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Maybe, maybe not.

BoomygrrlBoomygrrl Posts: 4,940Registered Users
As some of you know, I had been trying to get pregnant for a few years now. I had a miscarriage last June (a year ago). Well, my husband and I had a few conflicts. We worked it out, for the most part.
I took Clomid earlier this month, as prescribed. Even though we had a few arguments while I was fertile, we still managed to have sex twice (on days 12 and 13).
Clomid was a b@#$% to me. Made me moody as all get out.
Well, I am now wondering I might be pregnant. Since my hubby and I are on speaking terms (LOL---We never were not "on speaking terms"), I am excited.
I do want a baby. I'm 39. As of now, I will be 40 when the baby is born if I am pregnant. So, time isn't on my side.
It will be good news for both my husband and me if I am pregnant, no doubt about it. In spite of some of our problems, we do love each other and we will love the upcoming baby.

So, I'm excited. I am going to test myself tomorrow morning. I'm on day 25 and no pre-period staining. I usually get some pre-period staining a few days before my 26-27 day cycle. I had some heavy vaginal discharge for a few days a few days ago, but that's gone away. My nipples have been hard for a long time. I thought it was the Clomid. Maybe still is. But my moodiness is gone (except I still get teary eyed when something sad is on TV LOL)...but my *****y moodiness is gone.
I was debating whether or not to test myself this morning, but ended up peeing anyways and missed my opportunity.

I know it's recommended to take a home pregnancy test first thing in the morning. I know the accuracy gets better the closer you are to your missed period, but can give a good indicator even a few days before.
Can I take it this evening, or should I wait?
I wanna know.
I'm going to visit my friend (a four hour drive) tomorrow after work, for the weekend. I definitely want to know before I see her...because my "girls night out" with her on Saturday will have to change significantly if I am pregnant. LOL
I want to know now, though.

It just might be the Clomid and now PMS. I might not even be pregnant. But I might.
That's right, I said it! I wear scrunchies!!

I am a sulfate washing, cone slabbing, curly lovin' s.o.b. The CG police haven't caught me yet.
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    Pregnancy and parenthood tends to teach women a very strong lesson in patience. The patience lesson starts while you're waiting to test. I wish you peace while you are learning patience.
  • BoomygrrlBoomygrrl Posts: 4,940Registered Users
    Thanks. So I should wait til tomorrow morning, eh? LOL
    That's right, I said it! I wear scrunchies!!

    I am a sulfate washing, cone slabbing, curly lovin' s.o.b. The CG police haven't caught me yet.
    :blob8:

    3a/3b
  • WileE-DeadWileE-Dead Banned Posts: 24,963Banned Users
    Yes, wait..lol
    I hope things turn out how you want them...
    You can still have that girl's nite out :icon_smile:
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  • BoomygrrlBoomygrrl Posts: 4,940Registered Users
    Yes, wait..lol
    I hope things turn out how you want them...
    You can still have that girl's nite out :icon_smile:

    Let's say I am pregnant. At this early stage (2 weeks since conception...I know you don't start counting until your missed period, right? but it's two weeks ago...if you know what I mean), would drinking pose a problem??
    That's right, I said it! I wear scrunchies!!

    I am a sulfate washing, cone slabbing, curly lovin' s.o.b. The CG police haven't caught me yet.
    :blob8:

    3a/3b
  • Jess2316Jess2316 Posts: 617Registered Users
    Boomygrrl wrote: »
    Yes, wait..lol
    I hope things turn out how you want them...
    You can still have that girl's nite out :icon_smile:

    Let's say I am pregnant. At this early stage (2 weeks since conception...I know you don't start counting until your missed period, right? but it's two weeks ago...if you know what I mean), would drinking pose a problem??

    I don't know the medical answer to that but I would not risk it. Good luck!
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  • WileE-DeadWileE-Dead Banned Posts: 24,963Banned Users
    Boomygrrl wrote: »
    Yes, wait..lol
    I hope things turn out how you want them...
    You can still have that girl's nite out :icon_smile:

    Let's say I am pregnant. At this early stage (2 weeks since conception...I know you don't start counting until your missed period, right? but it's two weeks ago...if you know what I mean), would drinking pose a problem??
    I'm gonna go out on a limb here & say no...for the simple fact that many of us had no idea & things turned out fine.......of course, it's totally up to you. How much drinking do you anticipate? :smurf:
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    Ever since the sports thread wars I have sensed a special connection between [edit] & Wile. Like the connection oil has to water. I almost can't speak of it. Wait....my eyes are misting. ~asq
    Let’s just stay together and tell the world to kiss our ass. ~P


  • BoomygrrlBoomygrrl Posts: 4,940Registered Users
    Not much, actually.
    I don't want to drink at all if there's a risk.
    Anyone know?
    I might have to tell my friend and the ones with me...even though I'd rather not share that info until I've been pregnant for two months...since I had that miscarriage before, I just don't want to have to tell people yet.
    Or I could lie....Tell them I'm taking antibiotics for something and cannot drink because of it. Antibiotics for what? Something not embarassing though, LOL.
    That's right, I said it! I wear scrunchies!!

