Augh! So Many Issues!

mlolley92mlolley92 Registered Users Posts: 1
okay, well, not SO many, but it seems like it because it's so stressful...

1. hair loss.
i've always shed, but lately it's been getting worse and worse. every time i brush my hair, clumps come out with each brush stroke!! I'M GETTING WORRIED(which could be part of the problem...)!!! i've heard several different things from different people: it's my brush, my diet, stress, the sun, the seasons changing, the product, it's normal, etc etc etc etc... but the frustration is getting to be too much! i just want my hair to be manageable and NOT frizzy.

2. which to use?!?
i use Garnier Fructis's Sleek & Shine system, including the leave-in conditioner, no-frizz cream, and mousse. sometimes i use the simple Suave products, and i've tried Pantene... how long should i try a product before i decide it's right for me? and what should my decision be based on?

3. styling.
i'm tired of looking in the mirror with my hair looking the same as it has for years. i refuse to dye it, so that's not an option. my everyday look consists of 4 main styles: a pony-tail. a braid. a bun. and, sometimes, down... but i rarely wear it down because of FRIZZ(:evil2:).
i really think i use way too much product(mousse), and i'd love to know of another way for my hair to look good without looking and feeling sticky or hard as a rock. hairspray doesn't even work. unless i haven't found the right one...

i'm about ready to just pull it all out!! if it doesn't FALL out first!! Dx
i am totally clueless about what to do with my hair! :dontknow: ANY HELP IS GREATLY APPRECIATED!!

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  • generositytgenerosityt Registered Users Posts: 245
    First, sorry about everything that you're going through. Second, I think the most important thing right now is to figure out why your hair is falling. try changing things, like change your diet for a week, more diary products, take a calcium supplement, more water...etc. then try changing the products you use on your hair. Try to avoid the buns and pony tails for a week also. too much pulling definitely weakens your hair. Try different things one thing at a time to figure out what is causing your hair loss so you can avoid it next time. If all the things you try don't work you definitely need to see a specialist who can help you figure out what it going on.
    Second, products on hair don't feel sticky or product if you know what your hair wants and how it reacts to different products. Many people here use more than 3 styling products and their hair looks good. You can always scrunch out the gel when your hair dries. It's a matter of trial and error until you find what is right for you. Good luck with your hair journey.
    A Mediterranean 3b lady
    In love with my curls, love love love
    CG since Nov/07

    Co-Wash: VO5, Tresemme naturals, Fructis naturals
    Cond: Nature's Gate conditioners
    Stylers: Lotions made at home with coconut oil, honey, AVG, vegetable glycerin, OO, and EO.
    Gel: LA Looks sports gel for high humidity days.

    Hair goal: Waist length healthy curls
  • crimsonshedemoncrimsonshedemon Registered Users Posts: 2,098
    This is the health forum so it doesn't get the traffic that the general discussion board. Go over there and ask your #2 and 3 questions.
    Traction alopecia is gradual hair loss caused by pulling force applied to the hair. In other words, don't put up your hair in tight buns or ponytails. Your hair and scalp is fragile. What are you using to hold your buns or pony tails? Could it damage/break your hair?

    Have you considered going "curly girl"? It'll improve the health of your hair by not using harsh detergents (regular shampoo is detergent) or products that coat your hair. Visit the newbie forum and read the sticky posts at the top.

    Hair products- like genorosity said. it's trial and error. Once you know your hair type, porosity, density and texture, we can help guide towards products but in the end, it's all trial and error.
    The newbie forum will give you info about learning about your hair.

    What should you base your decision on? If the product works for you or not. What you want from those products.. are you wanting more defined curls, more clumbs, less frizz, etc.
    I'm a big advocate of the curly girl program.
    It can easily fix problems like frizz which is typically a lack of moisture in the hair.
    You probably need a better rinse out conditoner and leave in conditioner... of course this need changes thru out the year depending on the weather.
    Here's some info on hair loss

    Dr Oz's site has a lot of great info.

    Here's an article from Marie claire
    Female Hair Loss: Thinning Hair
    30 million American women are seeing scalp, and it's often a symptom of a serious illness.

    By Ning Chao

    Stylists always gushed, "Wow, you've got a lot of hair." I took my lush mane for granted, perming, straightening, and bleaching my way through my teens. But during my sophomore year of college, as I found myself pulling more and more tangles out of my brush and strands from the shower drain, the compliments stopped and the worry began. I jealously examined the girl next to me on the subway — why couldn't I see through to the roots on her scalp, too? Once a sheet of shiny darkness, my hair had taken on an alarmingly transparent quality. I spent hours every week staring at my scalp in the mirror, parting and reparting my hair to see which side looked fuller. I drenched my head with volumizing sprays, detoxifying tonics, and shampoos for "weakened hair." Remedies were thick on the ground — but my hair kept getting thinner. I was molting. And I was scared.

