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Are You Embracing or Running Away From Your Gray Hair?

teachermrwteachermrw Posts: 269Registered Users
I've decided to embrace mine. It's growing in a bit faster than it used to. LOL! Plucking/Tweezing the hairs doesn't work, because they'll simply grow back in. As for coloring? Not really feeling that option.

I have a nice fringe of gray hair framing my face, on the sides and forehead, and springs popping up in random places on the top and back. :)
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  • RustinaRustina Posts: 894Registered Users
    Embracing, definitely! Check out the thread in this section titled "Our Gray Journey Diary" and you'll see many curlies here who have embraced the gray. Some are just starting, and others have finished growing it out and are encouraging the rest of us. The photos are inspirational!
    Sulfate/non-water-soluble silicone free since 8/16/10
    Northern VA
    Med-coarse, normal porosity, low elasticity
    Dye-free since 11/2010

  • ninja dogninja dog Posts: 23,780Registered Users
    I'm running like wildfire.
  • curlypearlcurlypearl Posts: 11,970Registered Users Curl Novice
    I'm running and have been since my late 20's. I actually think gray hair looks fabulous with some complexions. My very pale skin has a yellow (ivory) undertone and I look totally washed out with gray hair. My mom and sister have much more color in their pinkish skin and they look terrific with gray hair. I've also seen some women with very dark skin who look sensational with gray hair.

    I think if you have good contrast between the gray and your skintone, it makes a big difference. I look washed out in gray clothing also. If I looked well in gray hair I would definitely do it but since it makes me look like I've been in a crypt for a month, no way.
    2/c Coarse hair med. density.
    Highly porous. Color over grey.
    I love all the Curl Junkie products. Still experimenting with gels and curl creams. Still hoping for 2nd day hair....
    Every day is a gift :flower:
  • eweniqueewenique Posts: 1,502Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I've embraced the gray! One more cut and all the old color will be gone. The natural color is more flattering to my aging skintone.
    2C wavy with some spirals. CG since April 07. Medium texture and porosity.
    COs: Yes to Cucumbers
    Stylers: Miss Jessies Coily Custard, KCCC

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  • anonymous_22139anonymous_22139 Posts: 659Registered Users
    I'm embracing the gray. My only complaint is that it isn't coming in fast enough!
  • ninja dogninja dog Posts: 23,780Registered Users
    kitschy, I can't quite make out your avvie. Is that your hair, split between colors?
  • LotsawavesLotsawaves Posts: 8,660Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Running. I look much better as a brunette and younger.
    From Michael Berg:

    Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."
  • NaturalfinallyNaturalfinally Posts: 516Registered Users
    Running like the wind! Henna is my BFF!
    BC'ed - Jan 09
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    Hair Texture: Fine, Thin
    Hair Density: Medium - Thin Crown
    Porosity: Low
    Co-wash: Sauve Coconut and/or Clarifying, Trader Joe's Nourish Spa
    Leave-In: GDLI, YTCLI, KBB, KCNT
    Moisturizers: QBRBC, KBB, Glycerin, SMCS,SMDM
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    Sealant: EVOO, Jojoba, Grapeseed, JBCO, Herbal Oil - Hesh Herbal Oils

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  • afrodominican1afrodominican1 Posts: 650Registered Users
    I know Im not 40 yrs old but I have had gray hair since I was 5 years old and I have decided to embrace it. Henna made my gray orange and I dont use any other color systems so I have not choice. I don't have a lot or grays but they are mostly in the front. I predict I will be salt and pepper gray by the time Im 40.
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  • mrsgp101310mrsgp101310 Posts: 182Registered Users
    I, too, am running as fast as I can!!
    Cyndi ~ TX CG since 11/10 :mrgreen:
    3a, medium texture, normal porosity & elasticity, medium density, color-treated, frizz-prone

