VERY FRUSTRATED.......thinking about doing the BC today

warfield1202warfield1202 Posts: 27Registered Users
ok, I have been transitioning since Aug15th and I am really getting frustrated with my hair. I hate the two textures. My hair was already cut in a short style. I love my new growth but hate the relaxed ends. The problem is I work in corporate america and I am scared of the responses. One friend said cut it and wear a wig...(ugh) and another said cut it and be free. I am leaning more toward the be free comment.

I called a beautician who is NOT natural, and she tried to talk me out of it saying how difficult it's going to be and if I wanted it cut she coud do it and style it. I dont want any heat, or her products in my head!!!!!!!

confused...angry....frustrated.....
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  • LisaGurlLisaGurl Posts: 54Registered Users
    I had the exact same thing two days ago.. But finally I just trimmed it, about 1,5 inch or so.. But how long is your hair right now with the relaxed ends? In my opinion, if my hair was short, i would bc my hair that day. But because i'm bsl right know, i find it difficult because of the huge length difference... But if i were you, i would choose for "be free".
  • warfield1202warfield1202 Posts: 27Registered Users
    Thanks LisaGirl. I have about 4 inches on one side. I am leaning more towards being free as well. I just want these chemicals off, but fear that I will be posting tomorrow saying WTH......
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  • ledareignledareign Posts: 2Registered Users
    I have 4b hair and succeeded at going natural by transitioning. My 1st attempt was by way of the BC and I ended up straightening my hair.

    Corporate America seems to be embracing natural hair more readily. Most of the Black women at my company (and there are few) are natural. Afros, twist, dreads you name it.

    My last kit was in July of 2003.

    Hang in there!

    The reward is well worth waiting for.
  • Butterfly_CurlzButterfly_Curlz Posts: 955Registered Users
    I am also a recent beginning transitioner as well. 10 going on 11 weeks caring for my hair and 17 weeks since last perm. Initially I was very frustarated w/what to do, how to do it, what products to use, etc however whenever I feel myself getting ready to give up I just do some more research (youtube vids, natural sites and the internet in general has been extremely helpful). By this time you should be able to look at your new growth and have some idea what your natural texture may be. (Not that this is/would be your main reason for transitioning however when you have some idea about your texture you can spend more time learning how to care for it). So I say if you want to bc then do it but not because it was suggested by one of your friends. You never mentioned wanting to chop because you felt it was best but only after you became frustrated (and we all do through out this journey) and your friends offered this as an option. The bottom line is its your hair and your journey. As with anything in life there will be ups and downs but the worst thing you can do is make a rash decision..especially about your hair. Yes it will grow back and although you stated that you already have a short style you may not like it/be prepared to deal w/care for an even shorter style. So I would say do some more research on styles, play with them a little (I did this and settled for either brading/twisting my hair and wearing a quick weave while I just take out the front twists to blend the two textures...that way I am still protecting my hair but am still" work appropriate" until I get out of my transition stage) and sit on the idea for about a week. Then if you still want to bc then go for it!
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]Hair Type: A head full of THICK, normal porosity curls/coils that I am TOTALLY in LUV with!
    (Transitioned for 16 & 1/2 months)


    Loving:love10:: MC LI Condish, Raw shea butter, Coconut & Grapeseed Oil, SM raw shea butter shampoo,HEHH Conditioner, Braggs ACV & Egg, Mayo & EVOO PT's



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  • LisaGurlLisaGurl Posts: 54Registered Users
    I am also a recent beginning transitioner as well. 10 going on 11 weeks caring for my hair and 17 weeks since last perm. Initially I was very frustarated w/what to do, how to do it, what products to use, etc however whenever I feel myself getting ready to give up I just do some more research (youtube vids, natural sites and the internet in general has been extremely helpful). By this time you should be able to look at your new growth and have some idea what your natural texture may be. (Not that this is/would be your main reason for transitioning however when you have some idea about your texture you can spend more time learning how to care for it). So I say if you want to bc then do it but not because it was suggested by one of your friends. You never mentioned wanting to chop because you felt it was best but only after you became frustrated (and we all do through out this journey) and your friends offered this as an option. The bottom line is its your hair and your journey. As with anything in life there will be ups and downs but the worst thing you can do is make a rash decision..especially about your hair. Yes it will grow back and although you stated that you already have a short style you may not like it/be prepared to deal w/care for an even shorter style. So I would say do some more research on styles, play with them a little (I did this and settled for either brading/twisting my hair and wearing a quick weave while I just take out the front twists to blend the two textures...that way I am still protecting my hair but am still" work appropriate" until I get out of my transition stage) and sit on the idea for about a week. Then if you still want to bc then go for it!

    ITA
  • SmilingElephantSmilingElephant Posts: 666Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    My opinion? DO NOT CHOP UNTIL YOU SAY YOU SHOULD

    I'm dealing with a WHOLE lot of hair (Waistlength hair and been transitioning since May 12th....i'll be 23 weeks post this week....as well as 5 months post!!!)...and i get frustrated eevry now and then with the two textures but i know if i chopped my hair off right now i'd go crazy and never leave the house!!!

    I'm keeping all my length to use it to style and such...i mean you can't throw your hair into a ponytail or a bun or in flexi-rods with a TWA:sign6: lol.

    Conditioner solves everything for me though....but please don't chop your hair off until you're ready!:angel2:
    2yrs 7 months post relaxer/2 years and 11 months natural

    Cleanse: SM Moisture Retention or Suave Naturals shampoos
    Co-Wash: Suave Naturals, L'Oreal EverCreme or EverCurl
    RO/Detangler: Tresseme Naturals:nemo:, GVPCB
    Leave-In: SM Curl Enhancing Smoothie, TN, GVPCB
    Styler: EcoStyler, GF Pure Clean gel, KCCC

    Just discovering my hair likes protein! :dontknow:

    :wav:
  • warfield1202warfield1202 Posts: 27Registered Users
    Thank you all for your help and suggestions. I am NOT ready to do the BC. I had to do some soul searching and it is just not going to work for me right now. I need to grow it out more. I wish I could find one great protective style and stick with it. Oh well, youtube, these blogs, and the help and support of my husband and daughters has been great. I'm keeping with this journey..... I know it will be well worth it in the end....:afro:
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