    I am a sulfate washing, cone slabbing, curly lovin' s.o.b. The CG police haven't caught me yet.
    :blob8:

    3a/3b
  • PixieCurlPixieCurl Posts: 5,656Registered Users
    If you don't know yet whether you're pregnant, I'd say it's okay to drink just a little bit, especially if you don't want to tell your friends yet. Just get weak drinks and alternate with water, and really take your time drinking them.
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  • WileE-DeadWileE-Dead Banned Posts: 24,963Banned Users
    Then, I'd say no worries.....jmho
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    Ever since the sports thread wars I have sensed a special connection between [edit] & Wile. Like the connection oil has to water. I almost can't speak of it. Wait....my eyes are misting. ~asq
    Let’s just stay together and tell the world to kiss our ass. ~P


  • BoomygrrlBoomygrrl Posts: 4,940Registered Users
    Well, I'd hope to know tomorrow morning. Fingers crossed.

    If I am pregnant, I might have a drink or two but space it out a lot. I'll just have water in between. I'll make up some silly excuse like my stomach is achy, or something.
    Why make up an excuse? When my friend and I get together (which is only maybe 2-3 times a year), we go out and drink like fish. So, she'll know something is up. Actually, I don't mind her knowing as much. I just don't want to have to explain myself to everyone else. She's the friend I told last June. I only told my husband, my mother, and that friend...told my brother and father after the miscarriage.
    She can't keep a secret though. I love her, but she cannot filter herself. I have a feeling she will hint about it, thinking she's being clever, but I'll know and everyone else will know what she's trying to do. Uggh!
    That's right, I said it! I wear scrunchies!!

    I am a sulfate washing, cone slabbing, curly lovin' s.o.b. The CG police haven't caught me yet.
    :blob8:

    3a/3b
  • Jess2316Jess2316 Posts: 617Registered Users
    Well I had a half pitcher of STRONG margaritas a few days before I found out I was pregnant. My baby turned out fine. But the day we found out we were having friends over for dinner and they brought mojitos. I told them I'd had some drinks the night before and didn't feel too well that morning so I was going to skip them. I could just never forgive myself if I drank and then there was something wrong with the baby, whether the alcohol caused it or not. I'd always wonder if it was my fault.
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  • sarah42sarah42 Posts: 4,034Registered Users
    I've always heard, drink til you see pink.

    I was pretty strict during my first pregnancy, but during the second, I had half a beer or glass of wine several times with dinner. Everything was fine.
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  • BoomygrrlBoomygrrl Posts: 4,940Registered Users
    Til I see pink? You mean until confirmation on the pregnancy test?
    If I am pregnant, I'm going to be very careful for the most part. I'm not much into drinking, so this won't be a problem. I might have the two drinks Saturday night, but then that might be it. Maybe one or two drinks in New Orleans when I go there in August. Even then, I might not. Why risk it?
    I ate shrimp the other day, and thought "dang it, if I'm pregnant, this can't be good." But then I still ate the shrimp, justifying that I cannot worry about "if."

    I think it might be wishful thinking on my part, anyways. I am peeing frequently lately. Hmmmm.

    As it is now, if I'm pregnant, this fetus will have to fight the good fight to be born. I'm 39, I had surgery for benign tumors on my ovaries 4 years ago so there's probably scarring, I'm pre-diabetic so I might get gestational diabetes. I have a feeling if I get a successful pregnancy, my baby will be a "fighter," self-determined, take charge kind of person. Since I'm "old," that baby will probably be an only child (unless that Clomid makes me have twins LOL), so this child will likely be an independent person. That's my fantasy. LOL As long as the kid doesn't get any birth defects due to my old age. I just hope not.
    That's right, I said it! I wear scrunchies!!

    I am a sulfate washing, cone slabbing, curly lovin' s.o.b. The CG police haven't caught me yet.
    :blob8:

    3a/3b
  • DelmaDelma Posts: 1,121Registered Users
    Goodluck:thumbright:
  • StarmieStarmie Posts: 6,681Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Keeping fingers crossed for you.