    Currently using:
    Co-wash: Suave Naturals Coco; AIA Coconut cowash
    Cleansing: CJ DF
    RO: CJ Smoothing,GVP CB
    LI: CJ Smoothing Lotion, AIA leave in
    Stylers: SCE Okra Gel; SCE CC; SCE HHG, SSCEJ, SSFHG, AIA Curl Jelly
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  • geckogecko Posts: 313Registered Users
    Embracing it as best I can! Actually, I don't have any gray hair; I have a crop of pure white. Unfortunately, my white hairs do not fully cooperate with my browns; they are thicker, porous, and have a different wave pattern.
    m-c iii-ii | loose spirals with ringlets
  • anonymous_22139anonymous_22139 Posts: 659Registered Users
    ninja dog wrote: »
    kitschy, I can't quite make out your avvie. Is that your hair, split between colors?

    Nope. Half is in sunlight.

    Time for a new siggie.:-|
  • anonymous_22139anonymous_22139 Posts: 659Registered Users
    testing
  • P.P.P.P. Posts: 1,617Registered Users
    tweezing. :oops:

    I don't really have enough greys to start a hair dyeing routine yet (not certain i want to get into that trap anyway)..It really depends on how it's styled, how many are visible. I'm considering henna for the future?

    About greying over time, I'm torn. My grandmother & my MIL both went grey 'gracefully' but my mom fights it and is part of what I call the 'Wayne Newton & Liza Minnelli club of eternal dark hair."

    I'm also considering a compromise like Stacy London, Bonnie Raitt, Barbara Rodgers. The front streak thing-y.

    My hair is naturally soft-black (I colored it brown recently from boredom not grey coverage) so those silvers really leap out. We'll see.
    True realism consists in revealing the surprising things
    which habit keeps covered and prevents us from seeing.
    - Jean Cocteau

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  • ajnaajna Posts: 494Registered Users
    I have been gray since I was 21 and I never cared BUT now that I have been using henna for the past 7 years I hate the little buggers! LOL I love my copper and the gray is so 1990.

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  • JC's MorenaBronxMamiJC's MorenaBronxMami Posts: 80Registered Users
    I'm SO not embracing my grays right now. They started showing up about six years ago. When I discovered the first two, I plucked them out. A few months later, they came back with about a dozen or so of their friends. So now I henna them. Henna's cool because it makes my grays a nice coppery color! Maybe one day I'll be ready to embrace them, but not as long as I'm able to henna.
    I STILL LOVE my steamer! :toothy4:[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

    :D Keeping it simple...
  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    I tried embracing, but I wasn't "gray enough". Once I started the growing out process, I was actually surprised at how gray I WASN'T. I have just enough gray to make me look faded, not foxy. I want foxy. So, until I get to the stage when I'll look foxy, I'm running.
  • misspammisspam Posts: 5,318Registered Users
    Kitschy wrote: »
    I'm embracing the gray. My only complaint is that it isn't coming in fast enough!

    This is me!

    I have never colored my hair, so it's simply a matter of letting nature take its course. I think grey hair is super-foxy. There is an air of confidence and going against the conventional wisdom of what makes a woman sexy that I find very appealing.
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  • eweniqueewenique Posts: 1,502Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I totally understand about not having enough gray and looking faded. When I was 40 I stopped coloring for several months to see how much gray there was, and there wasn't enough yet. So I waited until I was 47 to try again. There was enough gray to look good, so my goal became to be all natural by 50. Now that the old color is almost gone, I often get complements on the color. Some people think that I got these silver highlights from a bottle! :laughing6: And I will be all natural by my 50th birthday later this year.
    2C wavy with some spirals. CG since April 07. Medium texture and porosity.
    COs: Yes to Cucumbers
    Stylers: Miss Jessies Coily Custard, KCCC

