CurlTalk

What was "It" that finally made you decide to lose

I'm so annoyed at myself for not being able to stick to a food plan and eat properly to lose the weight I gained over the past year. I hate it and yet, no matter what, I can't seem to stick to anything. I've been able to do it in the past, but seem to be stuck now.

I'd like to hear from others what triggered them to finally "get down to business" and stay with their eating plan.

Comments

  • MaudieMaudie Posts: 508Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Maudie


    CO wash-Vo5 Kiwi Lime
    Regular CO-Tresemme Naturals Silicone Free
    Deep CO-Aussie 3 Minute Miracle

    Shampoo-Jhirmack Silver Plus Ageless once a week
    Cream-Garnier Fructis Sleek $ Shine Leave-In Conditioning
    Gels-LA Looks Sport

    Going silver-last hair color 4/10/15
  • SpringcurlSpringcurl Posts: 8,002Registered Users
    I'm far from being there, but I have lost 19 pounds.

    What did it for me was a health fair where I found out I have high blood pressure, low good cholesterol and am (or was) 43% body fat. I'm 39 years old and am definitely at an age where I've got to take this stuff seriously.
    TWINKLES.gifTWINKLES.gifTWINKLES.gif

    Obamacare is not a blueprint for socialism. You're thinking of the New Testament. ~~ John Fugelsang



  • Oregano  (formerly babywavy)Oregano (formerly babywavy) Posts: 5,297Registered Users
    I don't think there was anything that made me decide okay, that's it, I'm really going to do it now. Just the fact that I was able to stick to a plan meant to me that I was ready.

    Every time I'm not able to stick to a plan and lose the weight, I figure that I just must not be THAT bothered by it yet.
    ~ the artist formerly known as babywavy ~

    Please excuse any typos. For the time being, we are blaming it on my computer.
  • StarrwithoutniteStarrwithoutnite Posts: 1,732Registered Users
    My motivator was not fitting into my 'fat' pants. I was getting really depressed and the dress I bought for my cousins wedding didnt fit. It was bad. I was physically discusted with myself.

    What helped me was being deployed in Iraq without anything else to do. I ballooned the month before I left becuase I knew I would loose it in Iraq so I came here the heaviest in my life, but now I have an excersise routine and a good eating plan that I dont plan on giving up once Im home. SO in a sense Im lucky because I dont have the distractions and temptations that I do back home, but now I know the benefits of eating well and going to the gym regularly so...

    (Now its all good, my 'skinny' jeans are loose and I may have to go down another size and Im toned becuase Im not eating all the fatty foods, I used to think I could eat whatever if I was hitting the gym...but now I know better and even with a bum leg and on painkillers everyday I feel like the healthiest Ive ever been!)

    Possibly unwanted advice: Dont get discouraged if it doesnt come off overnight, it takes time and patience. Good luck!
    "Someday love will find you...break those chains that bind you!!"


    XIJ2VeH.jpgXIJ2m8.png




  • WileE-DeadWileE-Dead Banned Posts: 24,963Banned Users
    Suz...you still walk quite a bit, right?
    0004.gif

    Ever since the sports thread wars I have sensed a special connection between [edit] & Wile. Like the connection oil has to water. I almost can't speak of it. Wait....my eyes are misting. ~asq
    Let’s just stay together and tell the world to kiss our ass. ~P


  • GuardianBGuardianB Posts: 1,818Registered Users
    Mine is going to be health. As soon as I stop lying to myself that I don't have it. :oops:
    ~Two friends, one soul inspired~ anonymous
  • three rivers curlythree rivers curly Posts: 994Registered Users
    I hurt my back simply by standing up.

    I was 20lbs over weight, I sat on my ass all day, and one day the slight lower back pain turned took a turn when I stood up - I tore 3 ligaments in my lower back. It hurt worse than childbirth. I went to the doctor and he mentioned the difference in my usual weight, said it may have put a strain on my back.

    It took a lot to wake me up. I had always been naturally thin. Suddenly I was 3-4 sizes bigger, and I thought I would just wake up one morning and be skinny again.

    I started by giving up processed food. That took 5 pounds right off the top - then I moved on to all sugars, basically I switched to dark chocolate for a treat. Slowly but surely I made little changes until it all came off.

    Good luck!
    Better everyone think your a fool, than to open your mouth and prove them right.

    Perception is not reality.

    /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fpublic.fotki.com%2Fhmiklos" class="Popup
  • love yourself firstlove yourself first Posts: 5,398Registered Users
    What Babywavy and GuardianB said. I could have written those posts word for word. I have more to lose but have knocked off 25 lbs this year. It makes a big difference and feels (and looks) great.

