I Just BC And have no idea what to do next!

Dimplesonme2Dimplesonme2 Posts: 31Registered Users
Hi! I just bc yesterday after 3 months of transitioning and I am confused and terrified. My hair looks nothing like I thought it would and my family is not exactly being supportive. My daughter tells me it looks awful, my husband isn't even looking at my hair. (Although they all knew I was doing this)

I was excited when I did it, couldn't wait to do it, watched a million YT videos, read every article I could, but now feel lost.

My hair is fuzzy and the stylist left way too many permed strands so they stick out everywhere, making it look fuzzier. I DC last night and bought some shears to cut what I could but it still looks horrible. When I first came home I cowashed, applied HE longterm leave in (which seemed too thick) then applied some ecostyler to get some curl definition, but my hair was crunchy and dry looking, not shiny, and the leave in mixed with the ecostyler left a film.

So I decided to wash and DC before going to bed to remove the products and moisturize. After DC with AO Honeysuckle Condish and Olive Oil, I applied a quarter sized ORS Mayo leave in, then my sheacoco butter.

When I woke up this morning I had a flat, dry fuzzy looking mess. I am DISTRAUGHT! I have no idea what to do now. Do I co wash every morning? Is it bad to pick out my TWA after washing to give it more volume? Will that break my fine hair? (possibly 4a/4b) What happened to the curls I saw while transitioning?

I work in the legal field and I have no idea how to work this without wigs. I don't want to wear wigs until this grows enough to twist. I'm over 40, so who is to say I will get the same growth rate as the younger ones going natural?

I would appreciate any advice from anyone to help get through the next few days. Is this how it typically feels immediately after BC?
Big Chop: Sept/2010
Texture: Med-Fine strands, low porosity and protein challenged
Took so many pictures decided to get a Fotki!


  • LotsawavesLotsawaves Posts: 8,660Registered Users
    You will probably get more advice on the hair boards.
    From Michael Berg:

    Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."
  • bunniee23bunniee23 Posts: 228Registered Users
    yes, I would also suggest posting this on the main hair board. I have no idea what a BC is, sorry!
    Type 2b. Wash: WEN pomegranate or fig. Leave-in conditioner: Alaffia beautiful curls for wavy hair, Spiral Solutions Protein spray. Style: Curls In A Bottle, Ecostyler, or KCCC.
  • SystemSystem Posts: 39,059 Administrator
    Cowashing and applying product in the morning would be better than doing it at night. You could apply your product and then use a headband like these:

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    They're cute, come in a lot of different colors to match your outfits, and look really neat when you don't know what else to do with your hair as it grows. They're at every grocery store, Walmart, and drugstore. I bought a pack of six for around $2.99.
  • SparklyCurlsSparklyCurls Posts: 163Registered Users
    bunniee23 wrote: »
    yes, I would also suggest posting this on the main hair board. I have no idea what a BC is, sorry!

    BC = Big Chop ... as in cutting off a lot of hair.

  • morrighumorrighu Posts: 707Registered Users
    Step One - Inhale deeply and remind yourself that hair does grow back.

    Now, if your stylist didn't cut it properly and there are bits sticking up here and there, consider going back and making them fix it. BC's are drama enough without having them botched.
  • imlaimla Posts: 163Registered Users
    I'm not sure how long your hair is, but you may be putting in too many products. Try co-washing and then just a leave-in or sheacoco butter. You may not need both. Hang in there. I've been natural 8 years now (3 BC) and it does get better. HTH
    Hair Type: 4a/b dense, fine, coily hair. Natural 13 years.

    Staples: Matrix Biolage Exquisite Oil S & C, aloe vera, almond oil mix, black soap shampoo and bentonite clay.

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