a way now even though it's aging, if that makes sense.

    I don't like:
    sagging anywhere, the veins in my leg that came with pregnancies, lips getting less full, having to wear glasses, not having a waist really, and gray hairs.

    Robin-in-Fl how could I have forgotten Acne - the bane of my younger life. I'm so glad I don't have acne any more and the oil on my skin could have solved the energy crisis. My skin is much nicer now.
    Starmie wrote: »
    Can't think of a single thing.

    Starmie - Keep thinking. Most of the changes are not for the better but nothing has improved for you? (((Hugs))). I sympathize.
    Kitschy wrote: »
    My appearance definitely isn't improved by age at all! But the question was what do I like better about my appearance and I would have to say, "everything."

    I have never been so able to accept myself as I am able to do now, right down to my curly hair which I have absolutely detested my whole life. I just love myself in a way that youth never allowed me. I was a harsh judge then.

    Kitschy - terrific! It's great that you are more accepting as you've gotten older. As far as the curly hair - I totally get detesting it, but I have been experimenting with AG: Recoil and have gotten better curls than with anything else. Have you tried that?
    2/c Coarse hair med. density.
    Highly porous. Color over grey.
    I love all the Curl Junkie products. Still experimenting with gels and curl creams. Still hoping for 2nd day hair....
    Every day is a gift :flower:
  • ninja dogninja dog Posts: 23,780Registered Users
    I have to say that in getting older I realize how much worse it could have been, in terms of natural attributes and health.

    One thing I'll flat out complain about is my nails, both finger and toe. They're ridge-ier (sp?) than they used to be.

    Also I smell worse.

    So that's two.
  • wild~hairwild~hair Posts: 9,890Registered Users
    no more zits, really [which I had into my early 30s]

    hair is MUCH better, thanks to this site

    I'm still adapting to it, but I'm curvier than I used to be, which can be fun

    more self acceptance — so long as I'm healthy in my eating and exercise, I feel good about my appearance
  • BekkaPooBekkaPoo Posts: 3,861Registered Users
    Well, I'm still 36, but I would never wanna go back to my teen years.. I was way fat, lazy, depressed, and overall an unhappy slob. Thank the gods I discovered exercise as a mid-20something and lost over 50 lbs. I have kept most of it off since then with occasional yo-yoing up and down 15 lbs.

    I look AND feel better now than I did then.. I'm enjoying being in my prime. :afro:
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  • naturallylisanaturallylisa Posts: 79Registered Users
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  • StarmieStarmie Posts: 6,681Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Curlypearl - it's really not so bad, I feel generally more confident and better about myself than I did when I was younger, but there is just no particular thing about my appearance that I think is better now.
    3b in South Australia.
  • RebeccaKRebeccaK Posts: 305Registered Users
    I LOVE getting older - everything is better. I agree with everyone who said they would never go back. I am 44 and really am looking forward to being able to say I'm 50. Half a century - how cool is that?!?

    Best part, probably, is that as a child I looked so much older than my real age. I was mistaken for my father's wife starting when I was in junior high (embarrassing!). Now I feel like my face matches my age. =)

    If I were to complain, it would be that the problems that plagued me from early childhood on (undiagnosable fatigue and chronic pain, TERRIBLE skin, a variety of maladies that are treatable but still bothersome) never really went away. As a teen I felt like I was 75 years old… for a long time I continued to hold out hope that I'd reach a point of feeling 'young' before actually being 'old'! If I let myself, I could probably get a good resentment-party going. This does not, however, negate my first sentence.
  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 19,250Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Of course there are lots of things that I don't like as well now that I'm older - boobs, butt, nose, skin, hands.

    But there are things that I notice now that I didn't pay attention to before and I think they look good.

    I love my crazy curly grey hair.
    I appreciate how nice my feet are and I think they are pretty..
    I like my collarbone.
    I have nice shoulders and a nice lower back, nice ankles and wrists. And nice ears.
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  • GracingsGracings Posts: 43Registered Users
    Much of what Kitschy said!