    PS. For me at least it's not just eating, although eating is probably at least 60% or more responsible. Exercise is also hugely important. Regular exercise, every other day.
    "Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people."
    "I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then we live with that decision."
    - Eleanor Roosevelt (both quotes)

    (taking a break from posting starting late august 2009)
  • CsaracCsarac Posts: 861Registered Users
    Not thinking about it.

    Seriously, when I used to obsess over everything it did me no good at all. I just decided one day to take it one meal at a time, do the best I could, move on to the next meal, ad nausem. After a while you realize, "Hey! It's been a month and I am doing really well!"

    I think it also helped that I was already deep into an exercising routine before I decided to tackle the food aspect of things. I also didn't stress over that either.

    My thinking with the exercise was "OK, I am NOT doing this to lose weight, I am doing it to keep my heart and mind strong and healthy, stay firm, sleep better, improve my mood, keep my skin looking great and to stay flexible." Once it became part of my life regularly (5 to 6 days a week on a good week - at least 3 times during a "bad" week, which is still better than most people) then I began to think about how I was eating.

    I didn't weigh myself when I was just doing the exercise either, I am normally not big on using the scale anyway since I always weight more than what I look like, which was another issue I had to tackle and get over. Once I realized what my healthy weight was and how good it looked, the numbers didn't matter to me anymore - I knew where I needed to stay to be healthy and happy with myself.

    I started monitoring my weight closely only after I started my eating plan (which in my case was Weight Watchers [the point program] on-line, since I had a newborn and could not get to meetings at the time - I do my exercising at home too, I just prefer to be by myself when focusing on my body and mind. I can't deal with the schedules and distraction of other people, but that is just a personal thing, you do what works for you). Once I got to my goal weight, I did the unthinkable, I WEIGHTED MYSELF EVERY DAY. I know, I know, everyone says don't do that, but for me it worked because if I was up a couple of lbs. I knew what I needed to do for the next couple of days to take care of it. In my experience, if I do the once a week thing, it's not as effective for me, just hopping on the scale first thing in the a.m. helps me set smaller, daily goals that are easier to meet and the progress is seen within the next day or two, which is a good motivator for me, as opposed to waiting a week.

    I am 8 months pregnant now with my second child and as soon as I give birth I am getting right back into my WW plan and exercise routine again. I am not even worried about losing the weight this time around and that is immensely satisfing to me to know that I know what I need to do and CAN do it.

    So, I am not saying you need to follow my path but definitely do what feels right and works for you, even if it means trying (and failing) at a couple of different things. Oh, and don't try to do too much at one time, baby steps seem to be the way to go.

    Good luck!
    HG: Biosilk Rock Hard Gelee (always and forever)
    Cantu Naturals s & c (shampoo 1x a week), use conditioner as a co-wash every day and LI under my gel.


    Air dry then diffuse canapy layers only for volume
    Coconut oil before/after coloring grays and on ends.

    2b/c mix waves/curls - coarse, frizz prone, med. thick, porous, at-home color, protein sensitive but I still need it sometimes, glycerin-sensitive (I think) in high humidity. After 16 years on NC.com I FINALLY figured it out..

  • MarMar Posts: 3,003Registered Users
    For me it's not about weight,but getting fit-and I am TRYING to stick to a healthy eating plan(NOT a "diet")
    And what was "IT"-my age :)
    "what's so funny 'bout peace, love and understanding?"



    "If you judge people,you have no time to love them"
    -Mother Theresa
  • M2LRM2LR Posts: 8,630Registered Users
    I read a book called "Intuitive Eating." I stopped counting points, calories, etc...I eat what I want to eat, when I want to eat it, don't place "being bad" associtions with any kind of food, full fat, low fat, high sugar, whatever.

    I have lost some weight, of course not as fast as when I was on WW, however, I feel better about food in general. I hated telling myself that I couldn't, or tellng others, I can't have that...why can't I? Of course I can. And now, knowing that, half the time I don't WANT those things, you know?

    I have also found that if I eat something with real butter or sugar instead of the fake stuff, I feel better, too. Some of that fake stuff out there is HORRIBLE for you. I don't eat Splenda anymore, I don't drink much soda (maybe 8oz a day), and I don't drink coffee.

    Adding exercise is key, too.
    :rambo:
  • PattyInBostonPattyInBoston Posts: 16Registered Users
    What did it for me was hittting the same weight as my husband! :shock: My eyes were forced opened. I knew I had been gaining weight, Ever since I gor married 15 years ago, its been a couple of pounds a year until I got to be 55 pounds overweight. I'd been saying I was going to lose the weight and every once in a while I'd lose 10 pounds then eventually gain it back.

