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S/O Learning about rumors about yourself?

MysticSpiralMysticSpiral Posts: 1,024Registered Users
The other thread got me thinking about the time I learned that everyone in my graduating class thought (and most still do think) that I'm a lesbian.

Apparently it started early in middle school when a mean group of girls, who hated me because they couldn't get to me, started the rumor. I ignored them, and didn't even deny or confirm it, because I always acted like they weren't worth my attention. Its why they hated me. I assumed that after the new 'Shelby gave a guy a ****job in the restroom' came out (untrue) the 'Mystic is a lesbian' rumor was forgotten.

Little did I know. By senior year of high school the whole 'clique' thing dissolved and people relaxed a little and I got less defensive and started making friends with people I've known for years and the summer after graduation someone asked if I'd like to go on a double date with him, his girlfriend, and another girl. I cleared it up, but I never made a blanket announcement to everyone in my class.

Did anyone else learn about rumors about themselves after the fact?
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  • nynaeve77nynaeve77 Posts: 7,135Registered Users Curl Novice
    When I was a teenager, we moved to another state. My parents got a call from some friends of ours in the old state a few months later, offering their condolences. It seems someone started a rumor that I died in a car crash!
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  • duckyducky Posts: 927Registered Users
    In college, there was a rumor that I was dating the drummer of the campus christian group I attended. We were never more than friends, and we both laughed about it.

    In elementary school, someone's mom started a rumor that I was on drugs, because my older brother was a bit of a delinquent. That one sucked. I was often asked why my eyes were bloodshot (allergies, and contact lenses) and questioned about my "suspicious behavior." I was a quiet kid, mostly - apparently that meant I was on drugs.
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  • kenzie!kenzie! Posts: 5,055Registered Users
    When I first moved to AR there was a rumor started that I was gay....Apparently someone who refuses to be catty, doesn't want to be on the cheer team (It was a tiny school....9/10ths of the girls were or had tried out for cheer), doesn't want to cake her face in makeup, and didn't spend every free second of her time chasing boys is a lesbian.

    Eventually that passed, and I was friends with almost everyone in the school. A few months after I moved a rumor went around that we were moving back. Don't know why that one was started either.

    I have nasty allergies, and usually have bloodshot eyes in the spring and fall, so I was accused of being a druggie once.


    Considering all the times I've moved I've gotten off quite easy.....
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  • roseannadanaroseannadana Posts: 5,632Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    When I got divorced, my ex told all kinds of outrageous things about me to anyone who would listen. Apparently I was the town trollop (can I say trollop here?).

    I've always joked that if I'd done even half the things he accused me of, I would have been one very happy lady!

    When I was in high school, a boy and I broke up and a few days later, some boys in the locker room started asking him for "details" about me. He was bragging and boasting about all the things he had done with me which NONE was true.

    I should have known something was up when I was suddenly getting asked out by all the guys on the football team. I only heard about it because one of the players was a good friend and he let me know what the former boyfriend was saying. Poor thing, I pretty much set the record straight in between classes in the hallway and embarrassed him.

    As a side note, this same idiot called me a few years ago because he'd just gotten divorced and had been "thinking about me." Yeah, after 30 years. Idiot.

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  • CurlyminxCurlyminx Posts: 5,581Registered Users
    You were a trollop too? (an ex called me one once) hehe!!

    But seriously.

    I just remembered a rumor that I heard about myself. My very last boyfriend I ever had I was friends with for almost ten years. Well when we first met I wad friends with a big group of boys and girls. I guess one of the boys started a rumor that we had sex at his house, he was apparently very graphic about it.

    I was horrified! I was 14 and we were only friends!!!!

    And even worse is that the bf didn't tell me until year 7 of our friendship so he ha believed it was true the whole time.