    Plus, since I started avoiding sugar and HFCS as much as possible in this convenience-food and junk food society in which we live, my facial skin has WAY improved. That, plus probiotics and prebiotics have also helped me obtain a healthier glow than I actually never had, even in my youth.

    I'm loving my return to summer skin coloring as my hair grows out to its original color, and I am REALLY loving my curls as they grow out.

    OK...responding to this thread feels self-indulgent, but it was fun!
  • openseasonopenseason Posts: 63Registered Users
    Starmie wrote: »
    Can't think of a single thing.




    +1
  • RustinaRustina Posts: 894Registered Users
    Kitschy wrote: »
    I have never been so able to accept myself as I am able to do now, right down to my curly hair which I have absolutely detested my whole life. I just love myself in a way that youth never allowed me. I was a harsh judge then.
    Me, too. I was always so awkward as a teen/young adult and I never, ever felt pretty. I have rather mannish features, and I now finally feel like I've grown into my face - that helps a ton. I'll never be classically "pretty", but I don't hate the way I look anymore. I also am lucky in that I'm fairly unlined and unwrinkled - the dermatologist told me when I was a pimple-covered teenager that someday I'd be happy to have oily skin, and he was right. I see lines and bags and dark patches on my friends' faces that I don't have, and I'm grateful.

    I've also lost some weight in the last 5 years, and that helps how I feel about myself a lot. When I turned 40, I decided it was time to do something about my frumpy appearance, so I joined Weight Watchers and lost 55 pounds. I've managed to keep it off for the last 3 years, and that feels good. I've lost weight many times before, but never kept it off. Being able to now buy clothes and shoes that I love also helps me to feel vibrant and "younger."

    Aside from that, I think that just getting older does something to one's self-acceptance. At almost 44, I am in a place now where I really couldn't give a rat's ass what anyone else thinks about me, so I do the things I do (all this hair stuff, buying clothes, shoes, whatever) for ME, not to impress my friends or men. I think the inner confidence must reflect in my outer demeanor, because I get compliments now from people (ones I know and strangers) that I never would have gotten before.

    My only regret is that I didn't feel this way earlier in my life. I spent so much time being unsure of myself that I think I held myself back in many areas.
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  • FeedYourHeadFeedYourHead Posts: 236Registered Users
    BekkaPoo wrote: »
    Well, I'm still 36, but I would never wanna go back to my teen years.. I was way fat, lazy, depressed, and overall an unhappy slob. Thank the gods I discovered exercise as a mid-20something and lost over 50 lbs. I have kept most of it off since then with occasional yo-yoing up and down 15 lbs.

    I look AND feel better now than I did then.. I'm enjoying being in my prime. :afro:

    Congratulations on your weight loss!

    I'm 41 now, and after recently losing over 60 pounds through eating right and getting regular exercise, I'm back to the weight I was when I was in my early 20's.

    I feel better--physically and mentally--than I have in years. And I'd like to think I'm wiser now than I was 20 years ago. I'm certainly more realistic now. Back then I lived on Top Ramen and Diet Coke, and tried to get down to a body weight I now know is not healthy for me.

    Now I'm more accepting of my body and I'm more aware of what it is and is not capable of doing. I may not look like a skinny model in a fashion magazine, but my strong shoulders and muscular legs have taken me on long, hard hikes with a heavy pack! (I might very well need ice and ibuprofen on one of my knees after the hike--but I digress :D)
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  • BekkaPooBekkaPoo Posts: 3,861Registered Users
    BekkaPoo wrote: »
    Well, I'm still 36, but I would never wanna go back to my teen years.. I was way fat, lazy, depressed, and overall an unhappy slob. Thank the gods I discovered exercise as a mid-20something and lost over 50 lbs. I have kept most of it off since then with occasional yo-yoing up and down 15 lbs.