    This time when I hit that 179 and knew I didn't want to see 180, I accepted that I needed help. I thought about it long and hard and it took actual courage to make the call to my local Jenny Craig Center. I bought the food then and there, told my husband that he wasn't allowed to tempt me or ask me to go out to eat and I started exercising with a vengence.

    No It wasn't easy, no it wasn't fast (its been over a year) and no I'm not done yet. I've had lots of plateaus and various periods (like now during the holidays) where between work and weather, I just can't get to the gym. But I will get these last 10 pounds off after the New Year. I've taken 40+ off and will ge thtose last 10 as soon as I can find the motivation I have seemed to misplaced :lol:

    Good Luck, we're pulling for you!
  • fig jamfig jam Posts: 2,555Registered Users
    M2LR & Co. wrote:
    I read a book called "Intuitive Eating." I stopped counting points, calories, etc...I eat what I want to eat, when I want to eat it, don't place "being bad" associtions with any kind of food, full fat, low fat, high sugar, whatever.


    I have also found that if I eat something with real butter or sugar instead of the fake stuff, I feel better, too. Some of that fake stuff out there is HORRIBLE for you.

    The intuitive eating is the only thing that works for me. If I try to diet, I get obsessed with food and GAIN weight. There is a good, but brief, article about this approach in December's issue of Oprah magazine.

    I have also found that if I go ahead and eat a small amount of what I really want, I eat a lot less of it . TOTALLY true about eating the real thing -- I feel better, it's more satisfying and filling. I am still working on cutting out the Diet Cokes, though.
    "Tell me, are you incapable of restraining yourself, or do you take pride in being an insufferable know-it-all?"

    "Honey Badger don't care!"
  • modegrrlmodegrrl Posts: 273Registered Users
    My problem may be that I don't care or know what I weigh, but I hate my shape. My torso has always been like a tree trunk. It looks a little better when I'm thinner, but not much. No matter what size I am--10 or 18--my stomach is still too big and I don't have enough hips or butt to keep my pants up, which are always a size too big for said hips and butt, in order to fit my waist. Anyway....

    I haven't hit the point where the exercise thing clicks for me, but I will. I have two diabetic parents and I'm sure I will develop it and then I'll have to give up the sugar. Sure motivated my parents....
    "For many years the National Pretend Speed Limit was fifty-five miles per hour"--Dave Barry

    PW: frizzella
  • WavingNotCurlingWavingNotCurling Posts: 150Registered Users
    For me it was learning the difference between "wanting to be thinner" and being willing to actually "do what was required" to be thinner. I realized that wanting it simply wasn't enough.
    *CG for wavies. Type 2/3ab mix.
    (overgrown) Inverted bob.
    *Conditioner - VO5, Oyin, Goth Rosary
    *Gel - Origins, Jessicurl or Lush
    *Lo-Poo - Carols Daughter
  • x_tigerlilyx_tigerlily Posts: 432Registered Users
    When I was 16, I had gotten pretty overweight (190lbs on a 5'2 frame). It slowly creeped up on me over the years. And with the use of vanity sizes becoming more popular, I didn't notice much change in my pants' size. I remember that winter, my mom tried to get me to walk with her but I didn't SEE myself as "fat" or "overweight".

    It wasn't until the spring that I realized I had gotten quite big. I remember trying to buy new summer clothing--tight tank tops, shorts, skirts, etc. Nothing fit! Not the store's biggest size. I cried in the dressing room.

    A couple of days later, my mom asked me if I was interested in joining Weight Watchers. She had lost her pregnancy weight on it. I tried it and I ended up losing 40lbs. :) I've been able to keep it off for about a year and a half. I reached my goal weight, so I'm a free lifetime member now.

    Right now, I'm trying to follow the program again (hey, it's free). I would like to lose maybe 10 more pounds.
    3C/4A and too long to handle (and afford!)
  • DominicanaHeatDominicanaHeat Posts: 2,729Registered Users
    Finding out at 25 I have dangerously high cholesterol and gained 15lbs in a year and a half. I immediately changed my eating habits the moment I walked out of the doctor's office. I cut out fried, fatty foods, sugary sweet candies, processed flour foods, artificial beverages, etc. I eat tons of whole grains, fruits, veggies, natural juices, low fat foods. Been doing this for 3 weeks and it's okay. I was missing the burgers and fries at first but I'm okay now. Don't know how much weight I've lost, probably just a handful, but I'm eating much more better now. There are the rare days that I'll "treat myself" to something, but it's here and there and i make sure that I don't fall off the wagon if i do eat something indulgent.
    3a/3b thick coarse WL dark brown hair. CG/Mod CG since: 5/4/05. Current products: Right now my hair is in such a tizzy over this winter weather we are hving that nothing really seems to be working. I need a haircut.
  • meegsmeegs Posts: 354Registered Users
    There wasn't one trigger event. There had been various things throughout the last several years that would make me want to lose weight. And I'd try to lose but always fall off the wagon.