    Like a peacock's brilliant feathers, hair is a secondary sexual characteristic, explains London trichologist Dr. Philip Kingsley. "You don't need it to keep you either warm or cool, so its primary function is to increase attractiveness." We live in a culture of hair, coveting Victoria's Secret supermodels' voluptuous waves as much as their curves. So closely linked are sex appeal and self-esteem that a 2004 Rogaine survey of more than 500 women across the U.S. revealed that 24 percent equated losing their hair to losing a limb. Since 30 million women in America — roughly one in four — have thinning hair, there's a serious portion of the population at risk for an emotional crisis.

    When I brought up my hair issue at an annual physical, my doctor tested me for lupus. Fortunately, the tests came back negative. Then I was told that since I wasn't completely bald, I really didn't have a problem. So I began to wonder if it was all in my head. When my boyfriend ran his fingers through my hair, all I could think of was whether I was losing strands. Did this gross him out? Or more importantly, was a lot coming out? Needless to say, that relationship didn't last long, lacking trust and the basic belief that he could find me attractive in this condition. I didn't dare ask my friends for a second opinion, because I didn't want them to scrutinize my scalp. After another frustrating physical (with no answers), I consulted my dermatologist, Dr. Fredric Brandt. Instead of dismissing my concerns as mere vanity, he immediately wrote up requests for endocrine blood tests, which prompted my general practitioner to finally cave and grant me a specialist referral.

    There are many causes of shedding, from stress to chemotherapy, but 90 percent of hair loss is genetic and needs to be treated with medication. It can also be a sign of a thyroid disorder, says my endocrinologist, Dr. Emilia Liao, who diagnosed me with mild hypothyroidism. "It's a good thing you came in when you did," she told me on my first visit. "It gets more complicated — and possibly dangerous — the older you get, especially if you want to have a baby." Apparently, hair loss during pregnancy is a big red flag. "One out of 50 women is diagnosed with hypothyroidism while pregnant — it's still the most common cause of mental retardation in children," says Liao.

    The average age for women dealing with thinning hair is 25 to 35 — that it's just another "gift" of menopause is a myth. Also, we can't simply blame our mothers, as previously believed — if there's baldness anywhere in your family tree, you're at risk. Unlike male-pattern baldness, where patches of hair fall out over time, female hair loss means a reduction in hair volume, making transplantation extremely difficult. "The total number of hairs doesn't always decrease, but the diameter of each strand shrinks," says Kingsley. And too-thin hairs won't grow past a certain length — which explains the baby fuzz around my hairline.

    The key to successful regrowth? First, admit you have a problem. Each day you dwell in denial, you're losing precious time. The more hair you've lost, the less likely it is to all grow back. Telltale signs, like a wider part or a smaller ponytail, don't show up until you've lost nearly half your hair! Seek out trichologists and dermatologists or endocrinologists who specialize in hair problems. (A good place to start

    Last summer, I started visiting the Philip Kingsley hair clinic in New York City every week to strengthen the fragile wisps that were starting to sprout along my hairline as a result of my prescription treatments. There, I learned that physical as well as emotional stress can cause temporary thinning and make genetic hair loss worse. When 44-year-old fitness instructor Maria Santoro was hospitalized for a severe allergic reaction to her pneumonia medication, she lost 20 pounds in 10 days, and her chestnut waves started falling out in clumps. "People assumed I was anorexic," she says. "My body was in shock, and I felt really insecure because of my weight loss and thin hair. It was devastating."

    Hair loss has a direct impact on psyche and morale, says Kingsley, who coined the phrase "bad hair day" 40 years ago. I spoke to 34-year-old breast-cancer survivor Courtney Hagen, who revealed that when she heard her diagnosis, her first fears were for her golden locks. "I had a double mastectomy, but I was more traumatized about losing my hair," she admits.

    As for me, thanks to two years of regular treatment, I've finally reached the phase where regrowth is thicker every day. But the process has been arduous and pricey: Rogaine requires diligent use and $30 a month for the rest of my life. And some of my hormone-regulating prescriptions — like Avodart, which I credit most for my good results and which costs more than $200 a month — are not covered because if you take them while pregnant, they can harm the fetus's development. But I continue with my regimen because, for me, the risk is worth the remedy — I'm not planning on pregnancy for a long, long time anyway. I also figure it'll be a lot easier to find a potential father with my full head of hair.

    When it comes to hair, thin is never in. Thicken up with these hair helpers:

    1. Kérastase Nutrients Densitive Daily Anti-Hair Thinning, Anti-Hair Loss Dietary Supplement

    2. Nick Chavez Plump 'N Thick Leave-In Thickening Crème Conditioner

    3. Shu Uemura Fiber Lift Protective Volumizer

    4. Men's Rogaine Foam (many derms recommend it for women, too)

    5. L'Oréal Professionnel Age Densiforce Shampoo

    6. Philip Kingsley Scalp Tonic

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