I HATE MY TWA! (dry hair blues)

missbre1201missbre1201 Posts: 16Registered Users
Hi again! :)


So I recently BC'd this past Saturday and I felt so free and liberated.....until I got home. My carpet felt better than the hair on my head!:shock:

I know my expectations should have been so high but my hair felt so nice while transitioning, and now its EXTREMELY dry, my ends are horribly tangled, and I've been wearing a cap for the past few days because I'm ashamed of how it looks.

Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can better moisturize my hair. I use such products as coconut oil, QB Heavy cream, etc. but it seems as though my hair doesnt want to cooperate!:banghead:

Someone told me that I may just have to wait it out. Is this true? Or am I doomed to being a cotton swab head forever? lol

Comments

  • breathebreathe Posts: 399Registered Users
    I had the same issue when I big chopped. Just don't be afraid to co-wash or spritz your hair with water because water = moisture. (I was so scared of over-moisturizing that I had brillo pad hair for a good two weeks!) Just keep pumping up the moisture until your hair starts to feel nice and not so much like a brillo pad. And don't forget to seal the moisture in with a good oil!
    big chop: 03/09/2010.
    modified cg.
    medium/coarse | dense | normal porosity | 4b/3c with random sprinkles of 4a.

  • missbre1201missbre1201 Posts: 16Registered Users
    breathe wrote: »
    I had the same issue when I big chopped. Just don't be afraid to co-wash or spritz your hair with water because water = moisture. (I was so scared of over-moisturizing that I had brillo pad hair for a good two weeks!) Just keep pumping up the moisture until your hair starts to feel nice and not so much like a brillo pad. And don't forget to seal the moisture in with a good oil!


    Thanks for the tips! How often do you co-wash?
  • curlyhersheygirlcurlyhersheygirl Posts: 475Registered Users
    I agree with breathe. In the begining you need lots of moisture. Either co wash daily or use a spritz daily also do deep treatments weekly you will see the difference instantly.
    Ensure to apply a moisturizing leave in and seal your hair.
  • EllyEllyOxenFreeEllyEllyOxenFree Posts: 6,446Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Also, pay very close attention to how your hair reacts to ingredients. Many curlies swear by coconut oil...my hair isn't really a fan. Some people don't like shea, cones, protein, glycerin, etc etc...so just test a bunch of stuff out! It's how pjism is born.
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  • missbre1201missbre1201 Posts: 16Registered Users
    ellepixie wrote: »
    Also, pay very close attention to how your hair reacts to ingredients. Many curlies swear by coconut oil...my hair isn't really a fan. Some people don't like shea, cones, protein, glycerin, etc etc...so just test a bunch of stuff out! It's how pjism is born.


    OMG! I though I was the only one. My hair thoroughly dislikes coconut oil. My cabinet is so full of products idk what to do! lol
  • codenameauburncodenameauburn Posts: 6Registered Users
    I'm over here having issues too. I have tried many a product that are supposed to be the greatest thing for moisture, but I have yet to find my staple moisturizer. I'm in agony, b/c my TWA isn't feeling moisturized right now. :sad1:

    I'm planning on trying Qhemet's and Darcy's soon. I don't know which to try first though.
    Shampoo: Kiss My Face Whenever Shampoo
    Conditoners: Kiss My Face Whenever Conditioner, Suave Naturals Coconut Conditioner
    Moisturizer: Oyin Hair Dew
    Sealant: Avocado Butter

    Natural: 3c/4a
  • missbre1201missbre1201 Posts: 16Registered Users
    OrenGreen wrote: »
    I'm over here having issues too. I have tried many a product that are supposed to be the greatest thing for moisture, but I have yet to find my staple moisturizer. I'm in agony, b/c my TWA isn't feeling moisturized right now. :sad1:

    I'm planning on trying Qhemet's and Darcy's soon. I don't know which to try first though.

    My hair LOVED Qhemet's Heavy Cream while I was transitioning but now...not so much. I just think my hair is in shock *shrug*
  • breathebreathe Posts: 399Registered Users
    breathe wrote: »
    I had the same issue when I big chopped. Just don't be afraid to co-wash or spritz your hair with water because water = moisture. (I was so scared of over-moisturizing that I had brillo pad hair for a good two weeks!) Just keep pumping up the moisture until your hair starts to feel nice and not so much like a brillo pad. And don't forget to seal the moisture in with a good oil!


    Thanks for the tips! How often do you co-wash?

    i co-wash about every 4 days at this point. if my hair isn't desert dry and hard on the fourth day, my scalp is. :angry7: ah, my scalp has always given me a hard time...
    big chop: 03/09/2010.
    modified cg.
    medium/coarse | dense | normal porosity | 4b/3c with random sprinkles of 4a.