    But I just kept going. This time it just clicked. I have some ideas about why it clicked for me this time...things I've done that I think have helped. But it's also a matter of one day everything just aligns and it's a combination of things that are fully under your control and things that aren't.

    Best advice is just to keep at it. Get back on the wagon each time you fall off. You still learn something each time it happens, so put that into practice. Put yourself in a position to succeed. Put yourself in a position so that when things start aligning for you, you'll be able to take advantage of that opportunity. Sooner or later it will happen.
    2b-ish--embracing my waves this summer
    Aussie Catch the Wave condish, L'Oreal NutriGloss condish; Nexxus Designing Texxtur Cream, Rusk Radical Creme, Pantene Curl Defining Mousse, Paul Mitchell Sculpting Foam; coconut oil for DTs
  • afrosheenqueenafrosheenqueen Posts: 5,400Registered Users
    Someone on this site recommended www.sparkpeople.com and I checked it out. It customizes meal plans and excercises that I keep track of. I like that it is flexible and shows me what I can eat that will be filling and condusive to my weight loss. Very simple to look at it and it works for me.
    4a/b Texlaxed hair w/ highlights. Medium texture & high porosity.

    HG's: CJ Daily Fix, Bobeam Cheris Hibiscus shampoo bar, KC Spiral Spritz, Knot Today, CJ Rehab, KBB LL Hair Mask, Cassia, KCCC, oil blend of Avocado, Camellia, Jojoba, & Meadowfoam oils

    SL APL BSL MBL
  • nappymdnappymd Posts: 127Registered Users
    I was tired of feeling heavy and uncomfortable, my belly would roll out of bed before the rest of me. I just kept thinking about it, I read the French women don't get fat diet book and it seemed kind of simple. Baby steps. So I began to eat more fruits and vegetables, then I hopped off the subway early and walked 20 blocks home, which is 1 mile. Next thing I knew my clothes were baggy and I lost 14 lbs. I also ate every 3 hours and have 1 serving of vegetables or salad with lunch and dinner.

    It took me about 6 years to get to this point where it stayed off. I was watching Wayne Dyer and he said if you just keep thinking about then one day you'll make it happen.
    4b is me
  • luvmylocsluvmylocs Posts: 7,578Registered Users
    this is an interesting topic and i've enjoyed reading everyone's posts.

    right now i'm struggling to get control of my eating. i exercise 5-7 days a week and i'm actually an instructor at the gym, thank goodness for that but my eating has gotten so bad in the last several months and about 20 lbs that i'd lost before has crept back on. i don't look bad but i don't feel my best. i'm 5'9" and i look "thick". i can feel it in my tummy and hips that i'm carrying too much weight....yet i still eat. i love comfort foods and sugary stuff and i know i've been eating things i know i shouldn't too frequently. i've been having some family problems and i'm sure that some part of me is eating for nuturing that i'm not getting due to a poor relationship with my mother but i'm not one for excuses so i know i need to make a change. i know more about health and nutrition than anyone that is not actually a nutritionist or in the field because i love reading health and fitness magazines and books and i actually love to exercise but the food part is killing me. i'm not at the point where i'm depressed about it but i'm definitely bummed that i don't feel as comfortable as i did a short time ago about my body, when i was 20 lbs lighter. plus i feel bummed that i can't seem to control my own eating. the irony of it all is that i love all things health and fitness and have even regretted not choosing it as a full time career. i love motivating and helping others and others actually seek me out for advice yet they probably don't know how i struggle to make sure i don't get in the car and drive to get a frosty from wendy's or something like that when i get bored at home at night. i joined weight watchers for the support and thought the program was good but i was going to mtgs on the weekends and it got to be too much because my boyfriend felt like my schedule was way too packed with time at the gym then sunday afternoon mtgs and to be honest the mtg was a little inconvenient for my already busy schedule. right now i'm exploring journaling and i'm also considering going cold turkey on some foods that i'm overindulging in and i'm going to read a book on addictions to see if i come up with anything helpful to guide me as i try to lose the weight and make positive, lasting changes!

    oh well i guess i haven't answered the original question at all...perhaps this thread will be the thing that helps me refocus and make get myself together to stop letting my actions be controlled by the feelings i have for food.
    a dreamy pisces :fish:
    please recycle, it matters...
    i change lives...through fitness
    i'm more relaxed being natural