    I had half a glass of wine when I was just and so (not tested yet) pregnant with my second, for the same reason as you - didn't want to tell anyone yet. I felt really guilty afterwards but all was well.
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  • CanItBeChristineCanItBeChristine Posts: 6,343Registered Users
    Good vibes.
  • BoomygrrlBoomygrrl Posts: 4,940Registered Users
    Well, I took the test. It said "Not Pregnant." If I don't have my period by Sunday, I'll test again Monday.
    But it doesn't look hopeful. I guess it was wishful thinking on my part.
    I am starting to think it just isn't meant to be. I'm not one of those that usually believes in fate, but for some reason I do with this.
    I know my husband wants kids, but I don't think he really WANTS kids. If that makes sense. I could probably try more intrusive fertility treatments, but getting his support has been difficult.
    My view now...if I somehow manage to get pregnant just by our random sex, then great. If not, then it just wasn't supposed to happen.
    I know that's probably stupid, but I'm demoralized through all of this. I tried and tried. My husband verbally says he hasn't given up, but his actions suggests otherwise. I am not going to do this alone. I felt crappy with the Clomid and I feel like if I'm not getting the support in this side of it all--what kind of support am I going to get when the baby is crying at 3am? or if the baby is sick and we have to juggle our work schedules? I think my husband would dearly love our potential future baby. I just question some things about him right now. I'm not happy with that, and that's a separate issue, I know.
    I would like to have a kid, but now I'm at the point that I am not in that state of mind that I just have to have a kid. If it happens, it happens.

    Thanks for everyone's support. I will be happy if I turn up pregnant, but I'm not going to be sad if I'm not.
    In a few years, I'll probably just get a puppy. I know it's not the same. I know it sounds silly-- there's no comparison between a dog and a kid. I felt a lot of love for my dog, who recently passed away and although I may never know the intense love as a mother towards her human child...I felt like I had some motherly connection with my canine kiddo...I liked that.
    I am waiting a few years, because who knows? there's still a small spark of hope about having a kid. I also have another dog, and I would like to bond with her. She was my husband's original dog (before our relationship). I like her, but I don't have that motherly bond. Maybe more like a nice stepmother or a nice aunt, but not a mother.

    This all sounds bizarre as I'm rereading what I typed. I guess it is. Maybe it was a blessing in disguise that I'm not pregnant. Even though my husband and I are getting along better, there's still some problems. A part of me thinks we might be divorced within 5 years anyways. Another part of me hopes that isn't the case.
    So, that's where I am with all this.
    That's right, I said it! I wear scrunchies!!

    I am a sulfate washing, cone slabbing, curly lovin' s.o.b. The CG police haven't caught me yet.
    :blob8:

    3a/3b
  • CanItBeChristineCanItBeChristine Posts: 6,343Registered Users
    I'm so sorry :(
  • nynaeve77nynaeve77 Posts: 7,135Registered Users
    I don't want to give you false hope, but with my first pregnancy, I tested on the first day of my missed period and got a negative result. I waited a few more days and retested b/c I didn't start my period, and sure enough, I was pregnant!
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  • BoomygrrlBoomygrrl Posts: 4,940Registered Users
    Thanks y'all.
    I reread my prior post. I'm being harsh with my husband. He isn't a bad person. I love him, and he loves me. There are just some things that don't sit well with me, that we've discussed until we're blue in the face. I'm not sure what my future holds.

    I've been very moody lately. A part of me wants to give up, and another part is very optimistic about having a kid and about my marriage. Ack! I used to not be like this. I'm craaaaazy! LOL

    Yeah, I'll recheck Monday if I don't get my period this weekend.

    Thanks everybody!
    Now off to visit my friend out of town. Have a good weekend, y'all!
    That's right, I said it! I wear scrunchies!!

    I am a sulfate washing, cone slabbing, curly lovin' s.o.b. The CG police haven't caught me yet.
    :blob8:

    3a/3b
  • SystemSystem Posts: 39,059 Administrator
    either way, good luck booomy. u're wonderful and you'd make a good mom. it's natural to be emotional and especially more so with fertility drugs.

    the speckla loves you. :love10:
  • kinihakiniha Posts: 233Registered Users
    Sending you hugs, good thoughts, and if you want it--baby dust! Trying to get pregnant can be so hard . . . I went through a lot of ups and downs and got pretty obsessive. We actually got pregnant AFTER we'd given up on trying--we were about to go in to consult with specialists and had just decided to give ourselves a break (I was 34 and husb 38 ). Of course, it's different for everyone, but i've heard from a lot of people that when they gave up 'trying' it actually seems to have helped them to conceive. Not much comfort, i know. but i'm wishing the best for you, your husband and your future.

    Also, every relationship has ups and downs and phases, and i wouldn't worry about being 'too hard' on your husband on the boards. The boards are a great place to vent, to think things over and air them out.

    Then we can all support you, and in that way I think it can be better than telling a family member or close friend who still has to maintain a relationship with your husband/the person in question.

    Wishing you the very best.:love4:

    Oh, and p.s. I love the expression 'fur baby' some people use for their pets. Of course we love those little suckers! It's a special kind of love--we're the center of their worlds and it's a major responsibility/form of stewardship. I think it's just as important as any other life relationship--maybe more so because animals don't have control over their own lives.
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  • poisonivypoisonivy Posts: 1,551Registered Users
    nynaeve77 wrote: »
    I don't want to give you false hope, but with my first pregnancy, I tested on the first day of my missed period and got a negative result. I waited a few more days and retested b/c I didn't start my period, and sure enough, I was pregnant!


    Some tests are more sensitive than others. I always use First Response. Very reliable. Sending you good vibes!