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weird hair comment from husband...

My husband asked me today if I used a curling iron! He said my hair looked "especially curly, and what was I doing to it?"

I wish he'd say he likes it, but oh, well-I like it!

Sherry

"especially curly hair courtesy of Jessicurl :D "

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  • curlsofnycurlsofny Posts: 478Registered Users
    Men do not know how to compliment women on hair :) I'm sure he was implying that he liked it, but wanted to know why it looked different.
  • DarbyDarby Posts: 1,025Registered Users
    the other day i was feeling weird about my hair. To me it looked blah and kind of producty looking. I asked hubby what he thought and he wasn't saying anything. Kind of like the deer in the headlights type of look.
    I said, "come on, just tell me the truth." He then said, "well, it looks kind of flat and not how it usually looks." I said, "so it looks bad?' And he said, "NO, it doesn't look bad, just different." MEN!!!
    I then said, "which way do you like it better?" He took a long time to answer but he finally said, "the other way." I thanked him for being honest and my head went back into the sink!
    Darby
    PW:curlyhaired

    Natural hair color - dark brunette
    Fine, thinish hair/3a, 3b
  • sherry7899sherry7899 Posts: 897Registered Users
    I asked my husband if he liked my hair this way. He said hestitatingly 'yes" but then asked why I don't straighten it anymore :roll: I only wore my hair straight for about three months (and not every day) and we've know each other since 1989! I told him it was damaging to my hair, and I like it curly. I also pointed out for the umpteenth time that many of the women celebrities he likes have curly hair....Minnie Driver, Catherine Zeta Jones, etc...


    Sigh..
    Sherry
  • KorkscrewKorkscrew Posts: 1,834Registered Users
    LOL Thank God there's more to us than our hair.

    But I understand your sensitivity. If I'm truthful, I have been sensitive too when it comes to curly acceptance of my hair, by others. Now I know longer give a fig.

    Anyway, I figure there are enough positives about me in general that it really doesn't matter much how much or little my hubby likes my hair. Turns out he's pretty open/opinionated about his views on the subject though. I straightened my hair once and he told me he didn't like it and wanted the curls back. But he's also said he likes wavy hair the best. I too think waves are pretty (though I definitely prefer curls). He is entitled to his own set of likes and dislikes. About anything. Side note: He wants me to dye my hair jet black because it's his favorite hair color. We'll have to see about that.

    Hopefully you won't let your guy's opinion of your hair get in the way of enjoying your curls and accepting yourself in your own eyes :)
  • bobbybobby Posts: 669Registered Users Curl Novice
    sherry7899 wrote: »
    My husband asked me today if I used a curling iron! He said my hair looked "especially curly, and what was I doing to it?"

    I wish he'd say he likes it, but oh, well-I like it!

    Sherry

    "especially curly hair courtesy of Jessicurl :D "

    I'm sure he meant it as a compliment but the delivery was lacking. I guess I think a little different because whether someone's curls are natural or done in other ways (heat or chemical) I just give the compliment and don't ask what they do. Had he complimented you first and then asked it would have sounded much better.
    2B always with potential of white man's fro

    http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/members/bobby-albums-my-album.html

    "Curls aren't just for girls"
  • FmasuhrFmasuhr Posts: 1,354Registered Users
    haha i think so too that it was a compliment nothing to do with hair: though i got a new lipstick the other day. and tried it out today, i got bright red curly hair, (my man loves my hair!) and i asked him what he thought of the lipstick, (as a red head i gotta becareful of what kinda reds i wear) and he said its a bit too red, (it was cherry red) and i thought it looked really bad so i gave it away.
    sory nothing to do with hair! :D

    my hair: 3b, high porosity, high density and coarse hair (i think i finally figured that all out)
    my hair loves conditioner only styling!
    Oils and my own procuts are my hairs best friend
    my hair goal length is bra strap length when curly.
    :hello1:
  • KellyBKellyB Posts: 68Registered Users
    I would say that the fact he used "specially" instead of another word means he mention it in a positive way.


    Texture: Coarse / Porosity: High / Elasticity: Low / Curl pattern: 3b - 3c
    BC and CG since Sept.15.2012
    I like Tresemmé Naturals, Knot-today, Kinky Curly Curling Custard[/I][/B][/COLOR][/SIZE]
  • ToniMartinaToniMartina Posts: 6Registered Users
    hahahha my bf is the SAME way... he says things like "oh my look at you" or "look at your hair how curly!" always very vague comments and then when I press for more he clams up... so annoying.
  • bobbybobby Posts: 669Registered Users Curl Novice
    hahahha my bf is the SAME way... he says things like "oh my look at you" or "look at your hair how curly!" always very vague comments and then when I press for more he clams up... so annoying.

    Exactly my point, I compliment women semi-frequently on their hair (with curls especally) but when pressed for "how so" answers I'll definitey freeze. However, I find they are thrilled to say it looks "beautiful, lovely, gorgeous or I really like your hair, etc."
    2B always with potential of white man's fro

    http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/members/bobby-albums-my-album.html

    "Curls aren't just for girls"

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