Christmas Day Advice Needed ASAP

SpringcurlSpringcurl Posts: 8,002Registered Users
My sister's in labor! Looks like I'll have my very first niece or nephew by tomorrow at some point.

I live in Massachusetts. I'm in Eastern Mass, my sister is in Central Mass, my mom is in Western Mass. We were going to meet at my sister's house for our traditional Christmas breakfast because of my sister being pregnant, but of course now she's actually having the baby.

I think my mom should come to Boston, have breakfast at my house and then we (my daughter, son in law and mom) drive to Worcester and go visit the baby. My mom thinks we should go to Worcester and have breakfast at my sister's house without my sister or her husband and then go visit the baby. Never mind the fact that we don't have keys and I don't know my sister's kitchen and she won't even be there, I think it's an incredibly bad idea. My mom doesn't.

I need you all to tell me if you think it's a bad idea or if I'm being an idiot. My mother actually wants me to text my sister in the hospital right now and ask her if we can go to her house.

Please help me.
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  • SpringcurlSpringcurl Posts: 8,002Registered Users
    Seven people have read this and no one can help me???
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  • mrspoppersmrspoppers Curl Novice Posts: 7,223Registered Users Curl Novice
    Your mom's idea is a terrible idea. It's selfish, insensitive and downright dumb.

    Does that help? ;)
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  • mrspoppersmrspoppers Curl Novice Posts: 7,223Registered Users Curl Novice
    It's mostly dumb because your BIL would have to leave his wife's side when she's in labor, just to give you keys. The way things usually go, that will be just the moment that the baby decides to appear.
    When are women going to face the fact that they don’t know their own bodies as well as men who have heard things?

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  • SpringcurlSpringcurl Posts: 8,002Registered Users
    mrspoppers wrote: »
    Your mom's idea is a terrible idea. It's selfish, insensitive and downright dumb.

    Does that help? ;)

    So much. My daughter agrees. We (well, my daughter and I) decided that we're just not going to have a Christmas breakfast and that when we hear that the baby is born we'll head to Worcester. We can exchange gifts in the hospital IF my sister is up to it. If not, we can do it January 1 if we want to.

    I told my mom and she said, "Well, I don't agree with you, but all right."
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  • FieryCurlsFieryCurls Posts: 2,904Registered Users
    mrspoppers wrote: »
    Your mom's idea is a terrible idea. It's selfish, insensitive and downright dumb.

    Does that help? ;)
    mrspoppers wrote: »
    It's mostly dumb because your BIL would have to leave his wife's side when she's in labor, just to give you keys. The way things usually go, that will be just the moment that the baby decides to appear.


    Enough said...
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  • SpringcurlSpringcurl Posts: 8,002Registered Users
    mrspoppers wrote: »
    It's mostly dumb because your BIL would have to leave his wife's side when she's in labor, just to give you keys. The way things usually go, that will be just the moment that the baby decides to appear.

    And we also don't know when the baby is going to arrive. It cold be in 10 minutes, it could be December 25 at 11:00 p.m. It makes no sense to go there for breakfast when we could just be waiting around all day.

    I'm just excited about the baby. I don't care about breakfast OR presents. I want an infant to snuggle.
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  • NessyNessy Posts: 788Registered Users
    Your mum's idea just doesn't make sense! It's good that you decided to just skip the whole breakfast.

    Congrats on becoming an auntie!
  • WileE-DeadWileE-Dead Banned Posts: 24,963Banned Users Curl Neophyte
    "Well, I don't agree with you, but all right."
    My dear mother says this to me all the time..lol
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  • spring1onuspring1onu Curl Connoisseur Posts: 16,528Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    I just wanted to say congrats Auntie Springcurl!!

    And yes, your moms idea was very impractical!
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  • curlypearlcurlypearl Curl Connoisseur Posts: 12,231Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    spring1onu wrote: »
    I just wanted to say congrats Auntie Springcurl!!

    And yes, your moms idea was very impractical!

    +1 AuntieSpringcurl!
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  • The New BlackThe New Black Curl Connoisseur Posts: 16,754Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    My mom thinks we should go to Worcester and have breakfast at my sister's house without my sister or her husband and then go visit the baby.
    No, not this. Why would your mom want to have breakfast at your sister's house w/o your sister/BIL there?
    It's mostly dumb because your BIL would have to leave his wife's side when she's in labor, just to give you keys. The way things usually go, that will be just the moment that the baby decides to appear.
    Yup. And would the BIL even do that? I'm just imagining my husband in that position. He's a big teddy bear who finds it hard to say No at times. But I think if I'm in labor it'd be the one time he'd find a way to say No.
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  • SpringcurlSpringcurl Posts: 8,002Registered Users
    My mother makes no sense most of the time. As of right now my sister is fully dilated and ready to push. No baby yet. They sent her home last night when her labor wasn't progressing and she went back this morning when her water broke.
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  • SuburbanbushbabeSuburbanbushbabe Curl Neophyte Posts: 15,402Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Congratulations and merry Christmas. I think having guests while she's in labor is a bit much. Your mom's suggestion would be disruptive. Go after the baby is born. I would 12-24 hours so you sister can have some recovery time and time with her husband and baby.
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  • xcptnlxcptnl Curl Connoisseur Posts: 15,678Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Congrats Springcurl.

    Everyone already gave my opinion-breakfast at your sister's house with them not there-not a good idea!
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  • SpringcurlSpringcurl Posts: 8,002Registered Users
    My mother is now blaming me for not being able to see her granddaughter on the day she was born.

    I asked my mother to come to my house for Christmas and then if my sister wanted company after the baby was born we could all drive out to Worcester together. She said no, she didn't want to drive that far because her inspection sticker isn't valid any more and she was worried. I mentioned that she could borrow her sister's car (who lives in the apartment downstairs). She said no because she didn't know what her sister had planned for Christmas.

