Ms.Mason wrote: »
Is it so wrong to say that I really miss my relaxer??? and I want it again??? Did anyone every experience this and what do you do??
ellepixie wrote: »
No, I've never missed my relaxer. If you want one, go get one. There's nothing wrong with that. But remember if you relax, if you decide to be natural again you have to transition all over again. Pressing your hair would be a less permanent option to see if that's what you want to do.
For me to miss relaxers, I'd have to miss relaxer scalp burns, spending all day in a salon, and paying a ridiculous amount of money every six weeks.
Boyhead wrote: »
I'm transitioning right now and I don't miss my relaxer. But its perfectly fine to say that you do. Don't EVER feel pressured by any one (relaxed or natural) to be afraid to express yourself or what you want. Don't be swayed either way. Peer pressure can silence you or convince you to do something just because you may think it's what you want. If you want to relax again - do it. If you want to remain natural - remain it. But, remember, the choice is yours and yours alone. And whatever you decide - do it because it's what you want, not because of how you think others may view you, your decision or your hair! Good luck with whatever you decide!
itsKelCeeEee wrote: »
I'll probably get lots of dirty looks for stating this, but I have a difficult time accepting shrinkage. I was one of those people where when I had a relaxer, my hair was dope as hell; it grew quickly, I could casually cut it above shoulder length and it would grow back out like a weed. My hair reached past bra strap length for a time before I just kept getting it cut shorter and shorter. My hair still grows fast, but like most others, I don't see the length as quickly because of shrinkage, and that can feel discouraging.
However, I know that my hair does that because that's how it's made, and since I was getting relaxers as a little girl and never got to see my true texture, I don't mind. I miss the length and I'm impatient with how long it'll take my hair to get back to that length, but I did not cut off all my hair and find out what does and doesn't work for almost a year and a half just to go back to the "creamy crack". Of course I'm one of those who feels that if it isn't working for you, go ahead and go back to a relaxer. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Still though, it is best to look at less permanent solutions first.
Good luck hun
PepInMyStep wrote: »
I agree that it's your hair and you can do you. I'm one of those naturals that really sees nothing wrong with people who relax. That's your choice, and I think there are plenty of relaxed heads with beautiful hair. BUT, have you tried to straighten your natural hair? That might be a better option, just because you won't have to keep up with the maintenance of a relaxer. Good straightening techniques can get your hair as shiny and bouncy as a relaxer can. Here's a pic of my natural, straightened hair:
It feels as soft as it looks.
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