I'm in mourning...

PixieCurlPixieCurl Registered Users Posts: 5,656
...over the loss of Solomon's beautiful flowing blonde hair.

My husband and I both like it a little long, but combined with the fact that Solomon screams bloody murder and wiggles like crazy whenever we take him for a cut, it had been too long and he definitely needed a trim. His bangs were in his eyes, people frequently made comments about him needing a haircut and a few people mistook him as a girl. So yeah, I knew we needed to cut it soon. I'm not one of "those" mothers who wouldn't cut her boy's hair at all.

I went to Wegmans yesterday morning so I could shop in peace without the boys, and while I was gone my husband tried to trim Sol's hair himself. He just did the bangs (crooked) and tried a little on the side, but it was so bad there was no way I could fix it myself; we would have had to take him to a professional. We had a lot of other stuff to do yesterday so my husband started trying to convince me to just let him buzz it. I went from "absolutely not" to "it might be the only way we can fix it" to "IF I agree to it the following conditions will apply..." and then before I officially agreeed, my husband just went ahead and did a swipe, so I had no choice but to let him finish. (in his defense, he thought I had agreed to it even though I never gave my OFFICIAL consent)

I hate it. Absolutely hate it. His hair was his thing. It made him stand out. It made him look like an adorable little hippy-child. Now he looks like all other little boys. I know it's just hair and it will grow back, but I can't help but be irrationally and illogically upset over it. I've cried a lot. I feel like I don't even recognize my little boy anymore. Yesterday I dozed off for a few minutes when I was getting him down for his nap, and when I jolted awake and looked down at him, it took me a minute to figure out if I was with him or Abram.

My husband loves it. He thinks it makes him look older and more manly. Every time my husband says how great it looks I want to cry again. Anything he says to try to make me feel better just makes me feel worse. I dread taking him out in public and having people make comments because I'm afraid I'll burst into tears. I've already told my husband this was a one-time thing and as it grows back, we're going to just do trims to try to get it back the way it was before it got too crazy-long.

I know I'm being overly dramatic. I've already acknowledged that it's irrational and illogical to be this upset over hair, but I can't help it.
Faith, 3Aish redhead
Mama to two wild superheroes and a curly-headed baby boy :love5:

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  • CGNYCCGNYC Registered Users Posts: 4,938 Curl Connoisseur
    Was this his first haircut? I think that can be emotional for any mom as like you said, it takes away any last trace of baby look about them and makes them look like big kids. At least little kid hair grows super fast.

    S hasn't had a haircut yet because it never really got to that ragged, needs to be cleaned up phase and I was NEVER allowed to have long hair. She likes it so as long as she continues to let me brush it, I'll probably just keep letting it go till it starts to look ratty. I am hoping that by the time we decide to cut it, it won't be such a huge big to do.

    What does he think about it?
  • PixieCurlPixieCurl Registered Users Posts: 5,656
    It wasn't his first. He's had three professional cuts and we've trimmed it ourselves before. I wasn't terribly emotional before because it was never such a drastic change. He actually seems to like it. Even though he put up a bit of a struggle, I think having his hair cut with clippers "just like Daddy" was kind of fun for him.

    Luckily, like mine, his hair grows really fast so hopefully we can have it a bit longer again in a few months.
    Faith, 3Aish redhead
    Mama to two wild superheroes and a curly-headed baby boy :love5:
  • PartyHairPartyHair Registered Users Posts: 7,713
    Aww, poor Pixie! Solly did have beautiful hair, and I think I've even commented on it!

    But it will grow back (and really, B saying how "manly" it makes him look? I'd be tempted to kick B in the manlies for saying that. Solly's a little boy. Let him BE a little boy!).
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Registered Users Posts: 31,259 Curl Connoisseur
    I'll bet Sol likes it though. It probably feels great to be buzzed short in the summer heat.

    I used to buzz my little boys in the summer, for their comfort, but let it grow long all winter.

    Pics?
  • ruralcurlsruralcurls Registered Users Posts: 2,574
    I am sorry it was so traumatic for you, Pixie.

    It's always amazing to me how grown-up little boys look after the first "big cut". They lose the baby look.

    I think it is great that S seems to like it. He might start to really like it when he realizes he doesn't have to sit through a combing anymore.

    What does your husband say about letting it grow back? Does he have any say in this matter?

    Also, can you bring yourself to post a picture?
  • mad scientistmad scientist Registered Users Posts: 3,530 Curl Neophyte
    Awwww, I'm going to miss seeing pictures of Sol's long hair!

    I like RCW's idea of letting him enjoy a buzzed head for the summer and then grow it out again in the fall.
  • jfr24601jfr24601 Registered Users Posts: 8
    Boy can I relate! My son who is now 10, has had
    some stylists I thought enhanced his curls and
    some whose solution was to whack it off.
    When it's whacked off or not cut right I really
    have a hard time not feeling upset inside. I
    finally figured out that I was kind of seeing my
    son's hair as an extention of mine! I'm carrying
    some hair baggage I guess. Thank God hair
    grows!
  • PixieCurlPixieCurl Registered Users Posts: 5,656
    PH - I know about looking "manly"! He said it made him look two years older.... to which I said "What's wrong with looking 2?"