    At about 11:00 in the morning she called and asked if we should be heading to Worcester to see the baby-- which wasn't born yet. I said no because we didn't know WHEN the baby was going to be born or if my sister would even want company on that first day.

    The baby was born at noon. At 4:30 I talked to my sister who said that we could come around 6:00. I called my mother and said, "We can go see her around 6:00." My mother said she didn't like driving at night so she couldn't go.

    Today my mom calls me and is bemoaning that she listened to me and now she didn't get to see her granddaughter and why did she listen to me? She should have just gone and waited in the hospital until my sister was ready to see her.

    So apparently it's my fault that she didn't see her grandchild.

    On the plus side, Evelyn Sarah was born at 12:00 yesterday. The nurses made her a blanket that looks like a Christmas stocking and put her name on it. Very cute!
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  • SpringcurlSpringcurl Posts: 8,002Registered Users
    Well,let me ask you:

    if someone said to you, "Why didn't I just do what I wanted to do yesterday? I listened to you and now I didn't get to see Evelyn."

    Would you consider her blaming you? She insists she's not blaming me. She says it's a dialog she's having with herself. I said, "Then why are you including me in this dialog?"
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  • WileE-DeadWileE-Dead Banned Posts: 24,963Banned Users Curl Neophyte
    Ah, spring, you didn't do anything wrong.
    I can relate.
    Sounds like your mom can't make a decision on her own & when things don't go her way, someone is to blame.....
    Congrats auntie!
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  • CGNYCCGNYC Curl Connoisseur Posts: 4,938Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Congratulations! And that's a lovely name!

    Given what you posted recently about your sister wanting some time before the ILs visit, she was probably happy to have a little time alone with her baby before people started visiting. Your mom may be unhappy, but you probably made it a nice, quiet day for your sister. Try not to take your mom's comments personally. Your sister didn't want anyone there till six, I'm sure your mother wouldn't have waited patiently in the waiting room till six while your sister got settled, ya know?
  • geekygeeky Posts: 4,995Registered Users
    Springcurl wrote: »
    Well,let me ask you:

    if someone said to you, "Why didn't I just do what I wanted to do yesterday? I listened to you and now I didn't get to see Evelyn."

    Would you consider her blaming you? She insists she's not blaming me. She says it's a dialog she's having with herself. I said, "Then why are you including me in this dialog?"
    Don't try to analyze what she said or what she meant. I think it has been well established that your mom is a wee bit nutty and you will make yourself nutty trying to find logic pr reason in what she says. She may be blaming you but I am sure your sister would be thanking you for giving her the lovely gift of quiet drama-free time with her baby on Christmas if she knew what was going down. So you did good.

    I also have a hard time believing your mom would just hang quietly at the hospital until your sister was ready for her. For some reason I picture her busting into the delivery room and telling your sister the way she is pushing is all wrong.:)
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  • automaticflowersautomaticflowers Posts: 3,465Registered Users
    Congrats, Aunt Springcurl!

    You offered your mom a few alternatives to getting there to see her new grandchild, and she declined each one, so I don't see where you should take any blame. Besides, the baby won't look any different today than she did yesterday. :)
  • xcptnlxcptnl Curl Connoisseur Posts: 15,678Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Spring with the storm are you going to be able to drive to Worcester today?? I hope you were able to but if not let us know how darn she cute is when you do see her!
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  • SpringcurlSpringcurl Posts: 8,002Registered Users
    Thanks, everyone. Because my mom is so nuts I sometimes have trouble discerning whether I'm sane in my interactions with her.

    I saw baby Evelyn yesterday. She's so pretty! We'll have Christmas on January 1, so I'll get to see her again and hopefully her eyes will be open!
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Curl Connoisseur Posts: 31,259Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    CONGRATS on your new niece. Listen to geeky. She is very wise.

    Show us a picture when you can.
  • SpringcurlSpringcurl Posts: 8,002Registered Users
    Here she is!

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  • SystemSystem Administrator Posts: 39,060 Administrator
    Congrats, Aunt Springcurl!

    You offered your mom a few alternatives to getting there to see her new grandchild, and she declined each one, so I don't see where you should take any blame. Besides, the baby won't look any different today than she did yesterday. :)

    Yes! Gosh, your mother is talking as if yesterday was the only chance she would ever have to see the baby. Sorry, but she is definitely a bit batty.

    I think you were 100% right, so try to just let it roll off you.

    And congrats on your aunthood!

    (A fellow Christmas baby! Tell your sister that she could celebrate her daughter's birthday on her half birthday, June 25, as I always have.)

    ETA: Just saw the pic -- so cute! Love the little Christmas outfit.
  • WileE-DeadWileE-Dead Banned Posts: 24,963Banned Users Curl Neophyte
    omg spring she is so adorable! And I love the name :headbang:
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Curl Connoisseur Posts: 31,259Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    She's adorable.
  • KurlyKaeKurlyKae Curl Neophyte Posts: 3,413Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Congratulations Auntie Spring! Evelyn is adorable.
    FWIW, you did exactly the right thing with your mother yesterday. Just ignore the passive-aggressive nonsense.
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  • geekygeeky Posts: 4,995Registered Users
    She is adorable! Congratulations, auntie!
    To Trenell, MizKerri and geeky:
    I pray none of you ever has to live in a communist state.

    Geeky is my hero. She's the true badass. The badass who doesn't even need to be a badass. There aren't enough O's in cool to describe her.
  • xcptnlxcptnl Curl Connoisseur Posts: 15,678Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    She is beautiful!! Love the stocking too.
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