  • gagirl09gagirl09 Posts: 2,316Registered Users
    Hey Miss:
    congrats on BC. Also maybe you want to try putting a little night time mixture on your head that will help feed your insatiable hair (lol). Originally I put glycerin, olive oil, water, rosemary oil and peppermint oil and jojoba in mine. Now I put castor oil, sweet almound oil, rosemary oil,water, and peppermint oil. Sealing in my moisture.
    Last relaxer: Nov. 24, 2008
    BC: December 19, 2009
    Products: Whatever works!
  • EllyEllyOxenFreeEllyEllyOxenFree Posts: 6,446Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    ellepixie wrote: »
    Also, pay very close attention to how your hair reacts to ingredients. Many curlies swear by coconut oil...my hair isn't really a fan. Some people don't like shea, cones, protein, glycerin, etc etc...so just test a bunch of stuff out! It's how pjism is born.


    OMG! I though I was the only one. My hair thoroughly dislikes coconut oil. My cabinet is so full of products idk what to do! lol

    Yep, I dunno what it is...it's fine mixed with stuff, but on its own makes my hair sooo dry.

    Also, cowash everyday! Natural hair likes water. Lol, I don't even think I can get second day hair b/c I do scalp massages every night.
    BC'ed: 26 Dec 09
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    Grand Duchess Fierce Freckles, Mistress of the Mighty Snap and Doyenne of the Potent Products Pavane in the Order of the Curly Crusaders
  • missbre1201missbre1201 Posts: 16Registered Users
    ellepixie wrote: »
    ellepixie wrote: »
    Also, pay very close attention to how your hair reacts to ingredients. Many curlies swear by coconut oil...my hair isn't really a fan. Some people don't like shea, cones, protein, glycerin, etc etc...so just test a bunch of stuff out! It's how pjism is born.


    OMG! I though I was the only one. My hair thoroughly dislikes coconut oil. My cabinet is so full of products idk what to do! lol

    Yep, I dunno what it is...it's fine mixed with stuff, but on its own makes my hair sooo dry.

    Also, cowash everyday! Natural hair likes water. Lol, I don't even think I can get second day hair b/c I do scalp massages every night.

    Is there any way I can try to "preserve" my hair. Whenever I wake up its super matted/flat!
  • EllyEllyOxenFreeEllyEllyOxenFree Posts: 6,446Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Are you just preserving your TWA or a style, like twists or finger coils? If it's just a curly fro, I personally prefer to wet/detangle daily. Also, are you sleeping on a satin pillowcase?
    BC'ed: 26 Dec 09
    YouTube
    Grand Duchess Fierce Freckles, Mistress of the Mighty Snap and Doyenne of the Potent Products Pavane in the Order of the Curly Crusaders
  • hippychichippychic Posts: 4,673Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    my hair was dry as a bone after my bc. i found that my loose natural hair hated silicones. i didn't realize silicones were in almost all commericial hair products. silicones were everywhere! like ellepixie, coconut oil with other stuff is good but straight coconut oil was horrible for me (oils too). palm oil is an effective deep treatment, pre-poo. my hair loves this. co-washing everyday became my BFF.

    your just going to have to go through trial and error to find what your hair likes/hates. order sample sizes/kits whenever possible. just because xyz liked so and so, doesn't mean your hair will. keep good notes and start a hair journal. :)
    LOIS (OS); cottony, TYPE 4 hair, fine/med strands; no cones bcz my hair hates them; last relaxer '98; now low porosity:?, ignores most natural hair rules; BC #8

    faves: suave, v05 shampoo, conditioner (my own), raw shea butter, castor oil, peanut oil, aloe juice
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
  • BleuSoulBleuSoul Posts: 110Registered Users
    Hi! I agree with Elle. My hair is not a fan of coconut oil either alone as a moisturizer. I never understood how it worked so well for others but used alone it leaves my hair dry and greasy.

    In the beginning I had to do just what Elle stated--experiment with a few things to find out what "my" hair needs and loves. (now after almost a year I find that shea, heavy butters, aloe are my hairs best friends)

    Hang in there though above all it is definitely a learning process.
  • whitechocolate629whitechocolate629 Posts: 46Registered Users
    One mistake I made in the beginning bc stages was trying tons of different products without ever clarifying!!! The result was rock hard, brillo pad hair. I mean, I was trying any & everything not giving things a fair chance cuz it was product over product. SMH....thank goodness I learned what I was doing wrong!