    RCW - It will be cooler for summer. It did make him really sweaty before. If we were going to do it anyway, we should have done it before the heat wave started.

    rural - my husband is on board with growing it out again. That was one of my "conditions" of buzzing it in the first place, that it would be a one-time thing. My husband's thought is that by the time it's long enough to need a trim, Sol may have matured enough to be able to sit through one.

    And a pic....

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    I forgot how much his ears stick out when his hair's not covering them LOL. My husband's were the same way when he was a little boy.
    Faith, 3Aish redhead
    Mama to two wild superheroes and a curly-headed baby boy :love5:
  • ruralcurlsruralcurls Registered Users Posts: 2,574
    Oh, I know you don't want to "hear" this, but he looks so cute!!!
  • PartyHairPartyHair Registered Users Posts: 7,713
    Pixie, he's still your sweet little boy. He's adorable.

    It could be worse. My idiot brother-in-law took my nephews in for their summer buzzcuts and they came back with mohawks. They looked like little thugs. Happily the mohawks are growing out and they look almost normal again. :)
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  • cymprenicympreni Registered Users Posts: 9,609 Curl Neophyte
    I found with my boys that little mini trims helped out a lot with them until they got older. Sitting for a 2 minute haircut is easier than 15 minutes.

    I did it one section at a time (front, sides, back, layering), but I'm not sure how well that would work with straight hair.
  • PixieCurlPixieCurl Registered Users Posts: 5,656
    OK I admit, he looks pretty cute in that picture. And IRL I guess I'm getting used to it. Every time I picture what it used to look like, though, I still get sad.

    PH, I think I would have liked a mohawk! Or more like a faux-hawk so he could wear it normal too.
    Faith, 3Aish redhead
    Mama to two wild superheroes and a curly-headed baby boy :love5:
  • curly_keltiecurly_keltie Registered Users Posts: 791
    I totally understand. I didn't cut DS's hair until he was 15 months old, although he needed it much sooner. I love letting his hair grow and his curls show - but it is much easier to keep it short. In early June, DS asked me for a haircut. I asked if he wanted a #1 or a #2 and he said #1. I was a little taken aback by how short it was - but it has 'grown' on me.

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    Long, blonde, 3a/mostly b hair.

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  • Jess the MessJess the Mess Registered Users Posts: 5,844 Curl Neophyte
    PartyHair wrote: »
    Pixie, he's still your sweet little boy. He's adorable.

    It could be worse. My idiot brother-in-law took my nephews in for their summer buzzcuts and they came back with mohawks. They looked like little thugs. Happily the mohawks are growing out and they look almost normal again. :)
    I'm the mother who totally let her son sport a mowhawk for a few months :)

    Pixie I can relate. Luke had buzzed hair until about 2years old. It was easier since his baby hair was so straight and I buzzed his dad's hair all the time so it was easy to cut Luke's too. Started buzzing it at 8 months old actually. I also chopped my daughter's hair at 2. I was never really attached to their hair...or so I thought. When Luke was 2 I just let it grow by 3 it was really cute and by 4 he was my little California boy and I LOVED it so much.
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    As soon as he saw his step-dad and uncles buzz their's for summer he wanted it too buzz it and after much cute begging I gave in.
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    It has been various lengths since then (including his mowhawk) but never as long as it was then and when every summer rolls around he makes me cut it as soon as his s-dad (as the kids call him) does.
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    This was just a few weeks ago...right after his buzz.
    Ivy also insisted on getting her hair short this summer and she wants to go even shorter. At almost 10 I'm not going to argue anymore.
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    I realize he has a thick head of wavy hair and he's much happier with it short but I still miss his sun-kissed waves so much.

    Pixie I think Sol looks adorable. You'll start to get used to it and when you see how much easier it is in the summer maybe you'll end up liking it. It's just one of many moments where you see your baby growing up.
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  • CurlyCanadianCurlyCanadian Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Posts: 10,904 Curl Connoisseur
    I totally understand. I didn't cut DS's hair until he was 15 months old, although he needed it much sooner. I love letting his hair grow and his curls show - but it is much easier to keep it short. In early June, DS asked me for a haircut. I asked if he wanted a #1 or a #2 and he said #1. I was a little taken aback by how short it was - but it has 'grown' on me.

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  • deezee02deezee02 Registered Users Posts: 1,509
    I totally understand. I LOVE LOVE LOVE Steven with longer hair. He has loose curls/waves like Sol and I think it is adorable on little boys.

    DH and everyone else around me made fun of him, saying he needs a hair cut all the time ect. He also hated going to the salon, so I tried to trim it myself, did a great job and on the last area, messed it all up.