    Horrible.
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  • papayahedpapayahed Posts: 1,282Registered Users
    Not that big of a deal but at my last job there was a rumor that I was buying porno's from the bootleg movie selling guy. There were a few others, mostly about dating coworkers, but I can't remember the specifics anymore.
  • scrillsscrills Posts: 6,700Registered Users
    When I was in undergrad, here was a rumor that I was telling people I was pregnant. It caused big drama with the guy I was dating and his friends (he was in a popular fraternity). They all thought I was a crazy liar. Turns out, there was another girl on campus named "scrills" who was pregnant. but it was too late, everyone thought it was me being psycho.
  • missbanjomissbanjo Posts: 3,088Registered Users
    My ex told everyone I was a lesbian because I would have never left his oh so wonderful self otherwise. :puker:
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  • CurlyHairedFarmerCurlyHairedFarmer Posts: 3,073Registered Users
    After breaking up with my first serious boyfriend, I started dating other people. There was a guy I was really into and he suddenly stopped returning my texts and calls. Eventually it came out that my ex had told him I had type 2 herpes and that is why we broke up. It took awhile to get that damage undone.
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  • irociroc Posts: 7,890Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I was apparently accused of being very easy and promiscuous in a high school I attended for 1 year. I actually never had sex until after high school, but BC I turned down some needy 'popular' guys they spread some nasty information.

    A 'friend' of mine went around telling people that when I gave him a ride home late one night, I tried to get him to take me upstairs to his apartment but BC he was friends with my bf at the time, he just couldn't do it. HA! As if I would ever be interested in this guy, and as if he would ever turn me down!

    I know there have been others. People love to make stuff up.

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  • bleuyteuybleuyteuy Posts: 273Registered Users
    In high school there was a myspace made of me calling me gay and saying that my family was illegal immigrants and threatening to report them. That my mom only married my step father to get a green card. Saying my father was a terrorist. I had to contact myspace to have it removed.

    Recently I came across a blog (my bf found it) that someone made using my name and pretending to be me. Its so bad and I'm so embarrassed about it. The person curses a lot in it and says that "I" don't like black guys. It puts black men down. I would never do that. My father is mostly black and my mom is mixed as well which makes me black. I tried to have it removed but google won't do anything.
  • claudine19claudine19 Posts: 4,486Registered Users
    It's happened to me a few times. It was more painful when I was younger; the older I got, the more ridiculous it seemed.
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  • curledlovecurledlove Posts: 444Registered Users
    Throughout nursing school the same person started the rumor that i was pregnant 3 times. I confronted her and she couldnt even deny it. A few days ago she called and i didnt answer. She left a voicemail offering an apology for the rumors and asking if i could help her get a job where i work. HA!

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  • Rubber BiscuitRubber Biscuit Posts: 1,294Registered Users
    I've been pregnant several times over the past couple years.

    Yet to give birth.

    Must be an elephant.

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  • sleepymekosleepymeko Posts: 1,002Registered Users
    The other thread got me thinking about the time I learned that everyone in my graduating class thought (and most still do think) that I'm a lesbian.

    Apparently it started early in middle school when a mean group of girls, who hated me because they couldn't get to me, started the rumor. I ignored them, and didn't even deny or confirm it, because I always acted like they weren't worth my attention. Its why they hated me. I assumed that after the new 'Shelby gave a guy a ****job in the restroom' came out (untrue) the 'Mystic is a lesbian' rumor was forgotten.

    Little did I know. By senior year of high school the whole 'clique' thing dissolved and people relaxed a little and I got less defensive and started making friends with people I've known for years and the summer after graduation someone asked if I'd like to go on a double date with him, his girlfriend, and another girl. I cleared it up, but I never made a blanket announcement to everyone in my class.

    Did anyone else learn about rumors about themselves after the fact?

    I got the lesbian thing in middle school too. IDK. I think it was because I was into skateboarding/somewhat gothic at the time, but that's just stupid. Everyone wears jeans and black.

    I moved around a lot as a child so I never had rumors that stayed or something. I don't even notice when there are rumors about me TBH. I am SO SLOW when it comes to "gossip". I probably wouldn't know until a decade later. I think it's because I zone out 99% of the time and I only know if someone is talking **** if I hear them talk **** infront of me. Otherwise, I don't hear it.

    And honestly, I don't care either, haha. I was bullied so much in grade school, after a while you learn not to care anymore.
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    When I was off work for my first back surgery apparently I was actually off with depression so bad it resulted in me slitting my wrists.

    The surgeon did a fantastic job clearing those scars right up. :roll:
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  • Fifi.GFifi.G Posts: 15,490Registered Users
    K-12 people worked over time to make others believe that I was a mean girl. It wasn't a big deal in grade school bc my class was small and very tight knit. The rumors were always started by girls in lower grades. One day my entire class confronted the main source of the problem, who I had words with more than once, without me knowing or asking. Gotta love family :)

    High school was a different situation. I couldn't even walk in the door without being approached by someone and accused of spreading horrible rumors about them, or making fun of the way they dressed. Half the time I didn't even know their first or last name and on more than one occasion we would be wearing almost identical clothing. It never made sense.

