Millionaire Matchmaker Responds

From Patti Stanger's FB page: Ok, naturally curly bunch. I like stylish curly/wavy hair, but my millionaire men don't. So, go buy a flat iron at www.beautychoice.com. xo
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Then we don't want your millionaire men, do we? I guess BeautyChoice can keep their flat irons.
I read the article that was on the front page about her too.
But if people wanna stereotype and judge, and criticize, then let them.
The best 2 comments I saw under the front page article are these:
October 26th, 2010 at 6:49 pm
She’s obviously insecure about her own looks, which are very masculine to begin with. Curls are very, very feminine. No wonder she bashes them at every turn.
October 26th, 2010 at 7:09 pm
Women need to be independent! If a man doesn’t like you how you are, he doesn’t deserve you.
I live in a college town and every girl I see has straight, damaged hair. It pleases me when I see girls who have natural curls, I think they are stunning because they can stand up and say “This is who I am, not who society or men want me to be, and I’m proud of it!”
October 26th, 2010 at 8:56 pm
you nailed it! Thanks Jesis!
How funny would it be, if a guy were to go on the show and specifically want a wild curly hair woman!?
I can assure you she would have to please her client. The tables have turned…
If it ever happens..
"Don't look back and ask why, look forward and ask why not!?" - Unk.
October 28th, 2010 at 3:49 pm
Why is everyone so upset about Stanger’s inflammatory views of curly hair? The show is about pitiful women putting themselves on display in hopes that a man will buy them. If straight hair sells then straighten it!
"Don't look back and ask why, look forward and ask why not!?" - Unk.
But two observations:
I don't think all the wives of millionaires are straight haired, that strikes me as highly unlikely. It's a pretty big group, isn't it?
And
A curly haired woman who straightens her hair is still a curly haired woman, just one who has straightened her hair or is wearing it styled straight. It still grows in curly.
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If I ever become desperate for a millionaire, I'm going to straighten my hair and place myself in a big pink box in hopes I can be "purchased"... like Barbie! :laughing1:
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I so agree with the bolded. I've seen many wives of millionaires, athletes, movie stars, CEOs, etc. with very wavy and super curly hair. I've also seen women seeking millionaires with mostly straight hair that they've waved to add body -- think Marla Maples before she married Donald Trump. I don't think most men worry about hair. As long as it is healthy looking, soft to the touch and the woman seems confident about it, then men don't care.
I do believe that certain hair types meet with more scrutiny -- think someone with naturally 4b hair or a 3b/c curly in a Stepford wives environment. However, if the woman genuinely loves her hair and it suits her, then so will the men interested in her.
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sounds like she's running a whorehouse. ggg:glasses10:
She probably gets a nickle every time someone clicks that Beautychoice link.
1. I wonder what she means by 'stylish'. I suspect it means artificially created curls and waves, but the word may just be meant to exclude the sort of curls typical of 'big hair' of the 80s.
2. Why are people more worried about her 'rules' about hair than those about male-female relations? Curly hair's great and all, but I would have thought the kind of adjustments she asks for on the level of gender relations would have the kind of empowered, self-assured women I see on here utterly spitting with anger. Yet the majority of the things I've read are more to do with hair than the antique gender roles she espouses. Yes, the hair thing is a metonym for what's going on here on a social level, but it worries me that the gender issues aren't brought up more.
3. Why must curl empowerment come at the cost of personal abuse? It's one thing to disagree; it's a whole other thing to attack this woman personally. I've seen it many times on here and on the Facebook thread and I just keep shaking my head at it. I like the idea of an open debate (though I somehow doubt she'd be open to it), but all the name calling and personal attacks just make us look angry and vengeful.
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You ladies are horrible :laughing9::laughing8:, lol!
"Don't look back and ask why, look forward and ask why not!?" - Unk.
WHY is it that the women are the ones who have to change???
WHY can't these supposed millionaires change their freaking warped ideals and realize that REAL women have curls, straight hair, long hair, and short hair?????
We're smart. We're curvy. We're thin, short, tall, or heavy. What does it matter? If these men are looking for arm candy that they're planning on ditching as soon as they lose their Barbie-looks, it seems they're looking in the right direction. She's pushing carbon-copy women on idiotic men who don't have a clue what's REAL in life.
Ppppbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbttttttttttt. :tongue3: Thanks. But, I'll stick to my gorgeous, non-millionaire hubby who loves me whether I have curls or straight, weigh 125 or 285, or have warts on the end of my nose.
Us real women know we have flaws. But, curly hair certainly ISN'T one of them.
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Very good post. I agree with all of this.
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She may be a very nice woman, but she is clearly an egomanic (an obsessive preoccupation with one's self and applies to someone who follows their own ungoverned impulses and is possessed by delusions of personal greatness and feels a lack of appreciation) and is quite narcissistic (inordinate fascination with oneself; excessive self-love; vanity).
As a result, we will not convince her from her stand and frankly, we create more joy for her by the attention we are giving her and her comment. That actually gives away and minimizes our power.
I choose, instead, as a new wavy, to feel proud of my hair and I am learning the fierceness that apparently comes with the curly (this I am learning from beautiful women here)!! THIS is a better use of my energy. Rather than changing how she, or others, see me, I am just being a strong me and frankly, that is more attractive than whether my hair is straight or curly!!
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Oh, please! No one likes that crack ho anyway... Why do you think you have to buy her friends???
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Hate to say it girls, but that is what they say in Europe.
Who do you have to blame??
Hate to sound mean, but that sounds like Patti, and the look she's pushing on her show.
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obviously she is just shooting fish in a barrel trying to help un-loveable people. Its a lot easier to flat iron hair than to overhaul a personality...
hers included.
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Who in their right mind takes hair style or hair care advice from someone that looks like they stole a $5 Elvira wig from the Halloween clearance rack?
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I honestly don't care that she hates curly hair. Not everyone likes everything, although hatred is different. Many of us have preferences in mates that some might construe to be close-minded, classist or racist, but you can't help who you like or don't like; some of this is beyond our control.
Patti seems lost and to be filled with self loathing. She is always looking for the generic stereotype of what is attractive, and the irony is that she is the complete opposite of the stereotype. I'm not saying that to be mean. Some people are beautiful, and some are physically unattractive. Patti is unattractive and her personality only enhances this.
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I agree with all of this!!! Well said.
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Thanks!!
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