    I look AND feel better now than I did then.. I'm enjoying being in my prime. :afro:

    Congratulations on your weight loss!

    I'm 41 now, and after recently losing over 60 pounds through eating right and getting regular exercise, I'm back to the weight I was when I was in my early 20's.

    I feel better--physically and mentally--than I have in years. And I'd like to think I'm wiser now than I was 20 years ago. I'm certainly more realistic now. Back then I lived on Top Ramen and Diet Coke, and tried to get down to a body weight I now know is not healthy for me.

    Now I'm more accepting of my body and I'm more aware of what it is and is not capable of doing. I may not look like a skinny model in a fashion magazine, but my strong shoulders and muscular legs have taken me on long, hard hikes with a heavy pack! (I might very well need ice and ibuprofen on one of my knees after the hike--but I digress :D)

    Thank you and you too! And even when I yo yo up, I'm not that upset because I know eventually it will go back down again (through my own efforts of course).

    Hey, I'd rather be a healthy, strong, confident woman who CAN go on hikes, than not. :happy10:
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    "...rationality is not necessary to sell things.."
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  • kasdenkasden Posts: 1,040Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Well, CP, since you asked....

    I'd have to say my figure and my hair. My hair just turned curly a few years ago and now it's healthy - I love it! I've been letting it grow out - it's almost to my waist and if I do say so myself - it looks fabulous!

    I lost 40 pounds - yay! When I was overweight I tried to hide my figure, but now I'm wearing form fitting clothes because, well, I have a great figure! :toothy7:

    Thank you for starting this thread CP!
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  • curlypearlcurlypearl Posts: 11,970Registered Users Curl Novice
    Sending hugs to all my curlfriends who are looking at the doughnut instead of the hole. :thumright: :icescream:

    I know it's not always easy and I struggle with it myself which is why I started the thread. :love8: And congratulations to everyone who lost weight - ! terrific.
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    Highly porous. Color over grey.
    I love all the Curl Junkie products. Still experimenting with gels and curl creams. Still hoping for 2nd day hair....
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  • danna harrisdanna harris Posts: 55Registered Users
    At 43 I have more ownership of who I am and the choices I make.

    I enjoy the wisdom that comes with the experiences of time.

    I see my curls as unique instead of wishing them away. I now go as big as I can with them.

    I finally lost that last 10 pounds of baby fat that hung on for 10 years and I'm better at knowing my style and not trying to be anyone else.

    I'm also very thankful to God for faithfully being with me every step of the way!
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    Leave in's: Aveda Be Curly, Jessicul RR and CC, quarter and nickel amounts, AG liquid effects, KCCC (forever to dry), leaving behind the Aquage defining gel

    Want to try some of Sally's generics
  • ShrekLoverShrekLover Posts: 2,551Registered Users
    openseason wrote: »
    Starmie wrote: »
    Can't think of a single thing.




    +1

    Add me to this. Nothing about my appearance is better and I don't like looking older.

    But I realize that I could have not gotten older so aging is a gift I trasure, (up to a point, I don't want to get so old I can't take care of myself). I do my best to look my best no matter what age I am.
  • banjocurlbanjocurl Posts: 1,020Registered Users
    Now I'm more accepting of my body and I'm more aware of what it is and is not capable of doing. I may not look like a skinny model in a fashion magazine, but my strong shoulders and muscular legs have taken me on long, hard hikes with a heavy pack! (I might very well need ice and ibuprofen on one of my knees after the hike--but I digress :D)
    yes i vote for hiking as the best feel good thing there is as we age. being outdoors makes me so happy that i look better. i am still overweight but am very active. love my transitioning 2 tone curls and accept my imperfect body. my body is something I use for MYSELF to have fun with, not something that is there for others to use or judge.
    FYH where are U? i am in hudson valley NY and hike every day. lots of 60+ people here in great shape from hiking....
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  • MaloryMalory Posts: 379Registered Users
    sdc wrote: »
    openseason wrote: »
    Starmie wrote: »
    Can't think of a single thing.