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  • banjocurlbanjocurl Posts: 1,020Registered Users
    embracing now. i stopped coloring in june 2010 and now have the 2 tone look which is not too bad when my hair is down. i was coloring with robt craig golden blonde #18 which was as light as i could get without any color lifting, it only deposits. so for my 61 yr old face the color was too dark, therefore i am going gray. when i started coloring at age 52 my hair surrounding the gray was very mousy and my face looked washed out, so i brightened up the brown and it looked really good for years. so time marches on and i have lots of gray now, the brown is the nice colored color so it is all mixing in. i am keeping it long and just allowing it to grow in slowly. when i put part of it up it looks REALLY gray, when all down not so gray. the pony tail is totally brown and the other part is all gray/streaky. it is going to be an interesting few years. figure by 65 i will be all gray. luckily my vanity is fading along with the hair :) i've got a videolink in the gray journey thread for those who would like to witness the 2 toned ponytail in action...i also put up some new pics on fotki
    Susan suburban NY
    3b going gray, not thick, waist length when wet, a bit below shoulders when dry
    CG since 11/11/04
    /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fpublic.fotki.com%2Fbanjolady%2F" class="Popup
    PW: banjo
    HG: suave and honey for co-wash, deva, i use garnier fructis regular CO's or boots pink or white as leave ins and LA looks sport gel. plop w microfiber turban, then curl towel scrunch, then another turban.i sleep with the turban on. little one minute hair styling videos /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fuser%2Flazycurls" class="Popup
  • StarmieStarmie Posts: 6,682Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Running, but getting fed-up of it. I don't have enough grey for it to look good if I let in grow in but feel my natural brunette is becoming unflattering to my pale and ageing skin. Would really like to go a bit lighter but I fear bleaching, or whatever I'd need to do to get it lighter, will damage my poor hair. And whilst I think the brown is too dark I also feel, like Curlypearl, that grey generally just doesn't suit me - have never looked good in grey clothing.
    3b in South Australia.
  • banjocurlbanjocurl Posts: 1,020Registered Users
    starmie thats exactly where i was in 2002--so if u want to try some robt craig golden blonde #18 its great, i just got too old for it. it made my mousy hair a very rich golden brown and very lively--you can see on my fotki from 2010 and before the color. i have some extra boxes of it if u want to try it...PM me
    Susan suburban NY
    3b going gray, not thick, waist length when wet, a bit below shoulders when dry
    CG since 11/11/04
    /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fpublic.fotki.com%2Fbanjolady%2F" class="Popup
    PW: banjo
    HG: suave and honey for co-wash, deva, i use garnier fructis regular CO's or boots pink or white as leave ins and LA looks sport gel. plop w microfiber turban, then curl towel scrunch, then another turban.i sleep with the turban on. little one minute hair styling videos /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fuser%2Flazycurls" class="Popup
  • BarbarosaBarbarosa Posts: 116Registered Users
    Going gray has given me such freedom! Hoping it would come in a platinum shade all over but instead I have the lightest shade framing my face and then more of a silver everywhere else. It doesnt make me feel or look old because that is probably a state of mind. I think Nature knows best.
  • caramix3acaramix3a Posts: 460Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    "'m running and have been since my late 20's. I actually think gray hair looks fabulous with some complexions. My very pale skin has a yellow (ivory) undertone and I look totally washed out with gray hair. My mom and sister have much more color in their pinkish skin and they look terrific with gray hair. I've also seen some women with very dark skin who look sensational with gray hair.

    I think if you have good contrast between the gray and your skintone, it makes a big difference. I look washed out in gray clothing also. If I looked well in gray hair I would definitely do it but since it makes me look like I've been in a crypt for a month, no way."