    When I started my job a co worker told anyone, and everyone, that they should not bother speaking to me. She told them all that I was shy and lacked personality so it wouldn't do any good to try. Thankfully there were a handful of officers/fire dept mbrs that didn't listen, and actually requested to speak to me. They made me feel welcome and helped me train. I appreciate them more than they know. It does still amaze me how many people believed this to be true. 9 years later and I have an incredibly good reputation as a worker, but have still never been invited to functions outside of work. But hey! I didn't come there to goof off.

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  • Fifi.GFifi.G Posts: 15,490Registered Users
    And let me add, one of the 3 people who continuously kept things stirred up about me in high school was *supposedly* a friend. I found out what she had been doing after she gave me a letter from a boy I had a HUGE crush on. He said he had a crush on me, and wanted to date, but was shy. When I approached him I found that he had never written the letter. My heart sank and I was completely embarrassed. She had actually written it herself and didn't think I would speak to him about it. When I confronted her she admitted making up a great deal of stuff about me. I'll just say... that was a messed up situation.

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  • NetGNetG Posts: 8,116Registered Users
    A guy I had been friends with for 3 years stopped talking to me one day. Told people I was really mean to him (people who knew me well, and therefore knew better). Apparently he decided he thought he was in love with me because he'd run out of friends of mine to be interested in. I found out he'd been telling people I was his ex girlfriend and didn't know why I had broken up with him when his cubemate introduced herself to me and told me that without even having known me when he told her that she told him to stop lying because no one believed him and she knew I wouldn't have dated him. :lol:

    It wasn't about his appearance (which wasn't so great) but his personality which screamed "I'm nearly 30 and haven't convinced a girl to kiss me yet!"


    I was helping some musicians and there were apparently rumors I was saying nasty things about them. I still don't know what those rumors were, as no one would tell me what I supposedly said. I didn't say anything bad about them until well after I'd spend all my free time for a year and a half working with their manager to try to promote them, book tours for them, etc., and they went out of their way to be jerks to me. I don't know if someone completely made things up about me, which is my guess, or if someone misinterpreted something I said. The only thing I could come up with based in reality was that the guys had told me how hard it was to adjust to the idea of strangers coming up to talk to them after shows - they were definitely introverts. They appreciated fans but hadn't yet figured out how to treat that naturally. I tried to arrange a tour for them with one of my friends for whom that was as natural as breathing because I felt it would help them to figure it out. I could see someone misunderstanding and it turning into me saying something mean after a game of telephone.

    I can't believe the nasty things people say sometimes! I tended to hang out with the girls who were slightly outcast, yet be friends or at least friendly with the popular girls, so I don't think there were too many rumors about me. I definitely had to set some straight about other girls, though.
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  • MoppyTMoppyT Posts: 998Registered Users
    Many years ago, my then-boyfriend started a rumor (as a joke) that I was going to be auditioning for American Gladiators. I played along with that one, it was too fun to come clean.
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  • claudine19claudine19 Posts: 4,486Registered Users
    I ran into a high school friend near Notre Dame in Paris, which led to some highly inaccurate and very much romanticized rumors that I lived there, when in fact I was just visiting, using the public showers or the Protestant Student Union facilities, and walking around like an urchin, eating as many pastries as I could on a daily basis.
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  • CurlyCanadianCurlyCanadian Posts: 10,862Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Connoisseur
    When I was 18 I was dating a DJ, so got to know a lot of bouncers in clubs. After I broke up with him, I was still friendly with the bouncers, they would let me bypass lines and into VIP rooms.

    I found out a few years later that there were rumours going around that I was an escort and that's why these guys were letting me in :lol:


    Last summer a group of us drove down to Atlantic City. One friend who came, I used to work with, didn't know terribly well, but she was invited by another friend while we were all out one night.

    She was just a right ***** the whole weekend, especially towards one one of my closest friends. We had driven down with 4 people in my car, and 3 in the other, so I asked the other girl driving if she would mind taking the *****y one so they didn't kill each other on the way home. She wound up driving with them, and they left a few hours before us.

    A few weeks later, another woman I work with came up to me and asked if she could ask me about a rumour. Turns out little miss *****y had been telling people I left her behind in AC and she had to sort her own ride home :hello1:
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