    Washing with a clarifying shampoo gets rid of any & all product buildup. Of course you'll need to follow up with moisturizing conditioner. Hang in there & hth.
  • missbre1201missbre1201 Posts: 16Registered Users
    Hey everyone!

    Thank you so much for your help! I started using the advice I received from y'all and I see some progress already! My hair is definitely softening up and I dont have to use as much product. The daily co-washing DEFINITELY made a difference!!! thanks for everything!
  • knt1229knt1229 Posts: 93Registered Users
    For the ladies who say coconut oil alone doesn't moisturize. The problem is that coconut oil isn't a moisturizer. It's a sealant. It seals in moisture. So in order to get good results you need to moisturize your hair with a moisturizer then seal the moisture in with coconut oil. I don't know of anyone who has successfully used any oil alone as a moisturizer.

    Some people can use water as the moisture and then seal the water/moisture in with oil. But that doesn't work for everyone. Most people need more than just plain water for moisture.
  • EllyEllyOxenFreeEllyEllyOxenFree Posts: 6,446Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    knt1229 wrote: »
    For the ladies who say coconut oil alone doesn't moisturize. The problem is that coconut oil isn't a moisturizer. It's a sealant. It seals in moisture. So in order to get good results you need to moisturize your hair with a moisturizer then seal the moisture in with coconut oil. I don't know of anyone who has successfully used any oil alone as a moisturizer.

    Some people can use water as the moisture and then seal the water/moisture in with oil. But that doesn't work for everyone. Most people need more than just plain water for moisture.

    I don't use oils to moisturize, only seal. All other oils work awesome on my hair for scalp massages and such, but something about coconut oil dries my hair out, on both wet and dry hair. I think (my wild guess) it is because it helps hair reduce protein loss, and my hair isn't a fan of protein either.
    BC'ed: 26 Dec 09
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    Grand Duchess Fierce Freckles, Mistress of the Mighty Snap and Doyenne of the Potent Products Pavane in the Order of the Curly Crusaders
  • hippychichippychic Posts: 4,673Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Hey everyone!

    Thank you so much for your help! I started using the advice I received from y'all and I see some progress already! My hair is definitely softening up and I dont have to use as much product. The daily co-washing DEFINITELY made a difference!!! thanks for everything!
    yay! :hello1:
    LOIS (OS); cottony, TYPE 4 hair, fine/med strands; no cones bcz my hair hates them; last relaxer '98; now low porosity:?, ignores most natural hair rules; BC #8

    faves: suave, v05 shampoo, conditioner (my own), raw shea butter, castor oil, peanut oil, aloe juice
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
  • hippychichippychic Posts: 4,673Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    ellepixie wrote: »
    knt1229 wrote: »
    For the ladies who say coconut oil alone doesn't moisturize. The problem is that coconut oil isn't a moisturizer. It's a sealant. It seals in moisture. So in order to get good results you need to moisturize your hair with a moisturizer then seal the moisture in with coconut oil. I don't know of anyone who has successfully used any oil alone as a moisturizer.

    Some people can use water as the moisture and then seal the water/moisture in with oil. But that doesn't work for everyone. Most people need more than just plain water for moisture.

    I don't use oils to moisturize, only seal. All other oils work awesome on my hair for scalp massages and such, but something about coconut oil dries my hair out, on both wet and dry hair. I think (my wild guess) it is because it helps hair reduce protein loss, and my hair isn't a fan of protein either.
    shea butter is my sealant of choice:hello1:
    LOIS (OS); cottony, TYPE 4 hair, fine/med strands; no cones bcz my hair hates them; last relaxer '98; now low porosity:?, ignores most natural hair rules; BC #8

    faves: suave, v05 shampoo, conditioner (my own), raw shea butter, castor oil, peanut oil, aloe juice
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
  • MixedUpCurlyChickMixedUpCurlyChick Posts: 2,568Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    ellepixie wrote: »
    Also, pay very close attention to how your hair reacts to ingredients. Many curlies swear by coconut oil...my hair isn't really a fan. Some people don't like shea, cones, protein, glycerin, etc etc...so just test a bunch of stuff out! It's how pjism is born.


    OMG! I though I was the only one. My hair thoroughly dislikes coconut oil. My cabinet is so full of products idk what to do! lol

    Is it organic and unrefined? If not, you could try some food grade CO. Co didn't do anything good for my hair until I tried organic, unrefined food grade CO. Now, I learned that my hair prefers hazelnut oil. But my hair wouldn't even absorb CO before!

    As for the products, bring em on down to the swap board and get something else!
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