    Running, and will be for a very long time LOL! I'm in exactly the same boat, except that my skin may be a shade or two deeper than yours. No grey for me, thank you very much! The rest of me looks young, and I'm fit and like to wear interesting clothes, so why should I look like death-warmed-over with grey hair. I get a LOT of compliments on my color jobs(including from my haircutter)and how it suits me(rich coppery auburn brown achieved with 3 shades of Revlon Colorsilk). Fortunately my hair doesn't grow really fast, so my color jobs last a lot longer than people whose hair grows fast.
  • StarmieStarmie Posts: 6,682Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    banjocurl wrote: »
    starmie thats exactly where i was in 2002--so if u want to try some robt craig golden blonde #18 its great, i just got too old for it. it made my mousy hair a very rich golden brown and very lively--you can see on my fotki from 2010 and before the color. i have some extra boxes of it if u want to try it...PM me

    Ah, that's kind of you but I'm not sure we can get RC here in Aus and I wouldn't want to find something I love only to find I have to pay shipping all the time!
    My usual colour has gone MIA here in South Australia so I'm trying different ones. After a disaster last month when I ended up way too dark, I actually bought a dark golden blonde yesterday to try this week. Maybe it will turn out as light as it looks (not my experience generally I have to say) and I can gradually blend the grey away as a lighter brown. Here's hoping.
    Thanks again for the offer.
    3b in South Australia.
  • CoilyEboniqueMeCoilyEboniqueMe Posts: 1Registered Users
    When my hair was straight I embraced it but now that its curly I want to cover it up.

    CoilyEboniqueMe
  • 2poodles2poodles Posts: 2,480Registered Users
    When my hair was straight I embraced it but now that its curly I want to cover it up.

    CoilyEboniqueMe



    That's interesting - I'm the opposite. When I would blow it out straight, the grays bothered me. Now that I just wear it wild and curly - the grays seem to belong. :smile:
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]2Poodles :flower: Southeast PA
    fine, med porosity, normal elasticity
    Currently using the following 2 - 3 x/week:
    Living Proof Perfect Hair Day suphate-free Poo, cone-free CO and styling treatment, plus KCCC

  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 19,250Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Love my grey hair (and everyone else's too). My grandmother went grey in her 30's, my younger sister in her 20's, so I don't associate it with 'being old". I just think of it as another color.
    --I'm located in Western PA.
    --I found NC in late 2004, CG since February 2005, started going grey in late 2005.
    --My hair is 3B with some 3A, texture-medium/fine, porosity-normal except for the ends which are porous, elasticity-normal.
    --My long time favorite products are Suave & VO5 conditioners, LA Looks Sport Gel, oils, honey, vinegar.
    --My CG and grey hair progress -- http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/going-gray/179328-jeepys-grey-hair-progress.html
  • teejayteejay Posts: 537Registered Users
    Run, Teejay, run!
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    Low porosity, Fine/Medium Texture, S-Curls

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  • banjocurlbanjocurl Posts: 1,020Registered Users
    [QUOTE=Starmie;1628277
    Ah, that's kind of you but I'm not sure we can get RC here in Aus and I wouldn't want to find something I love only to find I have to pay shipping all the time!
    My usual colour has gone MIA here in South Australia so I'm trying different ones. After a disaster last month when I ended up way too dark, I actually bought a dark golden blonde yesterday to try this week. Maybe it will turn out as light as it looks (not my experience generally I have to say) and I can gradually blend the grey away as a lighter brown. Here's hoping.
    Thanks again for the offer.[/QUOTE]

    you're welcome. i checked robt craig site and they dont seem to ship to australia. maybe you have some great hair color down there?
    hope you're doing ok with all those earthquakes--yikes!
    Susan suburban NY
    3b going gray, not thick, waist length when wet, a bit below shoulders when dry
    CG since 11/11/04
    /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fpublic.fotki.com%2Fbanjolady%2F" class="Popup
    PW: banjo
    HG: suave and honey for co-wash, deva, i use garnier fructis regular CO's or boots pink or white as leave ins and LA looks sport gel. plop w microfiber turban, then curl towel scrunch, then another turban.i sleep with the turban on. little one minute hair styling videos /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fuser%2Flazycurls" class="Popup
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