    +1

    Add me to this. Nothing about my appearance is better and I don't like looking older.

    But I realize that I could have not gotten older so aging is a gift I trasure, (up to a point, I don't want to get so old I can't take care of myself). I do my best to look my best no matter what age I am.

    Me, too.

    I am in better physical condition than I ever was before, but even though I have better muscle tone, gravity is making things sag so it all evens out.

    I never had problems with my skin (I still get the occasional period pimple like I did when I was in my twenties) and I've never had a weight problem (except that I was underweight when I was very young).
  • KeranKeran Posts: 17Registered Users
    I love that people are shocked when I tell them I'm 42 and as I age my skin is still beautiful.
  • VerityVerity Posts: 616Registered Users
    You under-45s may be in for a shock in a few years. That is the age when I REALLY started noticing a difference in my appearance--more wrinkles, more sagging, just not being able to pass for younger than I am. Not fun.

    I echo Janna in that I know that aging is a privilege denied to many, and that I'm thankful to watch my kids grow up (and I also echo her sentiment that I don't want to be so old that I can no longer take care of myself), but I really can't say that there is anything I like more about my appearance as I get older.

    What I really miss about being younger is being able to wear shorts and above-the-knee skirts in public. Spider veins really limit a person's wardrobe choices. (Yes, I've been to the dermatologist to try to get rid of them. I can wear shorts that are to the knee, but can't go shorter because I have spider veins just above the knee that are resistant to treatment.) I've had them since I was in my 20s, but only in my mid-40s did they get bad enough that I no longer wear above-the-knee shorts and skirts. I wish I could have my 40-year-old body back!
  • redcelticcurlsredcelticcurls Posts: 17,502Registered Users
    Verity wrote: »
    You under-45s may be in for a shock in a few years. That is the age when I REALLY started noticing a difference in my appearance--more wrinkles, more sagging, just not being able to pass for younger than I am. Not fun.

    I echo Janna in that I know that aging is a privilege denied to many, and that I'm thankful to watch my kids grow up (and I also echo her sentiment that I don't wanting to be so old that I can no longer take care of myself), but I really can't say that there is anything I like more about my appearance as I get older.

    I hear that a lot about 45.
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  • BekkaPooBekkaPoo Posts: 3,861Registered Users
    I gained weight (in my belly) and now my butt and belly stick out almost the same amount..lol. :sunny: I'm working on the belly again, but would love to keep the bigger butt. I never had a butt in my younger years so it's nice to see something is going on back there.
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    "...rationality is not necessary to sell things.."
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  • Mskeisha99Mskeisha99 Posts: 32Registered Users
    LOL...my attitude is better now...I don't really think anything has gotten better physically or with ny appearance...
    BekkaPoo wrote: »
    I gained weight (in my belly) and now my butt and belly stick out almost the same amount..lol. :sunny: I'm working on the belly again, but would love to keep the bigger butt. I never had a butt in my younger years so it's nice to see something is going on back there.



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  • alacurlalacurl Posts: 1,193Registered Users
    My skin is not perfect but looks good for 50. I take care of it and so far I don't need any "work." (Maybe menopause will change that.)

    I also keep my hair healthy, and most days it looks pretty good without too much fuss.
    shoulder-length 3a/b, depending on weather and products (or lack of products!)
  • MyrnaMyrna Posts: 2,332Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    This is not about my appearance. Not really.

    I love that I dont have to be a slave to fashion. I have my own style now, and the hell with everyone else :).

    What I like best is that I know who I am. I am confident of my abilities.
  • VerityVerity Posts: 616Registered Users
    Myrna wrote: »
    I love that I dont have to be a slave to fashion. I have my own style now, and the hell with everyone else :)

    It's great that you feel that way! I don't think I'll be comfortable with just wearing what I like until I am a lot older. I am still a slave to fashion to some extent because I don't want to "dress old."
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