    FIL fixed it, and he uses the clippers on the absolute highest setting, so it was not super short, but helped to cover my mistake. He is much cooler with the summer, but secretly I want to grow it out again. I won't mention it to DH, but since I am the one who takes him I might conveniently never have time

    I totally agree with your comment "what is wrong with him looking like a little boy." I hate how everyone says he looks like a big boy with his hair short. HE IS STILL MY BABY!!!!!!

    ETA - He is adorable! And like you said, it will grow back fast, it could be MUCH shorter
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  • geminigemini Registered Users Posts: 3,325
    Oh, his hair was gorgeous, I get what you're saying. But I have to admit he is still so adorable, just more "big boy" now.

    I have not taken Elise for a big cut--it's so curly and like CG, I got sheared regularly, so I just trim the ends from time to time and keep it moving. I can manage her hair so unless she asks, I'll leave it alone. I also think the big boy haircut is a much bigger deal over the girls' haircuts because it is such a major change, and the assumption is that you're going to keep cutting it that short from there on out.
  • SigiSigi Registered Users Posts: 2,379
    He still looks adorable! And even though it's hard to get used to, it'll grow back before you know it!

    Each of my kids have different hair. Bennett has super thick, wavy hair. We tried growing it out a few times, but all it does is poof. So his hair is kept super short.

    Preston has thickish straight hair, which he twirls (at the top) when he's bored. He also has a cowlick at the top of his head at the back that sticks up. So we keep his hair longish on top so he can twirl it and the cowlick will lie a little flatter, but the sides and back are kept shorter.

    Soren is my curly. He has thin curly hair like me. He's only had 2 haircuts, and we'll probably keep his hair on the longer side because it just looks better that way.
  • PixieCurlPixieCurl Registered Users Posts: 5,656
    curly_keltie, E looks adorable!

    Jess, I loooooove Luke's hair in that first pic. He looks great with it shorter too of course but obviously I'm biased toward longer hair. I think he definitely looks like a little boy in that pic, were people constantly saying he looked like a girl?

    deezee, sounds like we've got the same story... except my husband likes Sol's hair longer too, just not as long as it had gotten. I think because he's bald himself, he likes to live vicariously through Sol :lol:
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    Mama to two wild superheroes and a curly-headed baby boy :love5:
  • TrenellTrenell Registered Users Posts: 3,562 Curl Connoisseur
    I still haven't cut Isaiah's hair and he'll be 4 in September. I'll cut it when he asks. He knows people dig his hair, so I don't think that will be anytime soon. When wet it is down his back, but dry it does hit his shoulders. I'll be willing to trim when it does.



    My MIL said that hubby's father took him to get his hair cut ("his beautiful little curls" her words) without telling her. She just came home and, gone.

    A$$ kickings would have been issued to all involved.
  • cosmicflycosmicfly Registered Users Posts: 1,814
    I'm another mom who let my boy rock a mohawk. In fact, this is the first summer since he was 6 that he hasn't had one (he is 9). Now he is growing his hair out and he gets the "looks like a girl" comments. I don't think he looks like a girl.

    Aidan has a "little boy" haircut- it was a compromise since his dad wanted to buzz it. He plays with his hair before he goes to sleep and I thought it would be awful to leave him with nothing. I missed his baby curls in the back after it was cut, but he looks cute and he still has his baby face.

    Now my daughter hacked off all of her beautiful hair in September one morning while I was in the shower. I was horrified, but I think it's because I was never allowed to have long hair and I know my mother made comments to Maya about her hair being unattractive. She is growing it back and I am doing my best to keep my mother's commentary from mattering to her.

    Pixie, Sol looks adorable with or without his hair. I get what you are saying though. It will grow back :)
  • curly_keltiecurly_keltie Registered Users Posts: 791
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    Awwwww!!!! Is he a TimBit?!?!??![/quote]


    Yes he is!

    This is what his hair was like 2 months before I had it cut.

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    Long, blonde, 3a/mostly b hair.

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  • medussamedussa Registered Users Posts: 12,993
    Sol is such a cutie pie. :love7:

    I totally understand mourning the longer hair. I had a similar experience when Catherine went from hair down her back, to a short stylish bob. I got over it quickly because she loved it so much, as did everyone else.
  • cosmicflycosmicfly Registered Users Posts: 1,814
    Bumping because now Aidan's hair is all gone. I told his dad just a trim, to clean up the edges, but this is what he ended up with:

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  • nynaeve77nynaeve77 Registered Users Posts: 7,135 Curl Novice
    That does it for me...reading this thread has made me resolved to never let my husband cut my son's hair! I'll take him to a proper salon when the time comes...LOL

    My nephew had the cutest curls when he was Sol's age. My SIL's FIL thought he looked too "girly" and cut them all off one day, without my SIL's permission. She was horrified. :( If anyone did that to either of my kids, they'd be facing one heck of an angry mama.
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  • KaiaKaia Registered Users Posts: 8,815 Curl Connoisseur
    Oh F, I'm sooo sorry! I would be heartbroken too. (((Hugs))) mama!
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